Sibling weight rivalry

Fridaklo77

Do you sometimes compare yourself to your sibling?? I have very thin sister, and just recently thought ...why am I so stuck on a certain size? Well, the answer was because my sister was always this size - I guess it's my ....I MADE IT SIZE lol! Do you have anyone that you compare yourself with or ?? Does it help or hurt the cause??

MB_Positif

Well, my sister and I are polar opposite body types. She was always long and lean and I am more short and athletic looking. When I was heavier I used to HATE seeing myself in pics with her. However now that I have slimmed down, she is gaining weight fast and I feel terrible. I got her to join MFP and she just hasn't kept up with it! We have so swapped places though...

Aleta7

It is best not to make comparisons; unless it is your before and after weight. Even siblings are different in metabolism and physical make up. It is hard not to. But, you are you not your sibling nor anyone else.

candirose69

I have a twin sister who has ALWAYS been smaller then me, as in her birth weight was smaller heh heh. It can get me down at times but I've had to make a decision to not make my weight a competition, or else i get sad and that leads to binging. I have to be happy when she looses weight, I need to be happy that she's healthy
We have also now become gym buddies which is great motivation because although she weighs less then me I can squat heavier then her we all have different gifts I suppose

Pepper2185

I've always compared myself to my sister.

She's always been athletic, and she worked as a personal trainer/group fitness instructor for years. I always figured we had the same genetics so it was a fair person to compare myself to.

But now I'm 20 pounds lighter than her, and she compares herself to me. Funny how things change!

auntiebabs

I have 3 stick thin sisters and was always the chunky one. I always knew "More of you to love" was code for fat.

My sister's took after my Dad's side of the family.
On the other hand my Mom was always over weight and was very supportive when as a teen I decide to lose weight.
Grateful that she taught me healthy eating habits, not deprivation and that a treat now and then is okay. We just can't get away with it the same way that my sisters could.

Amandabelanger614

I have the exact problem with my sister. I have always been overweight and she has always been thin. Within the last few years she has started really eating healthy and my mom infront of me told her how great she looks. When i eat like 1200 cals a day and workout 6 times a week with very little scale movement. She doesnt even have to do anything to be thin. So i do compare us alot. Hopefully one day, we can be a similar size.
Sigh.

thickerella

I am 5'8" and my sister is 5'0. She has A cups and I had DDs before I turned 15. She can fit in pre-teen clothing. Even if I were at my ideal weight, I could not do that. It would be absurd to compare us...and yet for as long as I can remember, people have asked me why I am not pretty like my sister.

**sigh**

marinashakeel

i have always always been compared to my sister and i think that made a lil bit jelly i know i shouldn't have been jealous but you do get jealous when people keep on telling you , you are fat and unhealthy and blah, blah.. my sister is 3 years older than me but everyone always says that i look older than her and that kinda pinch me in the heart ... well sister rivalry always goes on thats how the universe works

_AlabamaSlamma_

I've spent the last year and a half doing my best to get to 180 or lower, and I will sooner or later. My single brother who's 10 years younger tells me he's trying to get from 168 back up to 185 where he feels a lot better, but he "just can't".

sarrah_n

My sister and I are only 18 months apart and we have always been competitive. Now that we are both grown adults, the competion includes fitness and body shape. I doubt it the rivalry will ever end, buts its all done with love

queenbekks

I was always the heaviest gal in the family (out of 7 kids!) I lost a lot of weight several years ago, while my sisters all gained... Now I have gained back 10 lbs of it, and one of my sisters lost a lot in a fairly unhealthy way. Now she keeps rubbing it in my face. I never did that to anyone. Its really frustrating that she feels that kind of competitiveness and I know its going to come back to haunt her when she goes back to her old habits and gains back all the weight!

cmcollins001

mammamaurer

lol i have two brothers one is 300lbs and 6'3 with mood issues the other is 140 and 5'10 with astronomical bp and high cholesterol..im 5'6 195 (other than that freakishly healthy)... so nope we're good:ohwell:

annekka

My sister is very much the classic tall thin person, and I'm more of the short, athletic, sturdy farm stock type. Now that I've gained weight and lost it, I feel I have an advantage over my sister who has never had to worry about what she eats...I know how to lose weight if I need to where as she doesn't! There is something to be said for that if in the future they're in the other position. As far I know, it's me and my father who are the gym rats of the family and my sister isn't. Whereas I have gained muscle and strength, I'm sure she's more of a skinny fat person.:laugh:

SoDamnHungry

Growing up, I always compared myself to my sister. Turns out it was dumb of me, because we have totally different body types. It only took me 24 years to figure it out. =p

petstorekitty

Hello!

