Need help with weight!! Please respond

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  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    Thanks for all of your helps and posts,

    So If I understand this right and let me know if I am wrong.. If I eat 2,000 calories a day and walk 35-40mins each day 5 days a week I will still lose 1-2pounds a week???? I still just don't see it or understand. as again, I am only burning 340 from workouts and if I eat 2,000 then its more than I am burning!??????RIght??

    Thanks again I will keep up on it.

    You're confusing things with thinking you only burn calories when you exercise.

    You burn calories just by being alive. That's your BMR.

    The 340 burned from your workouts is added to your BMR, along with everything you do during the day (washing up, cooking, walking to the loo, etc.). That's your TDEE (Total Daily Energy Expended).

    I don't want to add more until you understand that exercise calories don't equal the calories your body burns in a day.
  • Inshape13
    Inshape13 Posts: 680 Member
    Going by the TDEE calculator in 2 different methods on the IIFYM site it puts you at 3829 and 3817 respectively. Your RMR averaged by 5 methods is 3175. This is the definition:

    What Are Basal & Resting Metabolic Rates (RMR)?

    These two terms are used interchangeably, although they are not technically the same. Resting metabolic rate is really what most lay people mean when they say basal metabolic rate, and I talk here only about resting metabolic rate (RMR). Basal metabolic rate is a precise calculation with a precise definition; RMR is close enough for practical purposes.

    I ran it through the calculator with 30 minutes of activity(walking) which is included in the TDEE calculation.

    Here is a link to the weight loss tool that I used to calculate how many calories to eat to both lose and/or maintain. TDEE-20% is a good place to start.

    http://iifym.com/iifym-calculator/

    Hope this helps and I am definitely no expert at this, but I have worked a lot with my trainers to get fit and I can relate to the confusion with the numbers in the beginning. Best of luck to you!
  • If you try to cut to much to soon you will make yourself ill. Due to your current weight your body will need a certain amount to function.

    I go to yhe gym and the guys say that any thing less ygan 1500 net may put you into starvation mode and you can become ill. I know I find it hard to take in and want to eat 1200 as thats what I thimk I should. Dont get me wrong my goal is 1290 but I exercise to get more.


    Hope this helps x

    Ignore this. You will not go into starvation mode by netting less than 1500.

    OP, it sounds to me like you are doing a great job so far. You have quite a ways to go, so starting off 1200 should be fine. After awhile though, you will want to adjust it up to slow down your weight loss in order to preserve as much muscle as you can. Use the MFP settings and enter in a 2 lb weight loss per week (the maximum that is considered safe). At this point I wouldn't worry about trying to eat back your exercise calories. As you get closer to your goal, you can start fine tuning. Don't forget to regularly weigh yourself and log it, so MFP can do the necessary recalculations.

    Good luck!

    ^^ This. I know everyone means well by jumping in with the TDEE equations, but let the poor man establish himself with MFP first.

    OP, when you set up your account, you told it that you wanted to lose X amount of pounds per week right? MFP is set up that you can lose weight by eating the recommended calories only. If you set it up that you want to lose 2 pounds per week, eat the amount that it gives you (not less!!). You WILL lose weight.

    Keep up with the walking, but don't think of walking to lose weight, think of walking to become healthy.

    It's not all that complicated, as long as you don't make it complicated. You can do this!! Eat the amount that MFP gives you for 4 weeks and see how much you are down. If it's very little, then change things up, but I suspect with just the change in behavior (giving up soda, counting calories), you'll lose quite a bit in the beginning.

    Be sure to weigh and measure everything to be accurate! You got this!

    Good luck!!!

    Thanks I got it So If you don't mind me asking you said give it 4 weeks and if no chage up it does that mean up the calories intake or lower them?

    Thanks chris
  • SugafreeNsweet
    SugafreeNsweet Posts: 21 Member
    Personally, I think when someone has to lose a large amount of weight they should be assisted by their doctor first (assuming you haven't already contacted your dr). Most of the time there could health concerns that need to be taken under consideration....Maybe you should start there or get a nutritionist to help or personal trainer involved just to get started with mapping out a diet and fitness plan

    Good Luck!!!
  • southerndream24
    southerndream24 Posts: 303 Member
    Personally, I think when someone has to lose a large amount of weight they should be assisted by their doctor first (assuming you haven't already contacted your dr). Most of the time there could health concerns that need to be taken under consideration....Maybe you should start there or get a nutritionist to help or personal trainer involved just to get started with mapping out a diet and fitness plan

    Good Luck!!!

