i hate myself right now

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  • Wannabeslim2811
    Wannabeslim2811 Posts: 32
    Everyone has a blow out some time...you are only human after all! I have done that so many times. The danger though is that I then say ''oh well, I've ruined it now, may as well give up''. It's like the saying goes - falling down doesn't make a failure - STAYING down does. You've had a 'cheat' day but get right back on the wagon and it'll take care of itself. Good luck and well done for your amazing loss so far :)
  • ktsimons
    ktsimons Posts: 294 Member
    Today is my 70th day on mfp. I've done pretty well with my willpower and have stayed under my daily calories most every day. If I've gone over its never been by a whole lot. But yesterday ...oh my gosh I went crazy. I don't know what happened! I ate everything I could lay hands on and at the end of the day I had went 3000 calories OVER my daily allowance. That's a total of 4200 calories in one single day. I feel terrible and ashamed of myself. I know its just one day but I feel like I've really let myself down and undone some of the success that I've worked so hard every day to achieve. How do I get over it and get back on track? And how long will it take for yesterday to be out of my system? I didn't weigh today but I feel like I've gained 10 lbs. Which I know is silly. But yesterday has really shown me how easy it is to fall off the wagon. And that really scares me.

    Welcome to my world!

    No matter my good intentions, there is always one day a month like this...I was a fat person because of binging and I will not be a fat person again because I refuse to be guilty over this - I feel that for me, the guilt is what makes me say "I may as well give up since I blew it". Exercising HARD the day after the binge and feeling like total POOPPPP from the sludge in your body might make you think twice before doing it again! If anything, that keeps me in line...

    One day won't stop your progress if you get back on the bus and ride - you obviously didn't give up, or you wouldn't be here logging :wink:
  • sassysmom35
    sassysmom35 Posts: 130 Member
    I want to thank all of you so much. You are right...all of you. It was one day. I don't think I'm normally depriving myself. I'm pretty sure ut was psychological along with hormonen (just now started TOM). However I can't blame it entirely on that because in my previous life (before mfp) I used food as a crutch for everything especially boredom. I quit doing that cold turkey the day I joined this website. I think I'm afraid of old habits rearing their ugly heads. However I don't think that is going to happen simply because it made me feel terrible. Physically and even moreso mentally. I do not want to lihis ave my life like that again. I took myself to the park this afternoon and walked 3 and 1/2n miles then drank a bottle of water. I feel better already. I CAN do this and I WILL. I know that temptation will come again and I also know that I'm not perfect and will have bad days. I am so thankful for you guys and gals and your support and encouragement. It means more to me than I can say.
  • sassysmom35
    sassysmom35 Posts: 130 Member
    Sorry for the typos...I'm on my phone
  • roniredd
    roniredd Posts: 48
    As others have said, drink lots of water. Flush your system out and start anew! Get right back on!
  • kealey1318
    kealey1318 Posts: 290 Member
    Well around here we call that a cheat day. So yeh you cheated and you fessed up and told us about it. It's okay our relationship isn't over. We forgive you and I believe we can get past this together :)

    LOL, don't beat youself up. It happens and you learned from it which is good. It's when you continuously do it all the time where you will start to see issues. You will be fine just get right back to your regimen and all will be good.

    Hope that helps,

    Cheers

    Tof

    ^^^^^^^^ He couldn't have said it better! Just move on because you can't change it. The past is just that... the past!
  • mmsilvia
    mmsilvia Posts: 459 Member
    Don't beat yourself up. Sounds like you had a cheat day. Which we all need to do now & then. I actually had one yesterday myself. But, today is a NEW day and you will do great today :)

    Make sure to drink your water to help with any bloating from yesterday.

