How do you stay movitvated when it is so easy to give up ?

Just went over my page and read my "About me" , "WHy I want to get in shape", and "My inspirations andddd I am very happy to share with out that I don't exactly feel that way anymore. ( If you don't know what I mean go take a look)

I still have work to do but I feel better about my self. I don't want to update it because I want to leave it as a reminder of why I began, and for motivation to keep going. Slowly but surely Ill get to my goal.

So how do you stay motivated?


  • XtremeShawty
    XtremeShawty Posts: 11 Member
    Think about how good you'll look once your done! Get pictures a fit models and every day girls and them everywhere! In your mirror, on the background of your phone, it doesn't matter anywhere! Also there are some great motivational videos on YouTube! I can give you the name of some great videos!
  • Because I like a challenge! Giving up is too easy, plus, stronger, fitter that's the push. I do it to prove doctors wrong, doubters wrong and myself wrong.

    If I say I can't do it, that's a challenge to then do it!
  • KeViN_v2pt0
    KeViN_v2pt0 Posts: 375 Member
  • Lizzy622
    Lizzy622 Posts: 3,705 Member
    I have given up before and don't like how I feel afterward. I Just keep plugging away and chipping away at the pounds. There are some days I am more motivated than others. There are also days I don't exercise or eat at maintenance. I will not give up though. These are short breaks of maybe a day or two.
  • mjharman
    mjharman Posts: 251 Member
    Motivation is doesn't last.

    Determination is the key. Have a reason - and post that reason everywhere. When I began this journey, mine was, "I want to be beautiful in my husband's eyes." I felt so unattractive back then, so now that inspires me to continue because it confirms how far I have come, and how I have transformed myself both physically and emotionally.

    I am also working on a collage - pictures to inspire me to reach my goal, which includes BEFORE pictures - to document where I was - as well as pictures that represent where I am going.
  • littleburgy
    littleburgy Posts: 570 Member
    To me, motivation comes and goes. Success is a matter of decision, and at times it's separate from mood and emotion. I don't always feel motivated to go to the gym when I get off work. Some days I'd rather curl up in bed, especially when the months get darker and longer. Sometimes I would really like that extra glass of wine or a larger bowl of ice cream.

    But conscious decision isn't swayed by fleeting moods and emotion. I may feel like telling someone to F*** OFF if they give me a tight work deadline, but it doesn't mean I should, and more often than not, it's best if I make the conscious decision not to. So there are times I make the conscious decision to go to the gym even though I don't want to. Or make the conscious decision to not have the cookie that is offered to me at work.

    If I have decided that I want to be fitter and lose weight, if I want results, I have to stand by it, regardless of how I feel on a particular day. (Granted, there are days if I'm battling illness or it's my birthday I will be flexible) but as a rule, I find the Nike way to make the decision and "just do it" gets it done when motivation isn't always there. I hope this makes sense. :drinker:
  • raige123
    raige123 Posts: 352
    Find your carrot! lol. A trainer friend of mine from the gym gave me that advice before I lost 112 lbs. When he first said it to me I looked at him oddly. And he meant no disrespect, just he said "how do you get a donkey to move? You dangle a carrot in front of its face". He wasn't calling me a donkey ... it was an analogy but you have to find your carrot. Mine was being tired of being the single fat girl and wanting to find love. When I wanted to give up, I just mentally visualized my "carrot" and it kept me on track. Everyone has a carrot ... find yours!
  • DebbieLyn63
    DebbieLyn63 Posts: 2,650 Member
    It can be hard to keep motivated when the scale slows down. Which it always does at some point. When I was my top weight at 237, and my Triglycerides were close to 700 which meant Diabetes was knocking on my door, I started making changes in my diet and activity level. After my mom died, right before my granddaughter was born and I turned 49, that was the final push to get really serious about losing the weight as well. Not wanting to hit 50 at that weight was a huge motivation.

    But now the 50th birthday has passed. My weight is out of the Obese range. My Triglycerides are down to 147. And I am in size 12 jeans. (down from 20s). I look and feel so much better. All my family and friends are telling me I am skinny (yeah, right) and even my doctor has said I have lost enough.
    But I am still around180. That is too much for 5'6". That extra 25 lbs is still too much extra stress on my back and joints.

    So I have to remind myself that this is not a diet. This is a permanent lifestyle change. And even tho I am lucky to get 1 pound a month at this point, as long as I continue to make any progress at all, I will eventually reach my goal weight, and this will remain a way of life for me so that I don't gain any weight back.

    I so wish that I could open the eyes of many of the young people today to look forward to the time they will be 40 or 50 and decide where they want their health to be at that time, and start working toward that goal NOW.
    It was SO much easier to simply lose weight when I was in my teens and 20s, but I really wish I had educated myself more about nutrition and exercise back then, so I never would have reached 80 pounds overweight by my 40s.