    Totally agree with this statement. If not your doctor, seek out the help of a registered dietician. They'd give you much better advice than the rest of us can. Good luck on your journey!
  • QuietBloom
    QuietBloom Posts: 5,413 Member
    If you try to cut to much to soon you will make yourself ill. Due to your current weight your body will need a certain amount to function.

    I go to yhe gym and the guys say that any thing less ygan 1500 net may put you into starvation mode and you can become ill. I know I find it hard to take in and want to eat 1200 as thats what I thimk I should. Dont get me wrong my goal is 1290 but I exercise to get more.


    Hope this helps x

    Ignore this. You will not go into starvation mode by netting less than 1500.

    OP, it sounds to me like you are doing a great job so far. You have quite a ways to go, so starting off 1200 should be fine. After awhile though, you will want to adjust it up to slow down your weight loss in order to preserve as much muscle as you can. Use the MFP settings and enter in a 2 lb weight loss per week (the maximum that is considered safe). At this point I wouldn't worry about trying to eat back your exercise calories. As you get closer to your goal, you can start fine tuning. Don't forget to regularly weigh yourself and log it, so MFP can do the necessary recalculations.

    Good luck!

    ^^ This. I know everyone means well by jumping in with the TDEE equations, but let the poor man establish himself with MFP first.

    OP, when you set up your account, you told it that you wanted to lose X amount of pounds per week right? MFP is set up that you can lose weight by eating the recommended calories only. If you set it up that you want to lose 2 pounds per week, eat the amount that it gives you (not less!!). You WILL lose weight.

    Keep up with the walking, but don't think of walking to lose weight, think of walking to become healthy.

    It's not all that complicated, as long as you don't make it complicated. You can do this!! Eat the amount that MFP gives you for 4 weeks and see how much you are down. If it's very little, then change things up, but I suspect with just the change in behavior (giving up soda, counting calories), you'll lose quite a bit in the beginning.

    Be sure to weigh and measure everything to be accurate! You got this!

    Good luck!!!

    Thanks I got it So If you don't mind me asking you said give it 4 weeks and if no chage up it does that mean up the calories intake or lower them?

    Thanks chris

    There are several things that you can do if you are not seeing the expected results after 4 weeks.

    1. Evaluate how accurately you are logging your food (are you weighing it, using measuring cups, forgetting to add the odd almond here or there).
    2. You can try lowering the amount MFP is suggesting you eat by ~ 100 to 200 calories a day.
    3. Make sure you are tracking your weight every day at the same time (or once a week if you like) but do it first thing in the morning, nekkid. MFP needs to know your weight so it can update its suggested calorie goals.
    4. You might want to try increasing your protein, as MFP is notorious for setting it on the low side. To do that, you will have to go with the 'custom' option when you go in to change your goals.

    I'm sure there are other things you can do that I am not thinking of off the top of my head. Surely someone else will be able to chime in as well.

    :flowerforyou:

    Edited because my grammar sucks!
  • QuietBloom
    QuietBloom Posts: 5,413 Member
    Personally, I think when someone has to lose a large amount of weight they should be assisted by their doctor first (assuming you haven't already contacted your dr). Most of the time there could health concerns that need to be taken under consideration....Maybe you should start there or get a nutritionist to help or personal trainer involved just to get started with mapping out a diet and fitness plan

    Good Luck!!!

    Totally agree with this statement. If not your doctor, seek out the help of a registered dietician. They'd give you much better advice than the rest of us can. Good luck on your journey!

    I also agree this is good advice. We can't possibly know what if any health concerns you have that should be taken into consideration.
  • gsager
    gsager Posts: 977 Member
    Put your info into MFP and eat the number of calories that they give you plus the number that you burn exercising. The person that set this site up was very smart and doesn't need us to fix it or think about it. If you do just what it says you will lose weight.
  • mumblemagic
    mumblemagic Posts: 1,090 Member
    If you try to cut to much to soon you will make yourself ill. Due to your current weight your body will need a certain amount to function.

    I go to yhe gym and the guys say that any thing less ygan 1500 net may put you into starvation mode and you can become ill. I know I find it hard to take in and want to eat 1200 as thats what I thimk I should. Dont get me wrong my goal is 1290 but I exercise to get more.


