I'm feeling fat...

MissBabyJane

Hello. I'm 18 years old girl, My height is 165cm and my current weight is 55kg. For the last few months I lost more than 12 kg. (I used to weight 68kg.) And I know people telling me that I'm in great shape, but I still feel like the chubby girl. I know it's really stupid and kinda pathetic, because they're people who have lost so much more weight and have bigger problems with health and etc. But I just feel like a crap. The more weight I'm losing, the more I think I need to lose more. My family are telling me that I need to maintain and stop losing weight and that I look great, but I can't help thinking I'm still fat or I will get fat again. I hope this make sence, this post is all over the place...

UndoneTwo

I totally hear you. I have been overweight and underweight and in between. Whenever you lose or gain weight it takes time for your perception of yourself to change... When I was younger I went from 170lbs(77kg) to 100lbs(45kg) very quickly. I would have nightmares that I was still fat and wake up grabbing my body to check. (That sounds terribly shallow, doesn't it? sigh.) I didn't know what I looked like. I really didn't. I knew I was thinner, but I still thought of myself as a chubby chick because that was my identity. I don't know exactly how to help you, but I do know any change takes time to get used to. Be kind to yourself. Be healthy. Take the opinions of those who care about you into consideration. By your numbers, you are quite slender, even if you don't see it yet. Again, be kind to yourself and be healthy! Best wishes!!

sarahrbraun

if you are within a normal weight range, then you probably just need to tighten things up. One thing I have learned is that when you have muscle, you LOOK like you have lost weight, and you really haven't!

this picture demonstrates this in a BIG way. In the picture on the left, I weigh between 188 and 199lbs. I wear a size 16/18 pants, 42DD bra. In the picture on the right, I weigh 196lbs. I wear a size 12/14 pants and a 38C bra.

gray top pics by crochetmom2010, on Flickr

For the last year, I have been lifting HEAVY.

MissBabyJane

I totally hear you. I have been overweight and underweight and in between. Whenever you lose or gain weight it takes time for your perception of yourself to change... When I was younger I went from 170lbs(77kg) to 100lbs(45kg) very quickly. I would have nightmares that I was still fat and wake up grabbing my body to check. (That sounds terribly shallow, doesn't it? sigh.) I didn't know what I looked like. I really didn't. I knew I was thinner, but I still thought of myself as a chubby chick because that was my identity. I don't know exactly how to help you, but I do know any change takes time to get used to. Be kind to yourself. Be healthy. Take the opinions of those who care about you into consideration. By your numbers, you are quite slender, even if you don't see it yet. Again, be kind to yourself and be healthy! Best wishes!!

I have nightmares, too! I still dream about people calling me fat and stuff. When I wake up, sometimes I cry. I know it's so shallow, but I can't help the way I feel. I've told this to my family, and they told me too that it will take time to adjust. But I don't know. I don't want to feel like that. I know it's even unhealthy, I'm trying to look myself in the mirror saying "You look great, better than ever" and I hope this will slowly work and give me some confidence, because I'm really shy too. Thanks for the advice, it's good to know that I'm not the only one.

MissBabyJane

if you are within a normal weight range, then you probably just need to tighten things up. One thing I have learned is that when you have muscle, you LOOK like you have lost weight, and you really haven't!

this picture demonstrates this in a BIG way. In the picture on the left, I weigh between 188 and 199lbs. I wear a size 16/18 pants, 42DD bra. In the picture on the right, I weigh 196lbs. I wear a size 12/14 pants and a 38C bra.

gray top pics by crochetmom2010, on Flickr

For the last year, I have been lifting HEAVY.

I know I've lost weight. I mean I see it, but sometimes I just feel chubby. I can't explain it. I'm not lifting weights or something, I workout with elliptical trainer at home. But great for you!!!

UndoneTwo

I totally hear you. I have been overweight and underweight and in between. Whenever you lose or gain weight it takes time for your perception of yourself to change... When I was younger I went from 170lbs(77kg) to 100lbs(45kg) very quickly. I would have nightmares that I was still fat and wake up grabbing my body to check. (That sounds terribly shallow, doesn't it? sigh.) I didn't know what I looked like. I really didn't. I knew I was thinner, but I still thought of myself as a chubby chick because that was my identity. I don't know exactly how to help you, but I do know any change takes time to get used to. Be kind to yourself. Be healthy. Take the opinions of those who care about you into consideration. By your numbers, you are quite slender, even if you don't see it yet. Again, be kind to yourself and be healthy! Best wishes!!

I have nightmares, too! I still dream about people calling me fat and stuff. When I wake up, sometimes I cry. I know it's so shallow, but I can't help the way I feel. I've told this to my family, and they told me too that it will take time to adjust. But I don't know. I don't want to feel like that. I know it's even unhealthy, I'm trying to look myself in the mirror saying "You look great, better than ever" and I hope this will slowly work and give me some confidence, because I'm really shy too. Thanks for the advice, it's good to know that I'm not the only one.

Talking nice to yourself is a great idea! Also, if you are worried about not knowing when to stop, set yourself a minimum goal (within a healthy range) and when you get there, stop losing and switch to maintenance. No matter what. Even if you still feel fat. Maintain there for several months and see if your perception changes. Basing weightloss on our perceptions of ourselves alone is dangerous, because our brains tend to be cruel little liars as far as body image goes. Keep up with talking to yourself in the mirror, and keep being honest with your family about how you feel. It sounds like you are doing the right things. Hugs.

Love4fitnesslove4food2

That's a really bad road to go down..if you find yourself restricting your calories obsessively, avoiding social situations involving food, or getting anxious when you can't count calories I highly recommend intervention of some sort. You are not fat in the slightest and you aren't going to get fat overnight--it takes time to gain and lose weight so periodic indulgences are nothing to fret over. Please try to think rationally...look at the clothes you wear (while you're out of them) and just see the size that they are, there's no arguing with that. I also don't think that your judgment is the best gauge of what you look like--this is quite common in people who have lost weight.

ClementineGeorg

Give it time. It takes time to adjust to a new body and when you loose 12 kg in just a few months it may be harder for you to cope with your new image.

I have the same issues. It takes like... months before I realise than I'm not that size anymore. And I lost 26 kgs!!! I'm like... WTF??? What's wrong with my brain? I lost sizes, I lost weight, I lost inches... why I don't see it when I ;llook in the mirror?
And it's not just what I see in the mirror. In shops I constantly get bigger clothes. I mean... I tried today 3 blouses and 1 skirt in a store and I choosed them all in 1-2 sizes bigger; I actually thought that I could get in that skirt... and it was loose as hell.

It's just a mind game. You just need time to get used with your new body. You need to find a point when you start maintaining even if you still feel fat. Anorexic 40-45 kg girls also feel fat. You need a more objective goal, maybe talk to a nutritionist and/or a trainer, set a few measurement that may be good for you and stop loosing weight at some point. You should just start maintaining and work more on toning (maybe don't start to do strenght training if you where not into it, but there are also good Pillates/Yoga/Aerobic programs that help you tone).

MissBabyJane

Thank you, guys! All of you are so nice. It's good to know that I'm not alone, and people are so supportive.

Btw, I forgot to tell that I'm on maintance right know.