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mylife4eva
mylife4eva Posts: 116
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i just too a pic this morning to compare my process since last month and my belly looks bigger! I feel like giving up. today is so not my day

1 month ago
http://i920.photobucket.com/albums/ad47/jardimgirl/e5d9dea8-4667-4254-b7a8-eee56a4bb3e4_zps9089e612.jpg

today
http://i920.photobucket.com/albums/ad47/jardimgirl/photo5_zps99b5c9c2.jpg

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  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,458 Member
    I didn't look at your pictures, but if you are tired of failing, quit giving up.

    Take some measurements with a tape measure. Pics aren't the only way to track.
  • AlongCame_Molly
    AlongCame_Molly Posts: 2,835 Member
    Pic #2 looks smaller to me.

    Are you taking measurements?
  • jwdieter
    jwdieter Posts: 2,582 Member
    I was kinda hoping for and dreading a beer joke.

    The pics are different angles and lighting, so no idea on that. Measurements are good.
  • mylife4eva
    mylife4eva Posts: 116
    Pic #2 looks smaller to me.

    Are you taking measurements?

    no i havent taken any measurements. ive only been doing this by pics
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,458 Member
    bah ha jw. I had to restrain myself on that title.
  • mikeykhan2003
    mikeykhan2003 Posts: 177
    Don't give up the goal just because the plan isn't working. Fix the plan.
  • aprilellis75
    aprilellis75 Posts: 4 Member
    Definitely measure. But I think the "bump" on pic 1 is more defined.

    Meaning pic 2 looks smaller to me. Not by heaps but still smaller.
  • erulasse
    erulasse Posts: 141 Member
    Your entire form looks smaller to me. Sometimes specific parts look bigger, because the rest of you has gotten smaller in comparison.
  • F00LofaT00K
    F00LofaT00K Posts: 688 Member
    It looks smaller to me... if you compare it to the rest of your body it looks smaller. It's a bit further out than your breasts in the first one and definitely not as far out in the second one.
  • nikilis
    nikilis Posts: 2,305 Member
    don't get discouraged, it takes more than a month to see big results. just keep going. don't turn all your good work from a positive into a negative because you have unrealistic expectations.

    just let it happen when it happens.
  • nikilis
    nikilis Posts: 2,305 Member
    1 month ago
    e5d9dea8-4667-4254-b7a8-eee56a4bb3e4_zps9089e612.jpg

    today
    photo5_zps99b5c9c2.jpg
  • Yanicka1
    Yanicka1 Posts: 4,564 Member
    Unless you got fat in a month, you won't get fit in a month.
  • twinsmom03
    twinsmom03 Posts: 90 Member
    Hard to see photo 2...it is darker and further away. You are also wearing different pants. Try wearing the same thing. Measurements will help. Don't give up!!!
  • HEALTHSIDEKICK
    HEALTHSIDEKICK Posts: 5
    Don't let your inner dialog get you down, we can be very cruel to ourselves! Pictures can be very deceiving! How are your clothes fitting? Have you done measurements? Also, are you working a plan that you feel you can do for the rest of your life? Picture yourself in 4 different occasion (Birthday party, wedding reception, cocktail hour....) and see if you can engage in all of them without having to white knuckle it through the event. Might be that the plan you are working, isn't working for you. This can lead to binge eating.....Sorry your feeling this way! What plan are you working right now? Also, BMR's on most all sights are a joke, way too many calories to consistently lose.....Trust me, you are NOT alone and NOT the only person that feels your "different" and just can't lose the weight! The plan your working is failing you, you CAN lose the weight with the right program, trust me.......been there!!
  • kgreenRDLDN
    kgreenRDLDN Posts: 248 Member
    I can see a slight difference, but it does not look like you gained. To me the top portion of your tummy looks a little more fit. Just remember you didn't put it on overnight so it wont come off overnight. We cannot pick where we burn off fat either. Take measurements of your hips, waist, stomach, arms, etc. Compare those monthly along with pictures.

    How are your clothes fitting? do they feel looser, tighter? Keep it up. I know the feeling, I'm having difficulty staying on track and stress is huge for me right now. I get frustrated when I lose some weight and then gain it all back within a day or two.
  • janessafantasma
    janessafantasma Posts: 312 Member
    I always lose weight in my hips and thighs first and my belly is always the last to go. When I reached my highest weight, which was somewhere over 200lbs (I'm only 4'11") and started working out and lost 30 lbs, I noticed right away that my muffin top looked WAY bigger because I was losing so much weight off my lower portion. It sucked and its still that way but you just have to deal with it. Weight isn't going to drop off the same all over your body and sometimes it will make your proportions look different. Don't give up, work on toning and strength exercises and don't fret over photos!
  • nohaynicknamesdisponibles
    nohaynicknamesdisponibles Posts: 94 Member
    Your body loses fat where it wants to and not where you would like to have it. I have observed in my body that it's "last fat in - first fat out".
  • 33Freya
    33Freya Posts: 468 Member
    This is marathon, not a sprint. Hurried weight loss is problematic in several ways. Bad for the body, creates loose skin, you tend to gain it all back... move your body, stay within your calorie goals, and be patient. Don't diet, but make sustainable changes that you can carry on.