    And, most importantly...Don't Give Up!!
  • MstngSammy
    MstngSammy Posts: 436 Member
    Today is my 70th day on mfp. I've done pretty well with my willpower and have stayed under my daily calories most every day. If I've gone over its never been by a whole lot. But yesterday ...oh my gosh I went crazy. I don't know what happened! I ate everything I could lay hands on and at the end of the day I had went 3000 calories OVER my daily allowance. That's a total of 4200 calories in one single day. I feel terrible and ashamed of myself. I know its just one day but I feel like I've really let myself down and undone some of the success that I've worked so hard every day to achieve. How do I get over it and get back on track? And how long will it take for yesterday to be out of my system? I didn't weigh today but I feel like I've gained 10 lbs. Which I know is silly. But yesterday has really shown me how easy it is to fall off the wagon. And that really scares me.

    Hi there.

    Let me brush your emotions to the side for some science.

    Eating 4200 calories in a single day is 700 calories PLUS 3500 calories.

    It takes 3500 calories ON TOP OF YOUR TDEE to make you gain one pound of fat.

    Your TDEE is far greater than 700 calories.

    Thus, you will not gain one pound of fat.

    Whatever the scale says, it is water weight. Get back on track, eat appropriately today, do not restrict yourself, drink plenty of water.

    And Relax. Science wins in the end.


    ^^^^^Love this Chick :smile:
  • MstngSammy
    MstngSammy Posts: 436 Member
    Well around here we call that a cheat day. So yeh you cheated and you fessed up and told us about it. It's okay our relationship isn't over. We forgive you and I believe we can get past this together :)

    LOL, don't beat youself up. It happens and you learned from it which is good. It's when you continuously do it all the time where you will start to see issues. You will be fine just get right back to your regimen and all will be good.

    Hope that helps,

    Cheers

    Tof


    ^^^This^^^

    :happy:
  • MstngSammy
    MstngSammy Posts: 436 Member
    I want to thank all of you so much. You are right...all of you. It was one day. I don't think I'm normally depriving myself. I'm pretty sure ut was psychological along with hormonen (just now started TOM). However I can't blame it entirely on that because in my previous life (before mfp) I used food as a crutch for everything especially boredom. I quit doing that cold turkey the day I joined this website. I think I'm afraid of old habits rearing their ugly heads. However I don't think that is going to happen simply because it made me feel terrible. Physically and even moreso mentally. I do not want to lihis ave my life like that again. I took myself to the park this afternoon and walked 3 and 1/2n miles then drank a bottle of water. I feel better already. I CAN do this and I WILL. I know that temptation will come again and I also know that I'm not perfect and will have bad days. I am so thankful for you guys and gals and your support and encouragement. It means more to me than I can say.


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  • BossLadyDSimp
    BossLadyDSimp Posts: 257 Member
    Well around here we call that a cheat day. So yeh you cheated and you fessed up and told us about it. It's okay our relationship isn't over. We forgive you and I believe we can get past this together :)

    LOL, don't beat youself up. It happens and you learned from it which is good. It's when you continuously do it all the time where you will start to see issues. You will be fine just get right back to your regimen and all will be good.

    Hope that helps,

    Cheers

    Tof


    WHAT HE SAID!

    I used to have a cheat day ... now its just a cheat meal once a week. I limit myself so i don't go crazy the other 6 says of the week and I have lost ... I went CRAZY at a bbq this weekend and actually lost this week. You have been working hard for a long time. Your body is really to break down those days a lot faster because they are few and far between.

    Today is just one day ... like someone said the world is hard enough on us, just give yourself a break and move on! (I need to take my own advice).

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  • mzredreaves
    mzredreaves Posts: 4 Member
    I feel like losing weight is a never ending battle that i cant beat
  • monisiaczeq
    monisiaczeq Posts: 131 Member
    i think its okay! dont worry about this- it happens to everybody. put it behind you. its over, its in the past, you cant change it. go for a run or workout today- this will help you be back in the game.
    i think what is important is to ask why did you binge...were you sad? upset? did something happen? or maybe you were just bored. answer to yourself honestly and maybe in the future you will prevent such events :)
    but for now- head up, today is a new day!
  • QueenE_
    QueenE_ Posts: 522 Member
    It happens, don't beat yourself up.
  • lyzmorrison
    lyzmorrison Posts: 172 Member
    No big deal. In September we went to a Brazilian steakhouse for my husband's birthday and I ate soooo much and topped it off with the most beautiful piece of chocolate cake that I've ever had. I must have consumed a million calories that day. But, it was one day. I didn't weigh for 5 days after that b/c I didn't want to know, but no biggie. The next day it was back to business as usual. I knew I was going to splurge, I did and I didn't feel guilty. I couldn't do that every week, but as a one-off it's okay. Just drink a lot of water, work out and stay under your calorie limit and you'll be fine. And now that you've had your splurge, stay on track.
  • MrsBingley
    MrsBingley Posts: 145
    This is my experience only, so take it as that.

    I could not ever hope to sustain a 1200 cal/day diet. Not even for a few weeks.

    We are of similar age and situation, so maybe it might be helpful to eat a bit more?

    I started out eating 1200 net 6 days of the week with one high intake day, where I set my cals to maintenance. This still got to me eventually and I have increased calories a few times, but I'm still losing (24 lb down total, 10 before MFP). You may be different though and not need as much food. I don't know.

    For me, having that high intake day sure helped psychologically. It was a light at the end of the tunnel. Keeping the cals at maintenance ensures that you don't take a step backward.

    Do you do cardio and/or weights? If so, do you struggle with it, getting lightheaded and weak? These are indicators that eating more may be in order.

    I view sustaining a high deficit as holding one's breath. Eventually your body will force you to breathe.
    Unless your TDEE is 1500, 1200 cals may be too low.

    Edited for grammar.
  • meeper123
    meeper123 Posts: 3,347 Member
    Are you not eating enough the rest of the time? If you aren't you are setting yourself up for over eating. Be real and not overly strict with yourself and it will really help to prevent this,
  • ktc1968
    ktc1968 Posts: 24 Member
    great response, I will use that for myself as I cheated big time yesterday as well. Will you friend me?


    Well around here we call that a cheat day. So yeh you cheated and you fessed up and told us about it. It's okay our relationship isn't over. We forgive you and I believe we can get past this together :)

    LOL, don't beat youself up. It happens and you learned from it which is good. It's when you continuously do it all the time where you will start to see issues. You will be fine just get right back to your regimen and all will be good.

    Hope that helps,

    Cheers

    Tof
  • nickijhughes
    nickijhughes Posts: 18
    I agree! Kudos for being honest. That is amazing! Now onward and upward!
  • lynn_glenmont
    lynn_glenmont Posts: 10,093 Member
    Let's say it takes 2200 calories a day to maintain your weight. You ate 2000 over that. 3500 calories = 1 pound. So 2000 calories is 0.57 pounds. So yesterday you could have conceivably gained just over a half pound. You've lost 18lbs. You did not undo all of your hard work.

    ^^This.

    Another way of looking at it is that you've lost 18 pounds in 70 days (10 weeks), which works out to 1.8 pounds a week, or an average 6300 calorie deficit per week (or 900 calories average daily deficit). You ate into that deficit by 3000 calories yesterday (OK, actually 3900 calories, because you also eliminated your deficit for that one day). That leaves you with a 3300 calorie deficit for the week, or nearly a pound loss in a week in which you had a day that feels like a total disaster.

    I also agree with those who suggest maybe adding a couple of hundred calories a day and see if that helps you feel less deprived, and thus less likely to lose control. At 1500 calories, you should still be averaging slightly over 1 lb a week loss (based on losing 18 lbs in 10 weeks at 1200 calories). (Also echoing the kudos for logging yesterday and knowing exactly what you ate -- terrific job!)
  • YvetteR42
    YvetteR42 Posts: 18
    Don't do it girl calm down,think of yesterday as your get out and have what ever you want kind of day. You enjoyed it it's over now time to get back with the program hello.

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