Can't Seem to find the Desire

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  • Erica262
    Erica262 Posts: 226 Member
    Use the resources you have right in front of you. Like someone else said, just start logging everything you eat and don't think about all the changes you have to make. Just start logging. Then make one healthy decision after another.

    Use the blog feature of MFP. Do a self-interview.

    How are you feeling today (physically)?
    How are you feeling today (mentally)?
    How was this week better than last week (or how was today better than yesterday)?
    What choices can I make tomorrow that would be healthier than today?

    That kind of thing. Does that make sense?

    You need to do it for you. Not for your husband or for anyone else.
  • paxbfl
    paxbfl Posts: 391 Member
    I am definitely getting in my own way.

    I like that you're recognizing the role you play in this situation. It sounds like you've had some misfortune in various areas of your life. It can be easy to blame other people for these things - and maybe rightly so. But the way out is by picking yourself up and deciding you're going to fight for the life you want. As others have said, do this for yourself - for your own reasons. Set an example for your family and let them follow your lead.

    I'm 46 years old. A year ago I was 50 pounds overweight and couldn't run a mile without stopping. My 12-year-old son called me "fat". I looked at myself in the mirror and took responsibility for where I was. Instead of getting depressed or overwhelmed I got angry at myself and used that anger to fuel my actions going forward.

    Today I'm in my ideal body-fat range. A few weeks ago I ran a half-marathon in under 2 hours for the first time in my life. I honestly feel about 10 pounds younger than I felt a year ago. I'm proud of what I've accomplished... and absolutely determined to never go back to where I was!

    If I can do this, you can absolutely do this. Make the decision to start and never look back.
  • char_barr
    char_barr Posts: 125 Member
    A friend of mine told me about this and now i will share it with all of you who need the motivation, or just to hear something nice everyday. Go to www.tut.com and sign up to receive the "notes from the universe" everyday "the universe" sends you an inspirational email or just something nice to make you smile.

    I just signed up! Thanks for the site
  • char_barr
    char_barr Posts: 125 Member

    Change will happen when you decide that the discomfort of staying where you are, is worse than the discomfort of change.

    THAT is FABULOUS
  • char_barr
    char_barr Posts: 125 Member

    My 12-year-old son called me "fat". I looked at myself in the mirror and took responsibility for where I was.

    When my 4 or 2 year old say I have a big belly or a big butt (in relative to a child's perspective) I just cringe. When they ask me to go on rides with them or in bounce houses, that have specific weight requirements that I don't meet, I it does get to me internally. I need to get to the point where I dont accept it as "poor, boo hoo me" I'm starting.
  • char_barr
    char_barr Posts: 125 Member
    Use the resources you have right in front of you. Like someone else said, just start logging everything you eat and don't think about all the changes you have to make. Just start logging. Then make one healthy decision after another.

    Use the blog feature of MFP. Do a self-interview.

    How are you feeling today (physically)?
    How are you feeling today (mentally)?
    How was this week better than last week (or how was today better than yesterday)?
    What choices can I make tomorrow that would be healthier than today?

    That kind of thing. Does that make sense?

    You need to do it for you. Not for your husband or for anyone else.

    I think this could really help me - I used to write alot and its a good way to work thru alot of my internal struggles.
  • Torzilla37
    Torzilla37 Posts: 9
    Make a list of changes, like drinking more water, walking X-amount of minutes a week, etc.

    Then choose the easiest on your list and make that your week's goal. The following week, pick another item on your list while still following the previous week's goal. Rinse and repeat. If you had a bad day, just start again the next day. Habits will help :)

    Example: my water intake used to be horrendous. I made 1L before noon a goal for a week, and it's stuck. Next, I worked on eating a fruit or veggie with every meal. Next week, I'm going to make the effort to workout first thing in the morning.

    Just take everything one step at a time. If you break down the big picture into a number of smaller, realistic/attainable goals, this won't all seem so daunting. I had to accept this sort of thinking when I started graduate school this past September...it really does help your sanity to break it up.

    Maybe you could also make a list. WHY do you want this? For your kids? Your husband? So that you feel better about yourself? It's okay if your reasons for doing this are totally selfish. But if you know why you want this, then that's your lifeline when things become too overwhelming. If you screw up and don't eat well for lunch, then pick yourself up and try to eat a healthy dinner. If you are terribly for an entire day, or even an entire week or month, that's okay. You're human. Just focus on your next meal and making an improvement--even if it's drinking water between each bite :)

    You can do this!
  • CrazyAnne
    CrazyAnne Posts: 217 Member
    I am feeling the same way. Just can't restart either. I continue to log, good and bad days. MFP friends are great. Good luck, OP!

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