Requests from the "The Great Beyond" - thoughts?

DamePiglet
DamePiglet Posts: 3,730 Member
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Someone posted this on FB...
Many people thought this was an oh so lovely act.
Others thought it seemed invasive or awkward.

Your thoughts?

http://www.buzzfeed.com/rachelzarrell/two-years-after-she-passed-away-a-woman-gives-her-family-an?bffb

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  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    This made my eyes tear up, hun.
    Thank you so much for posting it <3.

    I needed a smile today.
  • wild_wild_life
    wild_wild_life Posts: 1,334 Member
    I think it is a combination of lovely, invasive and awkward.
  • doctorsookie
    doctorsookie Posts: 1,084 Member
    Beautiful
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
    When I'm dead, the letter I send to my wife's new guy will be quite different.
  • FatHuMan1
    FatHuMan1 Posts: 1,028 Member
    I think it is a combination of lovely, invasive and awkward.


    Pretty much this. It has the potential to go sideways in a hurry if not handled delicately and with care. Not everyone has the grace to pull this off.
  • DamePiglet
    DamePiglet Posts: 3,730 Member
    When I'm dead, the letter I send to my wife's new guy will be quite different.

    HA!!!
    "Never feed her after midnight. EVER!"??
  • Beautyandthebeef
    Beautyandthebeef Posts: 80
    Of course I''m gonna be the a hole and point out that this is PS I love you except with gender reversal. Chickflicks ftw!

    Also now that I've pondered it an additional 10 secs-if she really did want her husband to move on...I feel like she wouldn't have gone through all that...kind of feel like she wants to be the one even after she's passed on that no woman will ever measure up to again...just my take on it...kind of too much...a letter saying be happy or something is one thing but meh
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    When I'm dead, the letter I send to my wife's new guy will be quite different.

    HA!!!
    "Never feed her after midnight. EVER!"??
    Rofl <3
  • DamePiglet
    DamePiglet Posts: 3,730 Member
    Of course I''m gonna be the a hole and point out that this is PS I love you except with gender reversal. Chickflicks ftw!

    HA!! Right?

    I don't think you're an ahole. Well today anyway :laugh:

    (Please note: kidding)
  • whitebalance
    whitebalance Posts: 1,654 Member
    When I'm dead, the letter I send to my wife's new guy will be quite different.

    HA!!!
    "Never feed her after midnight. EVER!"??
    female-gremlin.png

    Re the OP... I'm not sure... It was a sweet thought, and maybe it gave her family some closure because they knew she had blessed their moving on? But OTOH, inserting her memory into the new relationship... I guess it depends on the family's reaction.
  • sloth3toes
    sloth3toes Posts: 2,199 Member
    Seems pretty creepy to me. But then, I am an @$$hole. And when I'm dead, my wife will want me to stay dead.
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    Normally if anyone is going to find something invasive it'll be me. But in this case I think it's sweet. As long as in her letter to the new wife she didn't try to make a bunch of rules or something.
  • Hauntinglyfit
    Hauntinglyfit Posts: 5,537 Member
    Creepy.
  • willrun4bagels
    willrun4bagels Posts: 838 Member
    I think it's kind of invasive, and I agree with what was posted above about how inserting herself into the new woman's life like that still keeps the focus on her, no woman will ever live up to her, etc. BUT I will also say that I lost a close relative to cancer a few months ago, and her acceptance of death and the future without her in it was something that was hard to grasp as someone that's not terminally ill.

    She talked about the future; holidays, graduations, her daughter's wedding someday without her, and was at peace with it during her painful last few weeks of life. Maybe this was this woman's way of being comfortable with letting go towards the end of her own life, and coming to terms with the idea of her husband moving on after she was gone.

    Idk... Either way, I teared up reading that!
  • DamePiglet
    DamePiglet Posts: 3,730 Member
    If my husband ever re-marries, I've arranged to have myself photoshopped into all of his new wedding photos.
    But I'm going to be posed with my 2 thumbs up so I look happy about it.
    1291131680_two-thumbs-up.jpg

    WHO'S THE BIGGEST A-HOLE ON MFP???? Me!!
  • michael1976_ca
    michael1976_ca Posts: 3,488 Member
    lovely post op thanks for sharing

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