    Hope this helps x

    Ignore this. You will not go into starvation mode by netting less than 1500.

    OP, it sounds to me like you are doing a great job so far. You have quite a ways to go, so starting off 1200 should be fine. After awhile though, you will want to adjust it up to slow down your weight loss in order to preserve as much muscle as you can. Use the MFP settings and enter in a 2 lb weight loss per week (the maximum that is considered safe). At this point I wouldn't worry about trying to eat back your exercise calories. As you get closer to your goal, you can start fine tuning. Don't forget to regularly weigh yourself and log it, so MFP can do the necessary recalculations.

    Good luck!

    ^^ This. I know everyone means well by jumping in with the TDEE equations, but let the poor man establish himself with MFP first.

    OP, when you set up your account, you told it that you wanted to lose X amount of pounds per week right? MFP is set up that you can lose weight by eating the recommended calories only. If you set it up that you want to lose 2 pounds per week, eat the amount that it gives you (not less!!). You WILL lose weight.

    Keep up with the walking, but don't think of walking to lose weight, think of walking to become healthy.

    It's not all that complicated, as long as you don't make it complicated. You can do this!! Eat the amount that MFP gives you for 4 weeks and see how much you are down. If it's very little, then change things up, but I suspect with just the change in behavior (giving up soda, counting calories), you'll lose quite a bit in the beginning.

    Be sure to weigh and measure everything to be accurate! You got this!

    Good luck!!!

    Thanks I got it So If you don't mind me asking you said give it 4 weeks and if no chage up it does that mean up the calories intake or lower them?

    Thanks chris

    There are several things that you can do if you are not seeing the expected results after 4 weeks.

    1. Evaluate how accurately you are logging your food (are you weighing it, using measuring cups, forgetting to add the odd almond here or there).
    2. You can try lowering the amount MFP is suggesting you eat by ~ 100 to 200 calories a day.
    3. Make sure you are tracking your weight every day at the same time (or once a week if you like) but do it first thing in the morning, nekkid. MFP needs to know your weight so it can update its suggested calorie goals.
    4. You might want to try increasing your protein, as MFP is notorious for setting it on the low side. To do that, you will have to go with the 'custom' option when you go in to change your goals.

    I'm sure there are other things you can do that I am not thinking of off the top of my head. Surely someone else will be able to chime in as well.

    :flowerforyou:

    Edited because my grammar sucks!

    Your grammar is fine.... speaking as a grammar pedant :smile:

    OP: I think this is very good advice
  • OK, So, I am going to put this all out on the table this morning, I cant afford a Doctor or dietain vist as I do not have insurance, and I have always been told to lose weight you have to do it on your own.

    OK, so I did what a lot of you said yesterday and I eat 2,000 calories so I feel guilty as I weighted 346.2 before yesterday, by eating 2,000 calories it put me in the red on my sodium and in the red on suger sodium was 2,700 over my daily intake and my suger was 89 over my daily intake. and I am now 346.9 so I have gained .07 pounds by eating that much!

    Now I thanks you all for your posts.and a few of you have said not to look at the carbs, sodium, or suger right now.

    But I have got a few PM that said I am set to fail as I am eating too many carbs, and sodium and suger, and I should not eat grapes for snack as it is high in carbs.

    so I am once again confuessed as to what to eat as a snack???????: I have giving up just about everything I gave up sodas, sweet tea and fried foods, I no long go to buger king, or bojangles in the moring and order 2 steak egg & cheese biscuits anymore. I no long eat French fries, or tater tots. ect.

    I no long eat Big Mac's or whoppers I have stared eating grilled Chicken , greenbeans, Whole corn, and oatmeal.

    So as I have been told in 8 PM emails As I am doing now by cutting calories, and walking and eating what I am I will not lose any weight!!

    so I feel like giving up as I feel I am failing

    Please let me know what to do! Or that I will not fail.
  • Bberl
    Bberl Posts: 32
    Yes, you are on the right path. You need to continue with your new food choices, think about eliminating wheat, rye and barley from your diet too. If you need to understand why, please go to your Library and borrow, "Wheat Belly", and "Grain Brain". It will help
    you to understand the science of losing weight and what are the best foods to eat.
    I am reading the latter book now so I have more to learn.
    The weight will melt away by giving up gluten, and feeding your brain the right fats will change you forever. I hope this
    nugget helps you along. Give it a go, you will be glad you did!
  • jasonpclement
    jasonpclement Posts: 146 Member
    You've cut your cals way too low!!!! At least eat 2500 cals. You are still in a pretty big deficit with that. 1200 calories is not going to be sustainable or healthy in anyway.

