What does your family say when you lose weight?
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"Are you still doing that thing?"
Since, as we all know, fitness is something you should just "do" for a couple of months and then stop. :explode:0 -
My mother was happy for me and my grandmother and my husband ,my husband lol is actually the goal weight you have and he is 5ft 11in also , he wants to gain muscle though , he has always been slender, workaholic always busy ...
My friends they noticed eventually , I have lost about 30 lbs since jan 1st , I was told the only reason no one notice earlier is because they felt in their own eyes I was so tiny , how sweet they are, I am 4ft 10 in started at 150 tiny no...not after 2 pregnancies 19 months apart almost to the day .
I'm here now at 120 and loving it almost to my size I was at this weight before my children
I feel like a whole new person , Im not at my goal weight but I hope to be by Feb 9th my 30th birthday , I told myself if I get to my goal I can finally get the tattoo I want 0 -
Just curious as to what some of your family members say
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They all seem to want to know the #'s How much did you lose? How much do you weigh? I never tell and just say I don't know.
EXACTLY ME!!0 -
My grandma says I am getting "so skinny" and not to lose too much, or that I don't need to lose any more. (I'm about ten pounds from goal).
My mom doesn't say much, although once she hugged me and said "there's so much less of you to hug now!" That was pretty good to hear because my mom isn't exactly one to dole out the compliments. I overheard her refer to me as gorgeous to a friend of hers though and that made me feel pretty awesome - I'm not sure why she never says those things to my face!
No one else in my family says anything unless I bring it up.
Some friends have been proud of me and complimented me and others (who are larger) don't say anything even though the difference is very noticeable.
Coworkers have been the most vocal and complimentary oddly enough - it feels weird to have them noticing/commenting on my body that much!
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My sister says she hates me, every time she sees me now and then proceeds to attack me with what my pant size is and what I'm at in lifting, all with a look of disgust. I actually just got a lecture from my dad about how I'm at what he is calling my "ideal weight" and I need to stop.
My husband hasn't said a peep. Smart man.0 -
My Mum has stopped telling me how fat and bloated I am. Now she just tells me that she doesn't like my hair-cut. I can live with that. She always has to have something to moan about.
My wife is right beside me here on MFP. She's currently doing a P90X/Insanity/T25 Hybrid thing. Lifting heavy and eating clean.my parents are pretty supportive but still poke fun at it lol "all bones!!!" etc
the rest of my family are is extremely rude about it honestly, they'll see me eating and say wow that's all? do you even eat? you should eat more etc. they don't even say it with concern, they say it to purposefully annoy me and receive a reaction.
Standard response to this should be "...but....but...I don't understand....if I did that, I would end up looking like you guys!" >insert dramatic shudder here<0 -
My family is mostly supportive and complimentary. The most annoying comment is "You're so lucky that you can lose weight. I just can't seem to lose any!" Most people in my family are morbidly obese.0
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When I was at my heaviest, the only person that really said anything about it was my mother. She has always been very blunt and tended to say things like, "no one is going to hire you! You're so big that they're going to be afraid that you're going to keel over from a heart attack and die!" However, because she's so honest, she's also the only one who has said anything about my finally losing weight. She recently told me that she really sees a difference and she's proud of me for going to the gym. That's been a nice change for sure.0
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I've been at my goal weight for a couple years now. But my fitness as well as health goals are always changing. I am constantly eating healthier which to me means no processed food, making everything myself, lots of food prep, and a pretty high protein intake (I know its different for everyone). I also started lifting heavy (for me) over a year ago and HIIT (workouts are constantly changing as I get stronger and faster). Its always the same thing. You are already thin so why are you still eating that way and working out so much? Its hard to explain my fitness goals to friends, co workers, family. Plus, I always get questioned like I am doing something extreme or possible wrong with what I eat (I do tons of research and know what works for my body and makes me feel good) So, its frustrating to be questioned by someone I know eats fast food every day about why I do what I do. What helped me is making new like minded friends especially at the gym.Its not about being thin. To me its about being healthy and happy. This lifestyle makes me happy!
You bring up an awesome point. Even though you've been at your goal weight for a couple years, you are still continuing to challenge yourself and keep things fresh with your workout routines and diet. I think that is really the key to staying on track and not faltering and going back to the old bad habits again. This is always the point where I fail. I can lose weight no problem, stay motivated for 6 months or more, but then once I achieve my goal, I get bored and move on to something else and in slips the bad habits again slowly over time until I'm fat and blimped out again.
I'm going to take the same approach as you once I get to my goal weight. I want to first lose the fat, then add some muscle, and see how strong I can get. I think if I always have a goal to aim for, it'll keep things fresh and challenging and I'll be more prone to stay in shape once I get there.
