Need to vent

jenbar

Oh No He DIDN'T!

Job title MOTHER AND...

Annual salary
Child Day Care Worker
$20,259
Teacher
$44,824
Taxi Driver
$27,346
Facilities Manager
$73,239
Short-order Cook
$27,477
Laundry Attendant
$17,917
Janitor
$22,440
Counselor
$27,638
CEO
$545,268
Administrative Assistant III
$37,143
Accounting Clerk III
$34,842
Licensed Practical Nurse
$38,111
Plumber I
$33,155
Automotive Mechanic I
$30,725
Cake Decorator
$21,340

TOTALING YOUR AVERAGE SALARY $1,001,724

Jobs listed in order from largest to smallest component of a stay-at-home mom's job. All salaries are national averages. Source: Salary.com, 2004.

The estimate composite salary calculated by Salary.com's team of compensation experts for a stay-at-home mom is based on a 90-hour work week, consisting of six 14-hour days and one 6-hour day. Job titles, responsibilites, and qualifications were considered and weighed on a scale of importance, frequency, and average time spent on tasks per day. Hourly rates of pay corresponding to the 15 job titles in the above table were applied to the 90-hour model and multiplied by 52 weeks a year to determine an annual salary. It assumes the mother has two children of school age.

wagsgirls

It's weird though....he never expressly forbade me from having any "alone time", but he has made it damn near impossible for me to do so. Every time I go somewhere-even to the grocery store-by myself, it's "How long are you going to be?" One night I wanted to go to the local pub to shoot a few games of pool (something I am good at) and he pitched a holy fit because HE would have been at home with the kids.
But he thinks NOTHING of going out for a few drinks at least once a week....double standard, anyone?

OMG... i think we are living the same life!! i work part time and even when i work he hardly ever has the kids, instead my 71 yr old gram will take them(she does not care for my hubby!) the one thing that drives me crazy is when they say they have babysit or even watch the kids, they are your kids!! anyway i can totally relate so feel free to email me if you ever need to chat!! ~cheyenne

GTOgirl1969

I agree with you. Why when they are with THEIR kids, it's "babysitting" or "watching", but when we do it, it's our JOB?

Yet another double standard:mad: :sick:

jenbar

I love when fathers say that!
Hello!! Are you 14 and watching someone else's kids for money? NO! They are yours and you don't babysit them!
I was getting flowers the other day and bumped into friends there with their 2.5 and baby. At the end when I was finished, they were still going and I offered to stay with them in the car so they could pick the rest of their flowers out. When I called my husband on the way home and told him I was watching the kids while my friends finished up he said, "oh, that's nice, here I am trying to get things done around here and your kids are driving me nuts and won't let me get anything done and here you are watching someone else's kids?!".
:huh: Huh?! I said "your kids are self sufficient (4 & 8) and I was doing a favor for my friends. Get over it!"
Then he said, "come home, I'm hungry!"
Again, Huh:huh: ?! Can't you feed yourself?
Good Lord, what is this world coming to?:huh:

GTOgirl1969

Sounds like your husband finally got a taste of what you go through every day. Tell him to get over it....I told mine that last night:devil: I can tell when my husband KNOWS I am 100% right about something....he sits there and doesn't say anything after I tell him about himself:bigsmile:

jenbar

Sounds like your husband finally got a taste of what you go through every day. Tell him to get over it....I told mine that last night:devil: I can tell when my husband KNOWS I am 100% right about something....he sits there and doesn't say anything after I tell him about himself:bigsmile:

Yup, he's a grown man! He can handle it!

GTOgirl1969

It's getting to where something is going to have to give. One of us is going to have to have a fundamental shift in the way we think. I know if I'm the one doing the shifting, it might mean the end of our relationship, but I'd rather be alone than miserable:frown:

wagsgirls

my husband and i have been together for about 10 years:frown: married 8. our kids are now 6 and 7(8 in may). i have tried the whole let him see what i have to go through all day thing, it doesn't work, it backfired on me!:mad: he still does nothing and i come home to a house that looks like a tornado blew threw it! he would lay on the couch or play his playstation and the kids just do whatever. now granted they are older and can somewhat fend for themselves, but not neatly! basically, my husband wants to be a husband/father and a bachelor all at the same time. i have put up with it for so long that i'm getting fed up and he is soon going to choose! it would be different if he could do both equally but it seems to me the bachelor side wins alot. my poor girls want so bad for him to spend time with them, especially my older one. i think because he was around more when she was little. but i do think that it is bad when your kids tell you that they want a new daddy that will do stuff with them!

GTOgirl1969

He said that he doesn't help me out more with the kids because he'd "been there, done that" when his other kids (from a prev. relationship) were younger. He did it all then, so I have to do it all now...I guess that's his logic....