Patience

_jayciemarie_

I'm the most impatient person I know. I'm definetely not spoiled, but I have the awful mentality that I want what I want. Without the typical cliches--can someone give me some insite on how to change that about myself. I have or had a boyfriend for 3yrs--which I feel is long enough to decide marriage or not. I guess he takes longer. I'm 37 and feel like I'm pushed for time if I want marriage and babies. I'm impatient. Same with weightloss. I haven't given up, but in my mind I feel I should be a size 0 instead of a size 16. Without negativity, can anyone shed some wisdom so that I can have a healthier outlook?

Ready2Rock206

The Guns and Roses song Patience is now going through my head. I'm pretty impatient too. One thing to consider is you didn't gain weight overnight, you're not going to lose it overnight. Anything worth having takes work. Also crash diets rarely have long term results - with weight loss the slow route is usually going to be the better route if you want lasting results.

With that said - maybe BF isn't the right guy if you don't have the same goals. At 37 if you want babies you're going to need to be a little impatient.

lavender_fairie

My 20's were very hard for me. I was doing everything right and I didn't know why things weren't improving. My mother told me something that has stuck with me to this day. She said, "positive changes aren't noticeable over short periods of time. Some things take years and years to happen, some don't. Don't look at your life in weeklong or even monthlong increments to see if you are progressing fast enough. Ask yourself if your life is better than it was 6 months ago, a year, etc" When I began to do that, I could see the progress I was making. Yes, I was broke and working hard, but I wasn't as broke as I had been the year before. Yes, my relationship was not where I had hoped it would be, but it was better than it had been 8 months prior.


I see you have lost 32 pounds- you are doing fabulously!! It's happening- I'm sure you would be happier if the loss happened quicker but it IS happening!


As for life things, it only takes one or a few bad decisions to see an immediate, bad result. But it can take years of work, patience, and good decisions for some things to finally go the way we want them to. Some things that take FOREvER that are/worth the long-lasting struggles in my life:

1. College
2. Paying off student loans- been paying on them for 10 years now and I'm not done yet
3. 2-year engagement to my hubby (I was ready to marry when he finally asked, after years of dating)
4. Mortgage payments- one day my house will be mine. It took me being into my late 30's for me to even think I might could buy one, and we have 20+ years to go. But it will be worth it.
5. My kids- I was ready waaay before hubby was and I'm glad I didn't rush him too fast into being a daddy. It's a huge step and both parents need to be onboard with it if possible.

It's hard, I know, but I try to take the long view and see if things are trending the way I want them to go. As my mind family likes to say, I gotta "get my mind right" about expectations.

Best of luck to you!! Don't get discouraged!!