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WORLDPEACE

Hello all lovely people.

I was interested in a girl back in school, five years ago. I left my country and immigrated to USA and this girl never left my mind. I forgot her of course as I had lots of study and uni work to get through and made lots of new friends. I lost touch with pretty much everyone in that school..but I was curious to know about her. I spoke to a friend and he found from another friend her email (I am not friends with her friends). I sent her a message a year ago and did not get a reply for a year...I forgot. I then sent her a message just six days ago but I tried harder in the message (I did not make the effort in the first message I sent a year ago) and got a reply from her about three days later. She said, she was fine, she was looking forward for a reunion, she hoped everything was great with me, she graduated from so and so uni bla bla bla, the generic stuff a kind hearted person (which she is) would send to any person just enquiring about them....not an indication she is interested in anyway...

I then sent her a message explaining to her how I had a crush on her five years ago and I was trying to get a reply from her to see if she would remember me, I even complimented her beauty in this and the previous message and I was curious to know about her and what she is up to..... I have not got a reply for three days now. what do I do? Do I wait for say three more days and see if she replies, and if she does not do I send her another message? Or do I move on? (haaaaaardddd)

I am 22 years and have never been in a relationship. No woman gave me this nice feeling of butterflies since then, there are lots of attractive women around but they all seem to have boyfriends and culturally different, If I could hook up with that girl from school I would be soooooo happpyyyyy. I am willing to go back to my home country to see her.

amg_89

Wow this is like a movie or something. Very romantic! Since you have not seen or really spoken to this girl in such a long time, she may just feel a bit uncomfortable that you presented her with such information. It is not a big deal, just try to form a friendship first. After developing a friendship if it feels right then you can bring up the idea of a relationship with her. Good luck!

tesha30

Maybe email her back and give her your phone #. Some people just dont have time to get online all the time.. but its more personal to make a phone call then to write out how you feel etc.

RoadDog

Move on. You were only 17.

bloblynda

I garee with RoadDog. an adolescent crush is not for keeps. If she were really interested she would mail back quickly, but it's kinda spooky to have someone you haven't seen for 5 years come on and tell you they have a crush on you.
there are pleant of people out there. Look forward not back. The reality is never as good as the memory anyway

RoadDog

The reality is that you have feelings for the memory of someone 5 years ago. She has changed dramatically in 5 years and so have you.

You shouldn't try to forget about your first love or those first experiences, but you should put them in perspective. I'll always have a place in my heart for my first love, but I'm pretty sure she has changed since 1969.

You out there, Diane? Hope your life worked out the way you wanted.

amg_89

It's true that she has most likely changed a lot since the last time you saw her, but you don't want to spend the rest of your life wondering "what if..."

If she shoots you down or is not the same person you once knew, then move on, no harm, no foul. I don't see why you shouldn't just see where it goes. But don't send a ton of emails trying to get her to respond if she hasn't done so yet. If she is ignoring you, it's her way of saying she's not interested and it's time to let her go.

WORLDPEACE

I agree with amg. The reason I agree with her is because I got a reply to my original email, Three days after. This is exactly what she said copied and pasted:

Hey,

I'm fine thank god. hope everything is gr8 with u, i graduated from Mechatronics engineering-. have been in touch with rana, yara, mary, Mike and claudio and sometimes I meet some people when I'm out and about. I look forward for a reunion, soon, god willing. C U.


I replied straight telling her that I had a crush on her back in school times, thats the reason why I emailed her to see if she remembered me. I of course thanked her for her reply and was like mechatronics sounds so complex, you must have worked so hard through the years. I then told her what I was doing with my life and then asked her a couple more questions (what are you up to now that you finsihed and can we become friends on MSN?)

WORLDPEACE

and she has changed a lot since the last time I saw her, I saw recent pictures of her on one of my friends facebook profile. She is single as far as I know. She does not look impossible to get over, about 5 ft only, dark eyes, dark hair, not a 10 by any means, not even a six, but I know I'd be happy with her. Theres something mysterious about her I must decipher I want to get to know her.

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