I have an older sister and we have exactly the same body type but she is much more overweight than I am.
We were always overweight growing up but when I started college I worked really hard to lose weight and learn how to keep it off (it doesn't always stay off but whatever)
so anyway 10 years later I'm way smaller than I was and than her.

as far as comparing - it only makes me sad that I cannot help her more. She's stubborn and set in her ways but I know she is miserable being overweight as I was.

she doesn't seem to hold my weight against me and I don't judge her for hers.

I do compare myself to every other skinny girl on Earth though. I live in LA so even though I'm petite, I'm still fat! Haa..

It's nice to go home to my family and feel normal.

endoftheside

It's not a rivalry, but we all notice and it has flip flopped around through the years.

BinaryPulsar

Sisters can have very different body types.

In my family, I don't have a sister just a twin brother, but I do have an aunt that's just 5 years older, and my aunt and my mother and I are all the same size and weight, but even still our body types are very different. I have a smaller rib cage and waist and a curvier booty and thighs (mostly muscle). But, we weigh the same, and are all very small. They carry more weight in the midsection, and have very slender legs.

chandanista

I am shorter than my 3 bio sisters, however we are mostly built the same: thinner bone structure than our Norwegian-British cousins, stockier than our French-Portuguese cousins. Yes I compare myself to my cousins, lol. Recently I visited my French-Portuguese gramma and she actually compared me (favorably) to my track-scholarship18 year old sister. I just laughed and moved the conversation along because that felt really awkward; I know my sister is in incredible shape, even if we're shaped similarly, I know how hard she works.

My adopted sisters are all shorter than me, all genetically built so different that there's no way we can compare ourselves to each other.

marekdds

It is hard not to compare. Growing up, I was the chub and my sister was slender. I had to learn how to eat and have worked really hard to get the weight off. Now she is the chub, but I don't judge her for it. I wish she would lose some b/c she would be healthier. We have never been ugly to each other about weight. It was all in my head and my problem.

mamma_nee

I have 5 sisters and of course i have always been the heaviest and the shortest of the bunch . For once I would like to get fit and just blend in with them ! lol

ladymiseryali

I used to, until I realized that she's shorter than me and her body type is much different than mine. She also used to be more athletic in high school, which accounted for her being in better shape. She's kind of ruler shaped with no bum, while I'm pear shaped with lots of bum. lol.

metaphoria

I'm second thinnest in a family of ten. I'm a size 12-14. My thinnest sister got a tummy tuck to get rid of excess skin that wasn't going away. I'm hoping to do the same if it's needed when I get to goal weight. Its funny, I used to only compare myself to one sister who was closest to my age because I never thought I could be anywhere near the size of the thinnest sister.

AmyMgetsfit

My sister and I are a year apart. She has never gained weight. She has stayed her nice thin self all her life. Me on the other hand can gain weight just by smelling the food. We are now the same size since I have lost 45lbs. My sister doesn't eat or work out, I do both. I bet she doesn't eat 500 calories a day, just drinks coffee and maybe treat herself to a leaf of lettuce.

KuroNyankoSensei

I've always been the fat one in the family, which was kind of a harrowing experience considering everyone /outside/ my family always commented how small and thin I was considering I ate so freaking much XP. My brother's nickname for me is remorseless eating machine ;P.

My oldest sister is 5'5" and 110 lbs, my other sister is the same height as me with two kids, she's 5'2" but 90ish lbs. She was 130 lbs post-pregnancy and man did she complain about gaining so much weight for her second pregnancy, since she was 90-something lbs before that, and in her first pregnancy, she gained only 15 lbs. Both my nephews are very healthy by the way XP. The women in my family are typically small naturally. Also, my mother is 5'4" and 100-105 lbs.

