I think my girl f has a eating disorder

conqkm11

Yeah i have read about the subject and she surely matches..her body looks different every time i c her ..noticeable difference , she is depressed and sad most of the time she refuses to tell me why and she keep saying that she is stressed out and she always comes up with excuses about eating out and i accidentally found hidden sweets etc in her kitchen ..stuff that she is supposed to hate or cut out ..i dont know what type of eating disorder does she have but she is already in shape and she likes to workout ..maybe bulimia ? ... should i tell her that i noticed those stuff or what ?

PaleoPath4Lyfe

It sounds like she has bulimia..................whatever she is battling is causing her to most likely binge and purge it later.

Please get her some help. It can ruin her teeth, destroy the lining of her throat, etc from the acid from throwing up.

I was going through this years ago.

rosemary98

she may also be suffering from anorexia. that would result in restricting her food, weight loss. as for the sweets, many anorexics have periods of bingeing/purging or just hidding and saving "off-limit" foods. you could certainly bring it up to her. But also keep in mind that she may just be going through a hard time and stress has caused weight loss.

conqkm11

It sounds like she has bulimia..................whatever she is battling is causing her to most likely binge and purge it later.

Please get her some help. It can ruin her teeth, destroy the lining of her throat, etc from the acid from throwing up.

I was going through this years ago.

yeah i think its bulima but i also read that most bulimics wont say that they are because they are ashamed ...so im afraid that telling her that i know will make things worse what do u think i should do ?

conqkm11

she may also be suffering from anorexia. that would result in restricting her food, weight loss. as for the sweets, many anorexics have periods of bingeing/purging or just hidding and saving "off-limit" foods. you could certainly bring it up to her. But also keep in mind that she may just be going through a hard time and stress has caused weight loss.

i dont think its anorexia because she gains and loses weight , i will talk to her and c how she responds ..i hope its not somthing serious

ModernNerd

Is she close with her family? Perhaps you should share your concerns with them first and develop an approach together. This is a big deal and I'd imagine you'll want as big of a support safety net as possible for her. In the meanwhile, keep being a good bf and remind her that you're attracted to her for her mind, not her body :flowerforyou:

delanakatrella1

I had an eating disorder about 6 years ago. From the outside it probably looked like I was ok - I didn't eat much, but I made sure that when I did eat it was in front of people so they would think I was fine. I obsessively kept myself to 200-400 calories a day, and if I had to eat a "big meal" (over 400 calories) I wouldn't eat the next day to make up for it. I was married and my husband didn't notice, nor did the roommate we shared our house with.

First, you should be commended for noticing any possible signs. Second, realize that you will probably have to approach the subject carefully. Spend a few weeks actually intentionally noticing behaviors. Write down what you observe (going to the bathroom right after meals is a classic indicator) and keep track of what you notice her eating. Keep an eye on food stocks in the kitchen - one trick I'd use was to have a lot of non-perishables and just shuffle them around in the cupboards so it would look like there were new things, instead of just re-arranged old things.

When you have a good idea of the details of the disorder, it is time to circle the wagons and possibly get outside, independent help to have an intervention. Remember that the reason you care is because you care for her and want her to be healthy and happy. Explain your worries and the reasons why you are worried (use the cataloged details you've been collecting to make your case), understand that she likely won't want to admit to it or face it herself. Just ask to be a part of helping her log calories, and if you suspect bulimia ask her to stay with you following meals to avoid the purging behavior. There are a number of online resources you can use.