    For someone in your position, I almost don't even reccomend counting calories. Just eat only whole food sources. Veggies, eggs, meat, a bit of fruit, and maybe a server of rice or potatoes a day. No packaged stuff, sauces, etc... Keep it wholesome and eat to satisfaction.

    I guarantee you will naturally reduce your calories eating this way. When you've been doing this for 4-6 months, maybe even close to a year, and you still want to lose more, then maybe start evaulating calories.
  • erickirb
    erickirb Posts: 12,294 Member
    OK, So, I am going to put this all out on the table this morning, I cant afford a Doctor or dietain vist as I do not have insurance, and I have always been told to lose weight you have to do it on your own.

    OK, so I did what a lot of you said yesterday and I eat 2,000 calories so I feel guilty as I weighted 346.2 before yesterday, by eating 2,000 calories it put me in the red on my sodium and in the red on suger sodium was 2,700 over my daily intake and my suger was 89 over my daily intake. and I am now 346.9 so I have gained .07 pounds by eating that much!

    Now I thanks you all for your posts.and a few of you have said not to look at the carbs, sodium, or suger right now.

    But I have got a few PM that said I am set to fail as I am eating too many carbs, and sodium and suger, and I should not eat grapes for snack as it is high in carbs.

    so I am once again confuessed as to what to eat as a snack???????: I have giving up just about everything I gave up sodas, sweet tea and fried foods, I no long go to buger king, or bojangles in the moring and order 2 steak egg & cheese biscuits anymore. I no long eat French fries, or tater tots. ect.

    I no long eat Big Mac's or whoppers I have stared eating grilled Chicken , greenbeans, Whole corn, and oatmeal.

    So as I have been told in 8 PM emails As I am doing now by cutting calories, and walking and eating what I am I will not lose any weight!!

    so I feel like giving up as I feel I am failing

    Please let me know what to do! Or that I will not fail.

    Your weight may fluctuate daily by 3-4lbs, so 0.7 is no surprise. One reason you should only weigh in once a week or less. That and sodium can cause you to retain water.

    Are you using a kitchen scale to weigh solid foods and measuring cups for liquids? If not you are probably eating much more than you think you are.

    As for snacks, carbs are fine, as long as you are getting in your minimum fat and protein requirements. To lower your sodium, which is out of this world you may want to eat less processed, frozen, and canned food. they are packed with sodium.
  • OK, So, I am going to put this all out on the table this morning, I cant afford a Doctor or dietain vist as I do not have insurance, and I have always been told to lose weight you have to do it on your own.

    OK, so I did what a lot of you said yesterday and I eat 2,000 calories so I feel guilty as I weighted 346.2 before yesterday, by eating 2,000 calories it put me in the red on my sodium and in the red on suger sodium was 2,700 over my daily intake and my suger was 89 over my daily intake. and I am now 346.9 so I have gained .07 pounds by eating that much!

    Now I thanks you all for your posts.and a few of you have said not to look at the carbs, sodium, or suger right now.

    But I have got a few PM that said I am set to fail as I am eating too many carbs, and sodium and suger, and I should not eat grapes for snack as it is high in carbs.

    so I am once again confuessed as to what to eat as a snack???????: I have giving up just about everything I gave up sodas, sweet tea and fried foods, I no long go to buger king, or bojangles in the moring and order 2 steak egg & cheese biscuits anymore. I no long eat French fries, or tater tots. ect.

    I no long eat Big Mac's or whoppers I have stared eating grilled Chicken , greenbeans, Whole corn, and oatmeal.

    So as I have been told in 8 PM emails As I am doing now by cutting calories, and walking and eating what I am I will not lose any weight!!

    so I feel like giving up as I feel I am failing

    Please let me know what to do! Or that I will not fail.

    Your weight may fluctuate daily by 3-4lbs, so 0.7 is no surprise. One reason you should only weigh in once a week or less. That and sodium can cause you to retain water.

    Are you using a kitchen scale to weigh solid foods and measuring cups for liquids? If not you are probably eating much more than you think you are.