I know what you're saying as well about others giving you advice. I hear ladies at work talking about calories or new diets or pills to take to lose weight and yet they always look the same, never any thinner or healthier looking. Then I get people that make fun of my lunches, oh another sandwich with fruit, nuts, and a yogurt. Well it's working, what are you doing? Haha! I guess in the end you just have to take charge of your own fitness and do what works best for you and leave the criticisms (if negative and not constructive) for the others.0 -
"Are you still doing that thing?"
Since, as we all know, fitness is something you should just "do" for a couple of months and then stop. :explode:
Exactly! I get that one a lot as well.0 -
My mom said I need to stop loosing weight my grandma said I'm so skinny my dad thinks I'm eating healthy .. My friend also told me to stop loosing weight.0
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My mother was happy for me and my grandmother and my husband ,my husband lol is actually the goal weight you have and he is 5ft 11in also , he wants to gain muscle though , he has always been slender, workaholic always busy ...
My friends they noticed eventually , I have lost about 30 lbs since jan 1st , I was told the only reason no one notice earlier is because they felt in their own eyes I was so tiny , how sweet they are, I am 4ft 10 in started at 150 tiny no...not after 2 pregnancies 19 months apart almost to the day .
I'm here now at 120 and loving it almost to my size I was at this weight before my children I feel like a whole new person , Im not at my goal weight but I hope to be by Feb 9th my 30th birthday , I told myself if I get to my goal I can finally get the tattoo I want
Awesome progress! Yeah I tend to get too fat if I don't watch myself and exercise since I have a desk job. I'm no Arnold but I have some muscle mass and I think if I lose the fat it'll be more visible, then I can just add a little more over time and see how I look from there.
It sounds like you've made some awesome progress, congrats!0 -
When I was at my heaviest, the only person that really said anything about it was my mother. She has always been very blunt and tended to say things like, "no one is going to hire you! You're so big that they're going to be afraid that you're going to keel over from a heart attack and die!" However, because she's so honest, she's also the only one who has said anything about my finally losing weight. She recently told me that she really sees a difference and she's proud of me for going to the gym. That's been a nice change for sure.
Sounds like a great mom. She told you like it was and it hit home for you and you took charge and made some changes. That's awesome!0 -
My Mum told me that I was going to die of cancer :P
My Dad told me the other day I look much healthier C: he has learnt a little about my diet, and looks at the carb count on the nutrition information now C:0 -
Mum: 'there's cheesecake for dessert
Me: 'no thanks mum, I'm trying to loose weight'
Mum: 'one little slice wont hurt, its a treat'
Me: 'honestly no thank you, I shouldn't'
Mum: Do you want some Ice-cream then?
Me: 'Bloody hell mum, I said no and I'm trying to loose weight, stop asking me if I want dessert!
Mum: 'Oh sorry, don't get arsy with me Clair, I'm only trying to be nice.
Me: What flavour Cheesecake?
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Before I started really trying to loose weight and just sat around and wined about my size, I asked my grandmother who raised me if I was really that big and she said "well your not skinny." Every time I tell her how much weight I lost she says "Where'd you lose that at between your toes?" Mind you she used to be 50 lbs heavier than I am now and is still 20 lbs heavier than me, you think she would be a little more sensitive to hurting my feelings. She is constantly commenting on my weight and tries to give me old clothes that she has outgrow that are 4 sizes too big for me, when I say that they are too big, She says "you look like they will fit you." I used to be tiny. I used to be a size 4 and 120 lbs after having my first child. I gained 10 to 20 lbs after every child that I have not been able to loose. 3 more kids later and I am tired of being round. I want to be my skinny self. I look in the mirror and don't even feel like I am the same person I was 5 yrs ago. I want to be that girl again. And obviously my family doesn't like my weight gain any more than I do. I quit talking to my family about my weight because it hurts me the comments they make. I feel like a beautiful woman trapped in a round body.
I was where you are. I was also skinny before I had 4 kids. It's tough! but as long as you don't give up you will achieve your goal.
Having 4 kids and maintaining a healthy weight is hard, I know it from experience but through time, I also learned to be patient.
It will come as long as I'm honest to myself. Oh, it's just for today, Ill be better tomorrow. The next thing I know, tomorrow is here and I'm still round. Now I get it, self honesty and patience is the only way out. Mentally forcing myself to do what is right on a daily basis was difficult. Now that I have learned to be patient, my body response. Good luck to you, you can do it!.0 -
My family are always supportive, and they always recognize my progress. I usually see them every 2 weeks, so I guess it's just long enough for them to notice it each time I come over!0
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Although my family loves me anyway I am, they are all super supportive. They will often tweak recipes for me, or make me small treats I can freeze and have at a later date. I'm a happy girl
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Mum: 'there's cheesecake for dessert
Me: 'no thanks mum, I'm trying to loose weight'
Mum: 'one little slice wont hurt, its a treat'
Me: 'honestly no thank you, I shouldn't'
Mum: Do you want some Ice-cream then?
