I feel so guilty.

123HealthyHappyMe
123HealthyHappyMe Posts: 7
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Me and my family are going out for dinner today for my birthday and I feel so guilty because I will be eating 2973 calories in total. Help??

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  • soupandcookies
    soupandcookies Posts: 212 Member
    Well, it's one day, and it's unlikely to derail you in the longrun....

    But if you already know you'll be eating that much, and you already feel guilty... then why are you doing it? No one is making you eat that many calories. Just eat the same thing, but eat a little less. I mean, it's fine if you want to eat it - not a biggie - but if you know it's going to make you feel bad, why go through that?

    Happy birthday!
  • smc864
    smc864 Posts: 570 Member
    I had a cheat day yesterday and had 2500 calories... life will go on, just get back on track tomorrow. It's your birthday for goodness sake!
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    You're still in a deficit for the week. Chill.
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!

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  • Fuzzipeg
    Fuzzipeg Posts: 2,301 Member
    Its your birthday. It is about being together as a family and celebrating you. Next year they will be celebrating a 22 carrot you, not the gold plated one you have been.

    You are not obliged to eat every crumb on your plate. You might have been brought up, to waste not, want not, but it you are full you are full, let yourself feel full. Chew each mouthful you take well and savour it the flavour.

    Most of all Savour the Moment. Have a good meal
  • monjacq1964
    monjacq1964 Posts: 291 Member
    guilt is a wasted emotion. If its going to make you feel bad, don't do it. If you know what the consequences are, and you're going to do it anyway, then don't feel bad about it. its not going to get you anywhere.
  • Shaquana2
    Shaquana2 Posts: 38
    This is what i do, i still eat the things that i love in smaller portion size. And what i have realized is that you want even be able to eat no where near as much as you think because im pretty sure your stomach have shrink. I can eat no where near as much as normally could. Bet you'll end up having to take leftovers. My mom also taught me to eat a salad first and that will make you not as much of your main dish. Hope this help. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!! ENJOY
  • laddyboy
    laddyboy Posts: 1,565 Member
    In all actuality it may help you out.
    If you've been really strict and eating perfect then throwing your body something like a birthday meal can rev up that metabolism.
    It's ok to have a cheat meal. Enjoy it then get back to work tomorrow.
    The fact that you feel guilty about it just mean you are dedicated to a healthy you and that's awesome.

    Happy Birthday.
  • 2dare2dream
    2dare2dream Posts: 104 Member
    HAPPY BIRTHDAY*** Enjoy your day and remember you dont have to feel guilty bout it, you can compensate the rest of the week by watching your intake and lowering a little each day or just relax chill and enjoy your birthday with family and friends. Life is too short to worry bout taking one day off, none of us know whats ahead tomorow, so relax enjoy and have fun,
  • Jamie22184
    Jamie22184 Posts: 33 Member
    Don't feel guilty. It's your birthday...enjoy it! Cheat days happen. Move on and remember...tomorrow is a new day.

    Happy birthday!!!:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
  • HollisGrant
    HollisGrant Posts: 2,022 Member
    Me and my family are going out for dinner today for my birthday and I feel so guilty because I will be eating 2973 calories in total. Help??

    Happy birthday!!

    Do what you want to do. It's your day. :drinker:

    If you feel bad about the calories, eat at home first -- fill up on oatmeal or soup or steamed greens. Then have a tiny amount of food and a piece of cake at the restaurant. Whatever you do, I hope you have a great time.
  • jennyjcss
    jennyjcss Posts: 439 Member
    Me and my family are going out for dinner today for my birthday and I feel so guilty because I will be eating 2973 calories in total. Help??

    Happy B'day, just enjoy the foods. A day of good foods for a week long hardwork of maintaining within calories...its alright ; )
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    Happy Birthday!!!

    Take note, you said "will be eating." In all likelihood you won't even finish it all since you rarely eat like that anymore. If you do, so what, there will be days like this for the rest of your life!
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    Three days of the year I don't log my calories: my birthday, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. Hasn't derailed me yet.
  • Nissi51
    Nissi51 Posts: 381 Member
    Happy Birthday!

    One smaller calorie meal will not get you to your goal any more than one larger calorie meal will de-rail you from your goal.

    If you have been in a deficit for some time a higher calorie meal may be of benefit as leptin levels (google leptin if you don't know what it is) may be decreased
  • cmeiron
    cmeiron Posts: 1,599 Member
    In all actuality it may help you out.
    If you've been really strict and eating perfect then throwing your body something like a birthday meal can rev up that metabolism.
    It's ok to have a cheat meal. Enjoy it then get back to work tomorrow.
    The fact that you feel guilty about it just mean you are dedicated to a healthy you and that's awesome.

    Happy Birthday.

    Actually, this smacks of a really unhealthy relationship with food. OP, it's your birthday. On this day and other days of celebration there is going to be food - lots of really delicious food. Occasional indulgences - even going waaaay over your daily intake goal - are absolutely NOT going to stop, damage or undo your weight loss progress. Might you see temporary increases on the scale? Sure! Water weight gains are a funny thing. Will it go back down? Absolutely. Is it worth stressing about? Never. If you're going to have long-term success with this thing, and make it sustainable in the long run, you need to stop thinking of food as the enemy, and recognize that there will be times like this that you will - and can - overindulge. And that it's totally ok. Enjoy your party, the company, and the food. Pick your favorite things, enjoy them, and then the next day just get right back to your normal game plan.
    Happy birthday!
  • Ninkyou
    Ninkyou Posts: 6,666 Member
    It's not the end of the world. Relax, enjoy the food and then the next day just get right back to it. A few days over here and there aren't going to be that detrimental to your goal.

    I just got back from a 9 day vacation in Florida. 3 of those days were spent at theme parks, and the others unpacking an apartment for my sister in law. We ate out for all but 3 meals. I still lost weight. And I enjoyed the heck out of myself.

    Point being, stop worrying.
  • vanguardfitness
    vanguardfitness Posts: 720 Member
    Don't eat anything all day?
    Go for a real long walk and help pad a deficit

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