    Kudos to you OP for taking control of your health at this age. Trust me, it doesn't get any easier.
  • crafty30
    crafty30 Posts: 132 Member
    It is hard, very hard. When my alarm goes off at 5:45 every morning to exercise, I often ask why am I doing this, I could have another hour at least in bed!
    Even when I'm working out I think why am I doing this!! But I do it because I know how rubbish I feel if I don’t, it helps me with so much in my life, not just being healthy and feeling better about myself.. this is what I tell myself constantly, I know how awful I use to feel before I changed my lifestyle and I’m not prepared to go back to that, No matter how hard it is.
    You have to be mentally strong and push through! I know its hard and you often wonder why you bother but it is worth it and just think how you would feel if you gave up.. Be strong, you can do it.
  • TArnold2012
    TArnold2012 Posts: 929 Member
    Focus on what I have accomplished rather that how much farther I have to go.
  • crobl
    crobl Posts: 380
    Focus on what I have accomplished rather that how much farther I have to go.

    Maybe it is easy to give up? But think of it this way. Getting/staying in shape is hard. So is being fat.

    Pick your hard. I would rather my "hard" be maxing out in the weight room or bringing down my mile time...instead of being out of breath trying to climb a flight of stairs...
  • MrsGreenhill1005
    MrsGreenhill1005 Posts: 12 Member
    Focus on seeing the next lb off on the scales. Forget the overall goal..concentrate on the next lb and set yourself mini targets..
  • Maureen214
    Maureen214 Posts: 40 Member
    Ok my carrot is being able to walk pain free in disney world in 4.5 months. I lost 16 pounds in Aug and sept. slowed down in oct and gained back 2 pounds. Went to NY to watch my hubby do the marathon who was incredible and I was in soooo much pain with all the extra weight and walking 5-6 miles up and down and around manhattan to see him run and meet him at the finish and get home. Now back home, I think I twisted or pulled something in my left ankle/ calf cause could barely walk past three days. Needless to say, there was also food and family in abundance this past week and I didn't log anything!!
    Sooooo back to logging, making better choices, will walk 20-30 minutes slowly by Friday and will use your carrot advice. If I can lose 30 pounds in next 4.5 months and condition myself to walk more I will have fun in Disney instead of being stuck in these horrible poor meees I've had the past three days. A vacation should be A reward; not a nightmare that caused me sooo much anxiety the few days before and the poor meees the few days after. It is about determination And not motivation. My motivation goes up and down not just by the day or week, but every few hours.
  • karlospiklington
    karlospiklington Posts: 143 Member
    I listen to the Rocky theme tune. There's nothing like some funk bass and a brass fanfare to make you want to get outside and exercise. Or just put a headband on and punch stuff. Either is good.
  • Because I like a challenge! Giving up is too easy, plus, stronger, fitter that's the push. I do it to prove doctors wrong, doubters wrong and myself wrong.

    If I say I can't do it, that's a challenge to then do it!


    Also fear is a great motivator too lol. I'm terrified of needles. If I don't lose weight I'm going to end up diabetic. <<<Fear driven xD
  • Maureen214
    Maureen214 Posts: 40 Member
    DebbieLyn63 thank you for posting. We're almost twins in age and numbers and your post really really touched me. I had bacterial meningitis in Feb( 4 th major hospitalization for issues from cancer to gall bladder to blood clots then meningitis in past 8 years ) and each one was a 20 pound loss in the hospital, 3-6 month recovery with minimal activity and gain back of weight + 10 because activity was walking from couch or bed to bathroom Then After meningitis I had to take Depacote for migraines and instead of going back to my 230-240 range I actually saw 260 in the doctor office who quickly told me people gain 20-30 pounds quickly like in a month with depacote. So now decreasing that med and taking water pills and logging got to first 250 and then 237 on here. But am 45 and have very high cholesterol and tri numbers which my dr said he rarely sees in any of his patients and have a brother and sister with juvenile diabetes and my Dad boarder line adult onset and am also on blood thinners for clotting issues for life and welchol for cholesterol and about 8 other meds.... Anyway at 45 years old and still have a pair of red jean Mickey Mouse shorts size 12 that I quickly lost weight and went from 210 to 180/ 175 "easily" in my 30 s to wear to Disney World then. But know at 5'6" if I could get to the 180/175 these would fit again and make my trip in 4.5 months such a reward. I want to hit 46 at that weight and if I slowly go lower by another 10 pounds in 10 months after that fine. It's soooo much harder now being just a few years older and lots more health issues.
    Thank you for posting. Your similar age and numbers helped me relate and not feel so list and alone and in a dark place today.
    Good luck. You're my blessing for today!
  • KeViN_v2pt0
    KeViN_v2pt0 Posts: 375 Member
    KANGOOJUMPS Posts: 6,472 Member
    it really depends on bad u want it?
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    So how do you stay motivated?

    The mirror and how my clothes fit.
  • caramelgyrlk
    caramelgyrlk Posts: 1,112 Member
    I look at my old pictures and my empty nightstand which is now free of medicines that were due to my extra weight and that is more than enough motivation for me to keep up the fight. I have iron will and refuse to walk that road again,