Sabotage!

33Freya

I can look at an overweight woman, and make a choice. 1. I can tell her she’s fat, and add a barrage of terrible adjectives to go with it. OR 2. I can choose to tell her that she is lovely. I can focus on her great attributes, and encourage her to continue on her momentary, hourly, daily, and weekly successes toward her goals.

Most of us think it would be terrible to take the first approach with this woman in front of me. Many of us would call the discouragement cruel and mean, and just plain unnecessary. SO MANY of us do that to ourselves though!

It is easy to get addicted and habitually put ourselves down in our inner thoughts. That person in our mirror should be treated as the *dearest friend*, not berated. Yeah, perhaps you are unhappy with where you are at. Maybe your whole life is negative. Let’s twist that focus though. Instead of looking at the muck at the proverbial bottom of the well you’re in, look up at the light and figure out the first step to reaching it, and then start climbing. Tell yourself what you would tell a dear friend.

Spend that energy turning the negative to positive. Here’s how:

When you have a negative thought about yourself, for example, “I’m fat.” IMMEDIATELY correct yourself: “I am capable of getting healthy.” Give yourself credit and keep up your efforts to improve your life. Now take that negative self-talk off of your profile and write about yourself in a positive light.

:flowerforyou:

MysteriousMerlin

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This is why I joined. I want to change myself for the better, not just weight, but my attitude and mindset. I can choose to be negative about how I look and feel now, or I can choose to look at it as an opportunity for improvement. I'm a fantastic person, damnit. I just happen to weigh more now than I want.

octogirlpretty

This is so lovely, thank you for this...<3

oxlisaxo91

Bumping because this is seriously what I needed to hear today, thank you:flowerforyou:

33Freya

Glad I could help! ! :flowerforyou:

AccioFitness

I absolutely love this. Thank you!

getyourbeans

I have, for the last ten years or so, been utterly consumed with my weight and/or appearance. I've recently decided that while I continue to want to strive for health (which includes fat loss) I no longer want to base my self worth on a number on the scale.

Rather than thinking "I am fat" I am trying to think "I HAVE fat, which I am working on reducing". There are lots of areas of my life I seek to constantly improve on and quite happily - they all have positive connotations, so I'm trying to apply the same to weight loss.

I hit my 29th birthday and just thought, I'm too old for this crap. Self loathing is a drag :-)

33Freya

Well happy birthday, and cheers to you on a better and better future!!

7sky

I truly needed that. Thanks! :flowerforyou:

TheGymGypsy

Trying and doing are two completely different animals, unfortunately.

anonniemouse

Rather than thinking "I am fat" I am trying to think "I HAVE fat, which I am working on reducing".

I love it. I'll have to remember this!