Has losing weight changed you?

Losingthedamnweight

Are you the same kind of person? Do you have the same traits and personality or have you changed at all? Were you shy and now you're not? Did you have anxiety and now you don't? Or did you lose weight and were exactly the same, but smaller? Share your experience!

Holly_Roman_Empire

Not gonna lie, I care more about my overall apearance now. I've gotten a little more vain, but I think I've gotten more shy. All the looks/conversations I get compared to before can overwhelm me at times.

PinkCoconut

I just became more of the person I was before. Whereas before I was too shy and had too low self-esteem to allow myself to be me, now I feel freer to be myself. I discovered through my journey more of myself and I gained confidence not through the numbers dropping but through the determination, persistence and constant challenge I had to go through to achieve my goal. My personality is the same, I'm just happier because I'm proud of what I was able to accomplish. But I didn't just work on my fitness and eating throughout the journey, I had a lot of mindset work to get through as well and it was doing that more than working out and eating right that's gotten me to where I am today!

kr1stadee

I'm less bitter (I used to think that all those who weighed less than me were bit*hes... but it was me that was the bit*h!!)
I'm happier
I'm still shy, but a little more outgoing and active.

chelstakencharge

In more ways than one....I know realize my value and no one will ever mistreat me again. I also hated shopping before but now I love to shop and buy all the cute size small clothes.

Siansonea

I'm exactly the same. I was a b____ before too. :laugh:

Holly_Roman_Empire

I'm exactly the same. I was a b____ before too. :laugh:

You're hilarious. I'm glad we're pals. :laugh:

Siansonea

I'm exactly the same. I was a b____ before too. :laugh:

You're hilarious. I'm glad we're pals. :laugh:

Me too. :drinker: :flowerforyou:

walkdmc

I'm very different. I negotiate much better and don't tolerate poor treatment. I set boundaries with family members where before, I had virtually no boundaries.

I'm also very picky when it comes to clothes now. Before, I wore whatever fit, albeit, poorly. Now, I make sure things look good.

seltzermint555

I feel that I am pretty much the same after losing 100 lb.

I have more confidence. I also have less anxiety in some ways. I used to dodge full-length mirrors, hide from cameras, sit in the chair without arms, fidget with my clothing, etc. Now I don't do those things.

mmm_drop

I'm an uppity b*tch now and find I am too good for just about everyone; I also have to stop and check out every mirror.











But really, I am much happier and more open than I was before and I have a better sense of self and more love for myself and others now. (Okay, and I do flex in mirrors sometimes.)

89nunu

I just got more crazy!
Crazy organised! Getting up crazy early! Getting drunk crazy fast!

determined_erin

I've completely changed this year. I went from not wanting to go out, hating my body, not fitting in clothes, etc to a happier and more confident person. I wrote on my personal blog every single day this year and completely see the difference in my attitude and lifestyle from January to December. It's amazing!

MB_Positif

I am pretty much the same. The biggest change is that I don't avoid having pics taken anymore.

skullshank

not really.
perhaps a little bump in the self esteem department, but i blame that on my wonderful FL 110%.

Alonzo_Harris

I didn't change. Not exactly sure why I would though. It's just weight. Obviously I feel better about my appearance, but other than that...same.

seltzermint555

But really, I am much happier and more open than I was before and I have a better sense of self and more love for myself and others now.

I feel this way too!!

I also notice that I'm a lot more open to making new female friends, and they seem much more interested in befriending me (I'm talking about in "real life", not just on this website). At first it kind of bugged me because I felt like people who may have written me off for being fatter are starting to see me as more of a "normal" chubby woman instead and feel that I'm acceptable size wise. But now as time goes on, I think it's probably 1 part that and 5 parts me being friendlier and more open!

ponycyndi

Yes. And it isn't all good, either.

I spend WAY more time looking at myself in the mirror. I don't have anxiety attacks when I see a scale (like at the dr. office).
I also compare myself to other people more, like, was I ever THAT big? I am also not afraid of doing physical things, like walking long distances, climbing, etc. when before, I couldn't sit down on the floor because getting up again was too difficult.

Huffdogg

I'm lighter.

liesevanlingen

I feel sexy much more often now. I don't avoid having my picture taken. I'm more confident. Oh yes, and I'm cold all the time now without the extra padding.

MzzFaith

I care more about myself than ever.

SezxyStef

I wouldn't say I have changed per say. In my 20's before I had my son I was confident, out going, fun loving etc.

After I had my son and I yo yo'd I lost some confidence and became less out going....

I still had lots of confidence but not as much as I used to.

Now after my weight loss I am bordering that line again...confidence/cocky...but I always did...:drinker:

That could have something to do with age tho too (turned 40 when I decided it was time for me)...who knows.

lshender

I'm healthier and more confident. I'm now the one who uses the steps instead of the elevator and parks in the farthest spot from the mall entrance. I have to admit shopping is much harder. Too many choices!