    As for snacks, carbs are fine, as long as you are getting in your minimum fat and protein requirements. To lower your sodium, which is out of this world you may want to eat less processed, frozen, and canned food. they are packed with sodium.

    Hi, I do not cook so I eat small amount when I am out eating as I do not fill my plate anymore! I use to fill one plate and then go back for more now when I eat out I only get one small helping of meat and green beans, corn, or black eye peas. as I am tring to eat more vegetables.
  • Chevy_Quest
    Chevy_Quest Posts: 2,012 Member
    I know you are getting all sorts of conflicting advice.

    Carbs are not the enemy and grapes are good. Who ever PM'ed you and said not to eat grapes is foolish.


    Here is my suggestion - Let's keep it simple

    1. Log Everything here - no matter how painful it is
    2. Shoot to eat between 2500-3000 calories per day - seriously - Don't starve yourself
    3. Walk for at least 45 minutes a day

    You will see improvement

    Remember at your weight 3-4 lbs per month is a great weight loss and permanent - This is a life long journey!
  • murphey21
    murphey21 Posts: 126 Member
    All I can tell you is stick with MFP, it works! Don't cut your calories too low or you will go into starvation mode like others said. Make sure you track everything and stay active here on MFP! Good luck!
  • erickirb
    erickirb Posts: 12,294 Member
    Hi, I do not cook so I eat small amount when I am out eating as I do not fill my plate anymore! I use to fill one plate and then go back for more now when I eat out I only get one small helping of meat and green beans, corn, or black eye peas. as I am tring to eat more vegetables.

    Fair enough. If you don't have time to cook then you will have to live a higher amount of water retention due to the sodium intake. A couple things you can do to balance that out would be to drink even more water, or find a way to increase potassium, as water retention is more as a result of the sodium/potassium balance in your system.
  • Samstan101
    Samstan101 Posts: 699 Member
    OK, So, I am going to put this all out on the table this morning, I cant afford a Doctor or dietain vist as I do not have insurance, and I have always been told to lose weight you have to do it on your own.

    OK, so I did what a lot of you said yesterday and I eat 2,000 calories so I feel guilty as I weighted 346.2 before yesterday, by eating 2,000 calories it put me in the red on my sodium and in the red on suger sodium was 2,700 over my daily intake and my suger was 89 over my daily intake. and I am now 346.9 so I have gained .07 pounds by eating that much!

    Now I thanks you all for your posts.and a few of you have said not to look at the carbs, sodium, or suger right now.

    But I have got a few PM that said I am set to fail as I am eating too many carbs, and sodium and suger, and I should not eat grapes for snack as it is high in carbs.

    so I am once again confuessed as to what to eat as a snack???????: I have giving up just about everything I gave up sodas, sweet tea and fried foods, I no long go to buger king, or bojangles in the moring and order 2 steak egg & cheese biscuits anymore. I no long eat French fries, or tater tots. ect.

    I no long eat Big Mac's or whoppers I have stared eating grilled Chicken , greenbeans, Whole corn, and oatmeal.

    So as I have been told in 8 PM emails As I am doing now by cutting calories, and walking and eating what I am I will not lose any weight!!

    so I feel like giving up as I feel I am failing

    Please let me know what to do! Or that I will not fail.

    You are doing great! You are looking to make a health future for yourself and trying to understand the best way to do this. A few things that may help:

    1) You use calories just being alive (your body needs energy to make your heart beat, breathe, swallow etc). This amount is called your BMR.
    2) Unless you don't move all day your body also requires energy to move you about. This value will depend on how much you move. This plus your BMR is your TDEE (Total Daily Energy Expenditure IIRC). If you eat lower than this figure you'll lose weight. To lose approx 2lbs a week on average you need to eat about 1000 cals a day less than your TDEE. Consistently eating much lower or losing much quicker over the long term is not healthy. Plus you're likely to be hungry alot which means eventually you'll cave and binge eat then feel bad and that cycle starts again. Slow & steady wins the race in this case.
    3)From a weight loss perspective how you get these calories is irrelevant to a large extent - you could have 1 big McD's and nothing else all day and be under. However, you want this to be a lifestyle change so I'd highly recommend that you did ditch most/ all the junk for anything other than a rare treat. Lots of veg, lean meat, slow release carbs (brown rice for example) are the way to go IMO.
    4)You didn't gain the weight overnight, you need to realise that its going to take a long time to lose it. Be prepared for this and set yourself realistic targets rather than looking at the end weight if that is too distant & too daunting. the first 7lbs, the first 20lbs etc. May be set yourself up a non-food reward for getting there (I buy new gym gear!).
    5) People will tell you carbs are bad, processed food is bad, you shouldn't have sugar etc. That's their view and they are entitled to it but ultimately you need to find a way of eating & exercising that works for you and you can sustain. For me I wouldn't want to give up beer or chocolate so I work them into my calories for the day. I've found a way of losing weight that means I eat food I enjoy, I'm not hungry and I can have anything I want in moderation. I don't care if people say I should 'eat clean' or cut out carbs - it works for them but doesn't for me.
    6) Log everything, weigh everything, measure everything. Your food, your drink and yourself! You'll find times when your weight loss may slow a bit but you'll have lost inches. When it comes to food don't guess portion size as I can say with 99% certainity you'll underestimate weight & volume.
    7) Good luck! You can do this if you really want to make the lifestyle changes. Believe in yourself :)
  • mumblemagic
    mumblemagic Posts: 1,090 Member
    OK, So, I am going to put this all out on the table this morning, I cant afford a Doctor or dietain vist as I do not have insurance, and I have always been told to lose weight you have to do it on your own.

    OK, so I did what a lot of you said yesterday and I eat 2,000 calories so I feel guilty as I weighted 346.2 before yesterday, by eating 2,000 calories it put me in the red on my sodium and in the red on suger sodium was 2,700 over my daily intake and my suger was 89 over my daily intake. and I am now 346.9 so I have gained .07 pounds by eating that much!

    Now I thanks you all for your posts.and a few of you have said not to look at the carbs, sodium, or suger right now.

    But I have got a few PM that said I am set to fail as I am eating too many carbs, and sodium and suger, and I should not eat grapes for snack as it is high in carbs.

    so I am once again confuessed as to what to eat as a snack???????: I have giving up just about everything I gave up sodas, sweet tea and fried foods, I no long go to buger king, or bojangles in the moring and order 2 steak egg & cheese biscuits anymore. I no long eat French fries, or tater tots. ect.

    I no long eat Big Mac's or whoppers I have stared eating grilled Chicken , greenbeans, Whole corn, and oatmeal.

    So as I have been told in 8 PM emails As I am doing now by cutting calories, and walking and eating what I am I will not lose any weight!!

    so I feel like giving up as I feel I am failing

    Please let me know what to do! Or that I will not fail.

    You are doing great! You are looking to make a health future for yourself and trying to understand the best way to do this. A few things that may help:

    1) You use calories just being alive (your body needs energy to make your heart beat, breathe, swallow etc). This amount is called your BMR.
    2) Unless you don't move all day your body also requires energy to move you about. This value will depend on how much you move. This plus your BMR is your TDEE (Total Daily Energy Expenditure IIRC). If you eat lower than this figure you'll lose weight. To lose approx 2lbs a week on average you need to eat about 1000 cals a day less than your TDEE. Consistently eating much lower or losing much quicker over the long term is not healthy. Plus you're likely to be hungry alot which means eventually you'll cave and binge eat then feel bad and that cycle starts again. Slow & steady wins the race in this case.
    3)From a weight loss perspective how you get these calories is irrelevant to a large extent - you could have 1 big McD's and nothing else all day and be under. However, you want this to be a lifestyle change so I'd highly recommend that you did ditch most/ all the junk for anything other than a rare treat. Lots of veg, lean meat, slow release carbs (brown rice for example) are the way to go IMO.
    4)You didn't gain the weight overnight, you need to realise that its going to take a long time to lose it. Be prepared for this and set yourself realistic targets rather than looking at the end weight if that is too distant & too daunting. the first 7lbs, the first 20lbs etc. May be set yourself up a non-food reward for getting there (I buy new gym gear!).
    5) People will tell you carbs are bad, processed food is bad, you shouldn't have sugar etc. That's their view and they are entitled to it but ultimately you need to find a way of eating & exercising that works for you and you can sustain. For me I wouldn't want to give up beer or chocolate so I work them into my calories for the day. I've found a way of losing weight that means I eat food I enjoy, I'm not hungry and I can have anything I want in moderation. I don't care if people say I should 'eat clean' or cut out carbs - it works for them but doesn't for me.
    6) Log everything, weigh everything, measure everything. Your food, your drink and yourself! You'll find times when your weight loss may slow a bit but you'll have lost inches. When it comes to food don't guess portion size as I can say with 99% certainity you'll underestimate weight & volume.
    7) Good luck! You can do this if you really want to make the lifestyle changes. Believe in yourself :)

    Excellent, excellent advice. In fact, studies have shown that having 20% of your daily calories from discretionary sources e.g. chocolate makes for a healthy diet. See http://www.wannabebig.com/diet-and-nutrition/the-dirt-on-clean-eating/.