    Take measurements, and if you must judge by photograph, take the photo at the same time of day, in the same clothes, with the same background, and the same distance from the camera.
  • TXEXrunner
    TXEXrunner Posts: 178 Member
    I'm with 33Freya - it's a marathon. Monitor your progress over the long term. The fact you are trying to improve yourself is great - your body thanks you! Don't lose that drive (and don't let these pics discourage you) - take measurements. Make adjustments along the way. Congrats on staying with it this far!
  • alienaliens
    alienaliens Posts: 64 Member
    well you definitely are smaller. let me tell ya, I wish my belly looked like yours.
  • AdrianaNiva
    AdrianaNiva Posts: 3 Member
    I'm not sure if you posted this because you felt you needed extra encouragement... I'm saying that because picture 2 clearly looks smaller and more toned. Regardless, if you want to keep track measuring is your best bet! Not just your stomach either, measure everything. One day you may have eaten more sodium and retained some water in your stomach but your thighs or hips or arms could all be smaller. Keeping weight can also be deceiving because if you're losing fat but gaining muscle you may not see a substantial weight difference. Don't give up, you look great. :)
  • Boogage
    Boogage Posts: 739 Member
    Your entire form looks smaller to me. Sometimes specific parts look bigger, because the rest of you has gotten smaller in comparison.

    I second this ^^^

    I feel like my belly is a little bigger at the moment too but then I tried something on and it seemed looser round my middle

    Its difficult to gauge progress just from these 2 pics. Take lots of pics from different angles and try to get some from the same angles as last time.

    Did you take the pics first thing in the morning? Food could make you bloat or TOM approaching or have you been working your tummy muscles enough for them to be pumped?

    Just stick to your plan, measure and see if theres any progress in another few weeks :o)
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,032 Member
    Don't let your inner dialog get you down, we can be very cruel to ourselves! Pictures can be very deceiving! How are your clothes fitting? Have you done measurements? Also, are you working a plan that you feel you can do for the rest of your life? Picture yourself in 4 different occasion (Birthday party, wedding reception, cocktail hour....) and see if you can engage in all of them without having to white knuckle it through the event. Might be that the plan you are working, isn't working for you. This can lead to binge eating.....Sorry your feeling this way! What plan are you working right now? Also, BMR's on most all sights are a joke, way too many calories to consistently lose.....Trust me, you are NOT alone and NOT the only person that feels your "different" and just can't lose the weight! The plan your working is failing you, you CAN lose the weight with the right program, trust me.......been there!!
    I wanted to tell you, I loved your response to the OP! I'm sure it will be supportive to many others as well. Inner Dialog, yep, it can make us or break us... but we can beat it with practice.

    Thanks again!

    OP...you look fabulous... keep it up:drinker: We all get discouraged from time to time... regarding your photos? I suggest wearing the same outfit in each photo and taking them the same distance apart...this might be what's tricking your eyes.

    It's been brought up a number of times already on here but I vote for the tape measure method..then you've got solid proof no matter what the scale says, no matter what your photos try and tell you... a tape measure never lies.:wink::heart:
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    How are your clothes fitting?
  • tottie06
    tottie06 Posts: 259 Member
    Well you started in Nov, right? So you have only been at this for one month max? I can see a difference in your pictures -normal progress for the first month IMO. And your skin looks tighter/smoother. Most people get frustrated during the first month and a half. But it takes time for the body to adjust to new habits. If you are exercising, or if you have changed your diet at all, your body is changing from the inside out. NOT the other way around. Don't worry! You will get there!! Everyone has to start somewhere. You think those with six packs were born that way? Takes dedication and commitment. Stick to it hun!!
  • mylife4eva
    mylife4eva Posts: 116
    ty everyone. ive been having a tough few weeks since thanksgiving (from eating more fats and salts and from taking care of my son, who got pneumonia) i haven't been noticing much about my clothes cause here in new england its so cold that all i wear are yoga pants and long sleeves. ive actually started my dieting in late August, early September and was imo doing great, now the holidays are throwing me off. I havent been doing exercises like i should be, and i have such bad fatigue that i need to push myself to work out. its good to hear im not alone or am the only one going thru this.
  • PunkyRachel
    PunkyRachel Posts: 1,959 Member
    You look about the same in both pictures, only the second picture your stomach looks firmer/smoother. Plus it has only been a month, results sometimes take awhile. Keep at it, don't give up!
  • cevalid
    cevalid Posts: 59
    My belly hasn't gone down a lot either and its been 1 and a half months (8kg lost). Cruel cruel fate has seen my boobies disappear instead.

    But of course your frustrated- esp cause of holiday eating and not getting to do the exercise you planned to do.

    If an exercise plan is too difficult to keep up, maybe think of a less taxing plan that you can actually stick to?

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