From elementary school, there was always the comment of my legs being fat (by my family), and then 7th grade and a lot of depression later, I guess I was very heavy, and well, they laughed (quite loudly) behind my back about how fat I was on a daily basis. Thus, I was the fat one and slumped in self-confidence for years and years, and I'm still feeling it now o-o...

I started losing weight a couple years ago, and they were absolutely raving about it, telling me good job to my face and the like.

My oldest sister was quite snippy about her bridesmaid dresses for her wedding, which I was apart of and had to unfortunately model for her. My sister-in-law who came along to help asked what size I was, my sister replied snidely for me, "Get her a size /4/." She picked up a size 2 and laughed and said, "Can you even fit this?!" and dumped it in my lap. Being a size 1-2 already, well, I did and she seemed quite displeased about it, since I was supposed to be fat.

Of course, being 111 lbs my for sister's big day wasn't enough for her, she told my other sister (VERY LOUDLY) behind my back that I looked so fat in her wedding pictures that it was embarrassing and that my other sister was the best looking bridesmaid that day. Uhm, thanks x.x;;

Did I mention my mother sabotages me whenever she thinks I've become skinnier than her? She takes me to a buffet whenever she thinks so, and looks at me with a self-satisfied grin whenever she sees me pack on the weight again.

It's been a struggle, but I'll get there someday...

Fridaklo77

wow, kuroNyankoSen, your sister sounds like she is jealous of you! But, see my point..... sometimes the rivalary adds to the negativity. I actually feel better when Iam not around my family - no one to tell me that I am bigger than my sister. So............. i gueess we have to be balanced in all we do.

hannah_ryann

When I was younger, I pined for my younger sister's super thin body. As I've gotten older, I've accepted that I'm built like my dad's side (hella leg muscles and pretty stocky) and my sister takes after our mom's side (thin legs, more apple-shaped). My sister's an inch taller and a good 25 pounds lighter than I am but the more I learn to love myself, the less I wish to be in someone else's body. I love and accept my body for what it looks like and what it can do right now, and comparing myself to my sister is useless because we're built completely different. My sister has been nothing but supportive of my weight loss and she's never had an issue with her weight, but if she did gain weight and want to get back to her thinner weight, I would do everything I could to support her.

auntiebabs

I've always been the fat one in the family, which was kind of a harrowing experience considering everyone /outside/ my family always commented how small and thin I was considering I ate so freaking much XP. My brother's nickname for me is remorseless eating machine ;P.

My oldest sister is 5'5" and 110 lbs, my other sister is the same height as me with two kids, she's 5'2" but 90ish lbs. She was 130 lbs post-pregnancy and man did she complain about gaining so much weight for her second pregnancy, since she was 90-something lbs before that, and in her first pregnancy, she gained only 15 lbs. Both my nephews are very healthy by the way XP. The women in my family are typically small naturally. Also, my mother is 5'4" and 100-105 lbs.

From elementary school, there was always the comment of my legs being fat (by my family), and then 7th grade and a lot of depression later, I guess I was very heavy, and well, they laughed (quite loudly) behind my back about how fat I was on a daily basis. Thus, I was the fat one and slumped in self-confidence for years and years, and I'm still feeling it now o-o...

I started losing weight a couple years ago, and they were absolutely raving about it, telling me good job to my face and the like.

My oldest sister was quite snippy about her bridesmaid dresses for her wedding, which I was apart of and had to unfortunately model for her. My sister-in-law who came along to help asked what size I was, my sister replied snidely for me, "Get her a size /4/." She picked up a size 2 and laughed and said, "Can you even fit this?!" and dumped it in my lap. Being a size 1-2 already, well, I did and she seemed quite displeased about it, since I was supposed to be fat.

Of course, being 111 lbs my for sister's big day wasn't enough for her, she told my other sister (VERY LOUDLY) behind my back that I looked so fat in her wedding pictures that it was embarrassing and that my other sister was the best looking bridesmaid that day. Uhm, thanks x.x;;

Did I mention my mother sabotages me whenever she thinks I've become skinnier than her? She takes me to a buffet whenever she thinks so, and looks at me with a self-satisfied grin whenever she sees me pack on the weight again.

It's been a struggle, but I'll get there someday...

Holy Cow! Ouch!!!!
It's really hard not to listen to your family, but it sounds like they've got skewed expectations.
Focus on a healthy you, and let them all sod off.