    Someone seriously tried to tell you not to eat grapes? Ignore them. TBH, I tend not to worry too much about natural sugars e.g. those in fruits, milk, unprocessed foods. I monitor the refined sugars e.g. chocolate but I don't cut anything out of my diet completely unless I don't like it, because evidence shows that an overly restrictive diet can lead to a binge eating / crash dieting lifestyle, which is not something I would like. I try to go for moderation, but then again, as Oscar Wilde said, "Everything in moderation, including moderation".
  • SugafreeNsweet
    SugafreeNsweet Posts: 21 Member
    First let me say that your doing a great job!!!! Just giving up the unhealthy parts of your lifestyle, is going to make such a huge difference in your life. The realistic part of your situation is that your going to have ups and downs. Some days your going to see differences in the scale, you probably should commit to weighing yourself only once a week at the same time of day wearing the same clothing. Weighing yourself daily may drive you insane because if you have to much sodium on certain days you may retain water and as you build muscle your weight will flucate. You can't go wrong with getting active and eating lean protien, fresh fruit and veggies!

    I understand that you don't have insurance but you should find that since you have cut down on eating out and the sugary sodas you may have some extra saving that will allow you to invest in a Doctor visit (usually about $150 for a standard check up including bloodwork here in Florida) it will be the best money you ever invested in yourself. Being overweight can bring so many illnesses like diabetes, high blood pressure and heart disease unfortuately starting any diet or exercise without knowing your numbers could have serious consequences and that visit might save your life. By the way I don't know where you are located but there are many free and low cost clinics.

    I pray that your hard work continues to pay off. I have definitely been there I lost 70lbs only to gain 40 back its hard work but its worth it
  • Thanks For the info. I will say this and see what everyone has to say. and let me know if this is good or bad! I use to skip breakfast and eat at a lunch buffet and get 2-3 big plate full. for super I would do the same or go to buger king and get a triple whopper with cheese mayo and a large French fries and a large sweet tea. and would do the same day after day.

    now:) I have gave up that life and I must say I do not miss it! As I use to have cramps in my tummy and feel stuffed!

    Now I eat oatmeal and a small cup or orange juice Or whole milk. for breakfast

    grapes or straw berry's for snack

    chicken soup or a PB&J sandwich for lunch

    I go to cracker barrel and get the wholesome grilled chicken tenders with a side of Green Beans, Whole Corn

    and grapes or straw berry's for snack again if I am hungy .

    so is this a good eating plan???? as I do not cook sad to say. and I am giving up the fried fat junk foods!

    and I am also walking 35-40mins a day 5 days a week. and also active as I am on my feet most of the day.

    I am also looking into joining the YMCA to learn more about the right way and the best workout plan for me and have them show me the best weight training I need to do! I was told by a person on here and I do not know if it is right but I waould say I use to eat about 2,000-2,600 calories a day before my Dieit. and they said in that case to lower my calories by 1,000 and I should lose weight with the workout and calorie defiect .

    so I ask is this good for what I am doing! I just can't have lean meat every day.

    again thanks for all of your help and I hope I am not sounding like broke record!
  • Thanks For the info. I will say this and see what everyone has to say. and let me know if this is good or bad! I use to skip breakfast and eat at a lunch buffet and get 2-3 big plate full. for super I would do the same or go to buger king and get a triple whopper with cheese mayo and a large French fries and a large sweet tea. and would do the same day after day.

    now:) I have gave up that life and I must say I do not miss it! As I use to have cramps in my tummy and feel stuffed!

    Now I eat oatmeal and a small cup or orange juice Or whole milk. for breakfast

    grapes or straw berry's for snack

    chicken soup or a PB&J sandwich for lunch

    I go to cracker barrel and get the wholesome grilled chicken tenders with a side of Green Beans, Whole Corn

    and grapes or straw berry's for snack again if I am hungy .

    so is this a good eating plan???? as I do not cook sad to say. and I am giving up the fried fat junk foods!

    and I am also walking 35-40mins a day 5 days a week. and also active as I am on my feet most of the day.

