After a Breakup

PRMinx

i get the "revenge" angle with trying to show someone what they are missing out on... but you're saying you are making changes to yourself in order to show them how awesome you are... except that basically admits that you were not the best you when you were with that person, and if they stayed with you, you would not try to get healthier and continue not being the best person. So they were right to get out.

Becoming an awesome person inside and out AFTER a relationship kind of validates the decision to end it, if you think about it.

Yes, I totally agree with one edit.

So they, or you, were right to get out.

mnwalkingqueen

I agree with others in the past I am so focused on my relationship and partner that I lose sight of taking care of me. Once we break up I get back to doing me and making sure I am taken care of.

MyChocolateDiet

Sometimes when you're in a relationship things get monotonous and stagnant. Then when you break up, you have to remake over you life and day's schedule anyways so it's a natural time to start something new.

MyChocolateDiet

I agree with others in the past I am so focused on my relationship and partner that I lose sight of taking care of me. Once we break up I get back to doing me and making sure I am taken care of.

People like this should never get into relationships. A relationship should never be ALL about the other person to the exclusion of self. When you have been alone and gotten to a place of putting yourself as a priority you will be ready to enter a new and entirely different kind of relationship where you are still allowed to care for the other person, but for yourself as well. I know it seems selfless and admirable to be all about the other person but it's not. It's just martyrdom thinly veiled as good character. It's like really not good for you or even your partner. Good luck on all your journeys....:flowerforyou:

puppy1002

We tired together and did for a month but fell off the wagon and started eating out all the time. I tried to stay stronge and told him no I didn't want to go out but after the 5-10 time of him asking I gave in to shut him up. Also he would always have something planned afterwork, going to this store or that store, so I didn't have time to myself to get rest so I could work out in the morning. Now that he's gone and my life is changing to not having him there I'm starting with good habits: waking up early to workout, buying only healthy food, more scheduled stuff instead of doing whatever he wanted to do.

ModernNerd

I figured I could get hot or get drunk after the last breakup. You're welcome, liver The last big breakup I had, the guy is a D1 athlete so he'd helped get me into weight training in the first place. When things ended, I wanted to prove to myself that I didn't need him to keep going. Now he's one of my close friends, I'm still into weights, and everything is hunky dory :flowerforyou:

wolverine66

i get the "revenge" angle with trying to show someone what they are missing out on... but you're saying you are making changes to yourself in order to show them how awesome you are... except that basically admits that you were not the best you when you were with that person, and if they stayed with you, you would not try to get healthier and continue not being the best person. So they were right to get out.

Becoming an awesome person inside and out AFTER a relationship kind of validates the decision to end it, if you think about it.

Yes, I totally agree with one edit.

So they, or you, were right to get out.

yes. my mistake. I just assumed they were the one jumping ship because of the feeling of revenge.

Greenrun99

You gotta get in shape to get that next future girlfriend.. Duh!!