Me: 'Bloody hell mum, I said no and I'm trying to loose weight, stop asking me if I want dessert!
Mum: 'Oh sorry, don't get arsy with me Clair, I'm only trying to be nice.
Me: What flavour Cheesecake?
Sounds like my mom. Do you want some Reeses Cups? No mom. I got you some of your favorite Doritios at the store since they were on sale! Ok thanks mom. I also got you your favorite candy too, you're losing too much weight, you dont want to look sick! Haha!0 -
My brother is supportive (and genuinely happy for any weight loss I have). When I visit he always serves a health, balanced and fairly low calorie meal.
My mum says supportive things, but the last three times I've visited (I live about 5 hours away) has served Chinese take away, Indian take away and lastly, honey and brown sugar glazed roasted gammon with potato dauphinoise (sliced potatoes cooked in cream and topped with a LOT of cheese) and buttered carrots with trifle for desert.
She also asks how my diet is going, but quickly changes the subject when the answer is 'great, I've lost a few more pounds, thanks'. I call her my 'supportive' saboteur.0 -
Pretty much everyone around me was super supportive. I love my family and friends :smooched:
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If I tell my dad I've lost some weight he says "Look behind you" One time I told him I was planning on looseing 50 pounds and he asked if I was sure that was enough.
My mom will comment on me losing but I am mortified because she also tells me how much fatter I am than she is. I don't ever want to bring it up anymore as I usually gain back any amount I lose anyway. They make me hate myself.
My husband and kids are like gold. Nothing but supportive.0 -
My dad and step mom saw me for the first time after I lost 50 pounds and my dad was concerned that I was losing too much. Mind you I still had another 20 pounds to go but he hadn't seen me this thin since I was 17 so he was concerned. It was very sweet and I told him that I was fine, being monitored by my doctor and that I felt great and was so happy. So my parents bought me a new wardrobe and my husband one as well since we were both losing weight.
Everyone is supported and I never heard a bad thing. I'm blessed0 -
If I tell my dad I've lost some weight he says "Look behind you" One time I told him I was planning on looseing 50 pounds and he asked if I was sure that was enough.
My mom will comment on me losing but I am mortified because she also tells me how much fatter I am than she is. I don't ever want to bring it up anymore as I usually gain back any amount I lose anyway. They make me hate myself.
My husband and kids are like gold. Nothing but supportive.
So sorry to hear that! That's a passive agressive behaivor and its destructive to your goals and well being. My mother used to be that way until I told her exactly how she was treating me and that I didn't like it and it showed her insecurity in herself that she had to give me a compliment only to take it away and I wasn't going to take it anymore. So since then whenever she would start having that attitude I'd tell her what she was doing and that I was going to walk away now or hang up the phone.
Now we have a great relationship and she realized what she was doing.0 -
I didn't mention to my family that I was trying to lose weight initially. After 4 months and 19lbs lost my mum and dad both commented on the fact I looked like I had lost weight a few days ago. It was a bit of a boost; although it took them long enough to notice!0
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My family has been very supportive throughout the whole process. They knew me before I gained the weight, so there is a ninternal picture of the range. They gave me a heads up when I lost too much and the pictures confirmed it, reinforcing the trust I have in their eye.0
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If I tell my dad I've lost some weight he says "Look behind you" One time I told him I was planning on looseing 50 pounds and he asked if I was sure that was enough.
My mom will comment on me losing but I am mortified because she also tells me how much fatter I am than she is. I don't ever want to bring it up anymore as I usually gain back any amount I lose anyway. They make me hate myself.
My husband and kids are like gold. Nothing but supportive.
Sorry to hear that! Your ticker says 41 pounds - that's phenomenal! What a fantastic job!0 -
My mom keeps asking me when I will stop losing weight. I told her that I haven't hit my goal yet. Kind of funny though, I gave my dad a pair of my pants (men's jeans that I had gotten from a friend) that were now too big. Well, the jeans never really DID fit me right as I definitely have hips and a waist - I'm not built like a guy. Anyhow - they fit my dad just right! I think they were a size 40/30 (if that means waist/inseam).
My in-laws just tell me they are proud of me. The hubs also says that I'm doing an amazing job. When we eat out, he understands that I prefer to eat at restaurants where I can "eat clean". Well, at least know what it is that I am ordering and that I can things made the way I want them.
We went to my niece's high school graduation reception. The only person, other than my parents, who said anything to me was my brother's ex-wife's third husband. (He's a super nice guy.)
I think that since I really haven't seen a lot of family members "in person" for awhile, no one really knows what a change I've made. I did see a couple of aunts last Mother's Day. They both kind of said "So, are you losing weight?" They were nice about it as they all know the struggles of keeping weight off. This Christmas Eve will be the first time that I'll be around some of my cousins and their families, so it should be kind of fun to see their reactions. We're friends on Facebook, but I don't talk about my weight loss there and I don't think I have any full body photos.0
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