    I am also looking into joining the YMCA to learn more about the right way and the best workout plan for me and have them show me the best weight training I need to do! I was told by a person on here and I do not know if it is right but I waould say I use to eat about 2,000-2,600 calories a day before my Dieit. and they said in that case to lower my calories by 1,000 and I should lose weight with the workout and calorie defiect .

    so I ask is this good for what I am doing! I just can't have lean meat every day.

    again thanks for all of your help and I hope I am not sounding like broke record!

    I forgot to add I also go to subway and get a 6" turkey sub with only tomatoes , onion , and mustard , and sweet onion now and no mayo and no cheese, and no salt.

    I hope this is a good eat and not bad!
  • erickirb
    erickirb Posts: 12,294 Member
    OP, other than not eating enough calories and protein most days it doesn't sound too bad. I suggest no less than 2000 cals and 150 grams or so of protein per day, everyday, and at your weight, preferably even more.

    As for the subway, since your cals are already pretty low, why not get mayo and cheese this will up cals, fat and protein, all of which you need more of on your new "diet".
  • So If I understand this right I can eat what I want as long as I stay in the 2,000 calories a day and walk and still lose weight even if the food is not that good of choice?
  • also to help me understand this. if some days I go over my sodium intakes for that day is that very bad? will I gain weight by doing that? even if I am under my calorie intake for that day?

    thanks chris
  • allisonrinkel
    allisonrinkel Posts: 224 Member
    Everything that has been said so far is absolutely correct. It sounds like you're on the right track to making better choices, but you definitely need to fuel your body more. You can calculate your TDEE and BMR here: http://iifym.com/tdee-calculator/. Using the "sedentary" setting, you would also eat back your exercise calories, though MFP generally overestimates these, so be careful with just how much you eat back. I usually shoot for about half.

    Your TDEE is how many calories your body would use if you were just lying in bed all day, normal bodily functions, like breathing and digestion. You should always try to eat at at least your BMR. MFP is designed to already calculate a caloric deficit, meaning eating fewer calories than you burn through exercise and normal bodily functions, so your goal should already be relatively close. Since you have so much to lose, you should probably set your goal around TDEE - 20% (or TDEE x 0.8) if you hope to lose about 2 pounds per week.

    Don't be afraid to eat more. Eating at your TDEE is "maintenance," how many calories you would consume if you wanted to maintain your current weight. Consider how many you were probably consuming on average daily to come to the point where you are. You're looking for an appropriate deficit, but don't think that reducing your calories very low will speed the process, as others suggested. Remember, your primary goal is probably to become healthier, and it looks like you're already doing a good job at working towards that.

    Here are some other links you may want to read through to set you on your way:

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/833026-important-posts-to-read

    http://body-improvements.com/resources/eat/

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/841305-corn-used-my-man-parts-as-a-speedbag

    ETA: Also, don't stress how many pounds you lose day to day. Weigh in about once a week and monitor your progress in the long run. If you're consistent with eating at a deficit, you'll see the number start to trend downward. Keep a reasonable goal in mind, like 2 pounds per week. I set small goals for myself to make sure I'm on the right track. It takes time, but it's totally worth it.

    Yup
  • escloflowneCHANGED
    escloflowneCHANGED Posts: 3,038 Member
    Don't remove any foods you enjoy and just stay in your calorie goals which as a male and 350lbs should not be 1200-1500 calories per day! There is a lot of useful information in this thread.
  • escloflowneCHANGED
    escloflowneCHANGED Posts: 3,038 Member
    also to help me understand this. if some days I go over my sodium intakes for that day is that very bad? will I gain weight by doing that? even if I am under my calorie intake for that day?

    thanks chris

    Step one! Remove sodium tracking from your diary, it will always show as red numbers and you don't need to worry about it if you're eating "healthy"
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    also to help me understand this. if some days I go over my sodium intakes for that day is that very bad? will I gain weight by doing that? even if I am under my calorie intake for that day?

    thanks chris

    If you don't have high blood pressure (or any other medical reason to watch your sodium), then going over your sodium once in a while wouldn't hurt you. It's the excess calories that will make you gain fat, not sodium. You'll just pee that out later,. :wink: