What would you do...

marieskee
marieskee Posts: 120 Member
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So you are dating someone for a little over a year, And they tell you that they are married for the sole purpose of a green card(citizenship). Would you report them because that is the right thing to do or just shut up. This person told you full details of how they scammed the government by faking a marriage that cost 5000 plus legal fees. Not to mention faking a joint bank account, lying about where they live,studying the immigration interview questions,taking trips to the zoo and aquarium. Hiring another family to take photo's to pretend to be parents, both the immigrants and the"wife" parents know about it.
What would you do?

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  • trudijoy
    trudijoy Posts: 1,685 Member
    I'd break up with them immediately and get very far away. Is it against the law to withhold that information from the authorities?
  • almostplenty
    almostplenty Posts: 43 Member
    I'd break up with them but I wouldn't report them. Their actions aren't causing direct harm to anyone else. If they're married & working legally they're paying taxes like anybody else so who cares?
  • marieskee
    marieskee Posts: 120 Member
    I'd break up with them but I wouldn't report them. Their actions aren't causing direct harm to anyone else. If they're married & working legally they're paying taxes like anybody else so who cares?

    They work under the table (sends money back to Kenya)
  • marieskee
    marieskee Posts: 120 Member
    I'd break up with them immediately and get very far away. Is it against the law to withhold that information from the authorities?

    I hate to be the bad guy but there is so much guilt. Laws are there for a reason.
  • trudijoy
    trudijoy Posts: 1,685 Member
    I'd break up with them immediately and get very far away. Is it against the law to withhold that information from the authorities?

    I hate to be the bad guy but there is so much guilt. Laws are there for a reason.

    If your conscience or the law requires that you report this, then do it. But put space between you first.
  • SherryTeach
    SherryTeach Posts: 2,836 Member
    I would certainly end the relationship, but I would not feel an obligation to report the person.
  • prettyface55
    prettyface55 Posts: 508 Member
    Omg that's crazy!! Stay away!!
  • marieskee
    marieskee Posts: 120 Member
    Thanks everyone. I am leaving on the second of Dec. I have not been able to eat! I have been working out and drinking plenty of fluids. I am so STRESSED!!!
  • euonymust
    euonymust Posts: 21
    I'd break up with them but I wouldn't report them. Their actions aren't causing direct harm to anyone else. If they're married & working legally they're paying taxes like anybody else so who cares?

    ^ This. I would definitely NOT report them.
  • cafeaulait7
    cafeaulait7 Posts: 2,459 Member
    I understand the moral stress. But I feel like marriage here in the US is so unregulated that it's too far to require such stringent marriage regulation for green cards. If they can find someone to do it and it isn't bigamy (so it limits the number of fake spouses), then they are married as much as a lot of folks are married here.

    Or, put another way, if a US citizen wants to blow a marriage on that, who is to stop them, morally speaking? Legally they can, but I just don't get it from a moral point of view.
  • Iron_Lotus
    Iron_Lotus Posts: 2,295 Member
    Break up and go on with your life Karma has it's ways :)
  • doctorsookie
    doctorsookie Posts: 1,084 Member
    Break up and go on with your life Karma has it's ways :)

    ^^THIS
  • marieskee
    marieskee Posts: 120 Member
    Yep Karma is You Know What.
  • DeltaZero
    DeltaZero Posts: 1,197 Member
    Yep Karma is You Know What.

    No....i don't. Please share this vital insight.
  • tehboxingkitteh
    tehboxingkitteh Posts: 1,574 Member
    Break up and go on with your life Karma has it's ways :)
    I think it's broken in my life.

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