what lessons has fitness/obesity/fat loss taught you in life

fitbulky

were you ridiculed....how do they perceive you now...how do you perceive them..have you changed as a person/perceptions after embarking on this journey.

join in everyone...especially who lost tonnes of weight

msf74

1. Be careful what you wish for because it just might come true : slimming down didn't solve my problems it just presented new challenges I had to deal with. I still had to do the work mentally.
2. The world treats you better when you are slimmer: that can make you cynical or a realist
3. Someone's worth is never determined by what they look like
4. Empathy is a beautiful thing
5. Patience is a learned skill
7. If you have a clear and specific plan you are more likely to succeed
8. There is no substitute for hard, focused work
9. If you can learn to control your emotions you are far more likely to succeed
10. You can never stop putting your health first - life is so very short

leadiax3

Msf74: i cannot top ur answer. It was so well said! One of the things i learned from working out daily is that can do things i never thought possible. It takes time and effort, but i can improve.

MyJourney1960

Msf74: so true, every word.

I still have a ways to go, but can related to everything you write. Especially the number 1 - i think that was what always caused me to re-gain the weight in the past. the fact that i thought "when i lose the weight, my life will be perfect" but when it wasn't perfect i figured "oh what the hey, might as well be fat and eat what i want".

TamTastic

I have had a wake-up call for sure these past few years. I can't say my opinion of mankind has been raised much. I have been treated differently since losing weight. I know there is a stigma against weight..but before doors were left to slam into my face and are now held open. Men will run over with a smile to help me carry something into work or at least get the door for me.. And while I am very appreciative and these gestures are very nice...they didn't happen when I looked a certain way and that makes me sad, you know?

And I realize that those thin people I used to ridicule for worrying about their weight......have just as much right to need reassurance as anyone else. Having been very overweight and also thin, active and healthy....there is no magic cure for feeling like crap some days. That was a huge eye opener. You strive to get to this place you think exists when you're big....but you will still have "fat" days and still feel bloated and still just feel like crap no matter what.

And I got pretty thin there for a bit (a little too skinny for my taste) and had people complaining I was too thin. NO matter what you do, someone will say something. So just do it for YOU always and let everyone else worry about themselves. Find a happy weight.

grammagie

I have a very long ways to go, but I know since starting this journey a few months ago, that it isn't easy. Nothing comes without hard work. When I was younger I used to think people had it so easy (those who were slim) and yes,, some are naturally thin, but I think the healthy people, and the ones that are thinner have more confidence, are healthier, happier. I want to be like them. However, they probably didn't get that way without a lot of hard work, and consistency.

VanillaBeanSeed

I was teased as a kid, and stuggled my whole life with being over weight. I remember crying about how I hated being fat.

Now that I have lost 120 I feel better about myself. I have more confidence.

I still have the same friends Ive had since I was 6! They still love me no matter what!

I do get more attention from some males, but I have a boyfriend whos been with me from 267lbs to 150 lbs!

I still struggle with my relationship with food. I still stuggle with ridicule (ppl think ive lost too much, or dont eat enough) and I definately have a soft spot for people who are over weight! But All body types are beautiful, no matter what shape or size.

Some things stay the same and some change..

Just like anything else.

Gkfrkv

The most important lesson I learned, and I kind of knew it already, is that my mother is a judgmental witch who was more interested in controlling me and keeping me down then to say anything positive.

TL;DR
Some people keep you down, and the best you can do is move away from them.

kaydeedoubleu1

just because someone might be naturally thin, or have a good body, doesn't make them better than you, or them any happier than you, or them have their crap together more than you.
When i was bigger i truly believed these thin, fit, beautiful people didn't have problems, their life was perfect and easy. Now i know that what someone looks like doesn't define their life or who they are. No matter what size you are, or what clothes you wear, we are all actors, pretending to look like we have our **** together when inside, we all have insecurities, worries, quirks, insanity etc.
Learning this makes me less judgemental, more empathetic and makes me compare myself less to others, and boy, that is the best thing of all.

ThePinkPenguin

I still have a ways to go in my weight loss, but so far I've learned that I still need to work on self-acceptance and being proud of my progress. Some days I still look at myself in the mirror and think how I don't think I'm all that pretty yet. My family will tell me I look slimmer, but I can't see it in the mirror. I still see the same person rather than embracing what I am now.

I also still need to stop comparing myself to others who are trying to lose, like my cousin's girlfriend who has dropped 30 pounds in six months and people in my family who run 5Ks. I just don't like to run (I did try), and sometimes I don't feel as strong or as fit as my family members who race. But at the same time, I'm enjoying what I do to lose (Zumba, TurboFire, other dance stuff and planning to add BodyPump) and I've learned that there is no one-size-fits-all way to lose weight.

I've also learned that losing weight doesn't mean always depriving yourself. I admit I could stand to make some better choices, but at the same time, there is no horror from having two cookies or a cupcake if it fits in your calories and you don't do anything bad like eat them seven days a week or overload. I've lost a little more than 20 pounds by not cutting anything out entirely, but making small choices like having less soda per day or getting a 6" sub at Subway instead of a footlong.