Ejourneys

I'm:
1. less tired
2. more upbeat
3. more serene
4. more adventurous
5. less self-conscious
6. more sensitive to cold
7. less comfortable on hard seats

dmoppy

My wife and kids say I'm grumpier more - maybe it was the "hangry period" when I was trying to lose weight. I would always say back "oh you liked me fat, 'cause fat men are jolly." Now that I've been at target for a year I hope I'm normalizing to a "happier" place. Like others have said I do look at myself in the mirror more so my vanity is up. My biggest hobby now is my health (watching what I eat, running and now trying lifting) so my wife will tell you I am out of the house more. She has told me she gets tired of me asking "where are the wrappers from X or how much of Y is in this so I can log the calories." Maybe my hobby is really just calorie counting.

MrsJuli4B

I've changed.

I feel more sexy.
I don't care if anyone sees me reading food labels.
I look at myself more in the mirror.
I feel the cold.
I beg to have my picture taken.
I am more confident.
I love clothes shopping.

I am a very different person to the one I was a little under a year ago.

focuseddiva

I can answer this. I've been as high as 350 lbs and as little as 140 lbs. I'm the same person.

What's changed is how people treat me.

At 350 lbs, I was invisible. Which was preferrable to being made fun of openly but total strangers. One guy yelled acorss at a Denny's to me that I was Goodyear blimp. Will never forget that.

At 140 lbs, I was getting more attention from men. It was flattering but unnerved me, because it validated how shallow people can be. And yet I started to crave that attention to validate ME. Oh, the irony.

At 350 lbs., I worried about going ANYWHERE. Why? Didn't know if I would fit in the: movie seat, amusement park ride, airplane seat. This was before seat belt extenders were really available. I once had a cross-country flight where I couldn't buckle my seat belt and kept a jacket on my lap to cover it up so I wouldn't be called on it or hassled b the flight attendants. I used to book window seats so that I would only have to worry about hanging over on one side of the seat.

At 140 lbs, I didn't think twice about going or doing anything. Chairs were no problem. It was about living my life, not worrying about wedging myself into a chair.

At 350 lbs, I was suicidal. My fertility was threatened. I felt my career path was bleak because of such outrageous and obvious bias.

At 140 lbs, I got promoted three times in 5 years.

At 350 lbs, I berated myself all day long for allowing things to get to that point. I avoided mirrors. Photos. I missed out on life.

At 140 lbs., I didn't care who had a camera. I looked forward to shopping for clothes. I was always surprised when I could look for clothes that I LIKED versus what would fit me.

Throughout all of it, I never changed at all. The world changed how they treated me. And it sucked to realize that. I also realized I spent so much of my life missing, well, life. I always wondered about the things I could have done, the people I could have met, the achievements that I might have had. The trajectory of my life might be very different.

But I will tell you one thing.

Being fat and obese for most of my young adult life DID help. It made me more empathetic. It made me give a crap about others, because I certainly didn't care about myself. It made me work harder in my career. It made me develop an awesome personality and wicked sense of humor (okay, as a form of self-defense but also to charm people before they had the chance to realize that I could topple over and crush them at any given moment).

Now, at age 41, I see that I will never change. And people don't really change, actually. But the world will judge, and that is just a fact. This time around, I'm trying to lose 25 pounds to be healthy and to live what I have left of my life in as healthfully of a way as I can. I have two awesome kids depending on me, and that's what counts most of all.

gracielynn1011

1. I have more confidence in myself. I do find myself speaking out more and then my mind will say "What are you doing? If you speak up, they will see you!". And then I instantly fade back in the shadows.
2. I smile more, or they tell me that at work anyway.
3. I move more. I love listening to music and I find myself dancing around while doing my daily tasks.
4. Like another poster, I am more vain. I take better care of my skin and spend a little more time on my morning routine. I figure why spend all this time and effort and still look frumpy.

I have also noticed that people do treat me differently. Especially when shopping. I was at a store recently that I hadn't been too in a while. The same lady was there as last time. On my last visit, she just vaguely greeted me and waved me over to the plus size section. This time, not recognizing me, she greeted me pleasantly and then proceeded to follow me around and redirecting me to the smaller sections "because there is no way you are a large, you need a small, medium at biggest."

Eta: I knew this lady only wanted to make a sale, but I could have really used her help back when I had no idea how to dress myself stylishly.

suziepoo1984

I feel healthier and fitter. Love to dress and go out!Love to look at my pics,earlier i hated that. Other than the looks part, rest stays the same.

Mr_Knight

These are interesting comments. Pretty much everybody is (self) reporting they're a "better" person after the weight loss.

That has....implications.

focuseddiva

Implications such as ... ?