You know, I'll say this much about arranged marriage ...

Summer_Lunatic
Summer_Lunatic Posts: 543 Member
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At least it means SOMEONE considered who your in-laws would be. :huh:

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  • MG_Fit
    MG_Fit Posts: 1,143 Member
    I never thought of it like that :smile:
  • SugarBaby71
    SugarBaby71 Posts: 3,630 Member
    I wish I had thought of that. *face palm
  • DMZ_1
    DMZ_1 Posts: 2,889 Member
    There are advantages and disadvantages to arranged marriage.
  • THECaptainObvious
    THECaptainObvious Posts: 399 Member
    You could torture your parents if you were locked into this situation and your fiance had a sense of humor lol
  • FatHuMan1
    FatHuMan1 Posts: 1,028 Member
    Yes, but I don't have to bang my inlaws.
  • A_nonymous2
    A_nonymous2 Posts: 366 Member
    There are actually a few benefits to arranged marriage and only a few draw backs. I have many friends who are in them and we discuss it quite openly.

    I will qualify my comments with this is what I've experienced in my limited circle of influence:

    1) Whenever there is strife in a marriage, no one supports the marriage and jumps right to judging and advising divorce.
    Conversely, in an arranged marriage, the family and friends are much more likely to support working through whatever the troubles-du-jour may be.

    2) there does seem to be some thought given to how each party will interact/integrate into the others' family. This seems to be a big source of contention in non-arranged marriages

    3) In arranged marriages, it seems to be more of an interview process, where there is a match to what each wants from the other instead of basing the decision solely on emotion. The emotion comes later and more rationally-based.

    Drawbacks include the stereotypes:
    1) Underage/plural marriages
    2) Not mutually consensual
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    not to be knocked its probably the way marriages were originally designed you give me your daughter in exchange for this nice piece of land or this head of cattle.

    ive read its still pretty successful and there is happiness.
  • MuscleAndMascara
    MuscleAndMascara Posts: 1,260 Member
    I prob should of let my Dad pick my husband lol!!
  • FatHuMan1
    FatHuMan1 Posts: 1,028 Member
    not to be knocked its probably the way marriages were originally designed you give me your daughter in exchange for this nice piece of land or this head of cattle.

    ive read its still pretty successful and there is happiness.

    I've read that they found water on the moon. Doesn't mean you should plant a garden there though.
  • vtmoon
    vtmoon Posts: 3,436 Member
    It is viewed as a business partnership and a lot of things are matched to make sure it somewhat works because a lot of people are involved in the decision.

    I mean I can't go to a bank and expect them to give me a loan just cause I have this great feeling that I will succeed, they do a lot of background investigation to make sure the business is a solid investment for both sides.

    But on the other hand if the partners aren't interested in trying to make the venture successful then it might be rough.
  • SugarBaby71
    SugarBaby71 Posts: 3,630 Member
    A couple that works for the same company were chosen for each other by their families. I don't know all the details, but they met and were so happy with each other that they asked their parents if they could be married immediately... they were married in a matter of days and are extremely happy. They are both under 30 years old.
  • Ninguneado77
    Ninguneado77 Posts: 468
    What is the difference between arrange marriages and dating websites?… your parents won't charge you
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    not to be knocked its probably the way marriages were originally designed you give me your daughter in exchange for this nice piece of land or this head of cattle.

    ive read its still pretty successful and there is happiness.

    I've read that they found water on the moon. Doesn't mean you should plant a garden there though.

    I read they planted an American flag on the moon, but i dont think it grew more than a couple hot dogs.

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