This girl is crazy i need advice

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HungryasFuark

sounds like you're both kind of game playing at worst or just not entirely sure what you expect/want from each other at worst.

i'd say move on

we move on, we both date others etc ...and we eventually get back its weird ..i just want to understand why does she make a sudden gap then reconnects ? is she like seeking more attention by doing so ?

YES. Classic mind-*kitten*.

You said it yourself in the title, she is crazy. If not legitimately nuts, then at least possessive, immature, vindictive and mean-spirited. She enjoys yanking on the leash and watching you scramble. How do I know this? I used to be that type of girl. :embarassed:

She's just messing with you. Do everything you can to distance yourself from her, she is doing you no good in life. No more Facebook, no more texting. Just leave it all in the past where it belongs.

U are right , may i ask how did u feel and what did u do when the person u were doing so to him ignored u/moved on ?

meshashesha2012

sounds like you're both kind of game playing at worst or just not entirely sure what you expect/want from each other at worst.

i'd say move on

we move on, we both date others etc ...and we eventually get back its weird ..i just want to understand why does she make a sudden gap then reconnects ? is she like seeking more attention by doing so ?

Because she doesnt want a relationship, she wants multiple ones.
She's only going to give you something if you let her -cough-

this. or maybe not that.

basically you're trying to understand behavior that may or may not have 1 reason for it. but in general, people treat us the way we allow them to treat us.


the real question is are you interested in pursuing a relationship with her?

if you are then man up and tell her and see where it goes from there. if she agrees but then continues to act flakey then there's your answer : she's a flake. but if you aren't interested in her then move on since her motives for what she does arent important to your lack of interest.

if it helps, maybe you should remember why you broke up. although it's true that people can change, just make sure you aren't just looking at the good parts of the past relationships and overlooking the things that led to the breakup.

To be honest i'm interested that's why i asked for advice ..i'm the type that moves on fast after stuff like this and that's why i'm really confused about my next decision..last time we broke up it was my fault ..Im just going to face her and c whats all this is about

just saw the bold .

i'm going to have to disagree with the possessiveness other people are saying.
i'm going to bet that she's making you PAY and keeping you on the hook not because she's interested in you so much as she's interested in making you miserable. i wouldnt necessarily agree that she's crazy because we only have your side of the story and have no idea what the original issue was.:laugh:

my advice is to apologize for whatever the original issue was so you both can move on.

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HANGRYFEEDME

What I can tell you is, it all takes time...Break up after your first love needs lots and lots of time...alone with no contact with that person.

poedunk65

psycho *****.

And you sound sappy:noway: :sick:

msf74

i just don't get what does she want ..what do u all think ?

I don't think it ultimately matters what she wants. What matters is what you want and what behaviour you will accept.

If she wants to be your friend then expect her to act that way (and vice versa) and tell her so. If either of you can't then move on.

If she wants to be your girlfriend then expect her to act that way (and vice versa) and tell her so. If either of you can't then move on.

This is a life lesson. If you have a clear idea in your mind of who you are, what you believe in and what you find acceptable then your actions will reflect that. It will prove the ultimate shield against bullsh*tters, timewasters, psychos and plain old emotional bloodsuckers as you move forwards with your life.

Polda2010

Maybe she is Bipolar??? Have an honest chat with her and move on to the next step of this process...either way it will come to an end or get better. Good luck

jollyjoe321

Sounds possessive. Run for the hills.

HungryasFuark

sounds like you're both kind of game playing at worst or just not entirely sure what you expect/want from each other at worst.

i'd say move on

we move on, we both date others etc ...and we eventually get back its weird ..i just want to understand why does she make a sudden gap then reconnects ? is she like seeking more attention by doing so ?

Because she doesnt want a relationship, she wants multiple ones.
She's only going to give you something if you let her -cough-

this. or maybe not that.

basically you're trying to understand behavior that may or may not have 1 reason for it. but in general, people treat us the way we allow them to treat us.


the real question is are you interested in pursuing a relationship with her?

if you are then man up and tell her and see where it goes from there. if she agrees but then continues to act flakey then there's your answer : she's a flake. but if you aren't interested in her then move on since her motives for what she does arent important to your lack of interest.

if it helps, maybe you should remember why you broke up. although it's true that people can change, just make sure you aren't just looking at the good parts of the past relationships and overlooking the things that led to the breakup.

To be honest i'm interested that's why i asked for advice ..i'm the type that moves on fast after stuff like this and that's why i'm really confused about my next decision..last time we broke up it was my fault ..Im just going to face her and c whats all this is about

just saw the bold .

i'm going to have to disagree with the possessiveness other people are saying.
i'm going to bet that she's making you PAY and keeping you on the hook not because she's interested in you so much as she's interested in making you miserable. i wouldnt necessarily agree that she's crazy because we only have your side of the story and have no idea what the original issue was.:laugh:

my advice is to apologize for whatever the original issue was so you both can move on.

My fault from her point of view ..if u think that trying to pull someone away from a wrong crowd is something bad to do then yes it was my fault .

I dont think she is seeking revenge coz she actually found out that i was right ..she had a bad experience with the crowd i'm taking bout

Anyways we planned to c each other tonight ...and i'm going to address this issue in a very clear way and c what she thinks thanks all for u support i appreciate it !! I'm going to let u knw what happened

amirmfp

Hi,It seems you let her come and go anytime she likes.Is this what your life and feelings are?
Take the control and manage the situation,first find out what you really want and then with the power of your part in a partnership make decision and go to next step of life.Use time, health, family and friends as heal if necessary.Good luck :flowerforyou:

Sinisterly

Hi,It seems you let her come and go anytime she likes.Is this what your life and feelings are?
Take the control and manage the situation,first find out what you really want and then with the power of your part in a partnership make decision and go to next step of life.Use time, health, family and friends as heal if necessary.Good luck :flowerforyou:

Best first post ever.

melissalatzel24

when you went on a euro trip she was jealous if you'd be hooking up with europeans so thats why she kept keeping in contact only then...

MSeel1984

Well...I personally wouldn't have gotten chummy with my ex...Rarely does being friends and exes actually work-at least not until you each find someone else. Chances are she's lonely and she's taking every little thing you do as a signal that you still care...

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jconnon

She sounds like a keeper. That being said that was not easy to read.

HungryasFuark

I guess all of u were right , we met.. she kept mumbling and giving out stupid excuses ..shes is not right for me .i'm moving on ,if she tries to fix stuff i'm definitely not going to listen to her bull**** end of story ..thanks alot everyone !

dgm82

So my x and i broke up 2 years ago after being with each other for 3 years ..but we didn't totally stop talking to each other during this period ..we talked on FB every now and then ..i didn't really get over during that time until i tried to fix it by going to her surprise birthday party ..but it didn't go as i expected lol Happiness = reality - expectations, she totally ignored me all she said was thanks for coming in a freaking cold way and that's it she ignored me for the rest of the party ..of course i left and after that day i never wanted to c her face ever again ..but she did the same my friends threw me a surprise b day party and she showed up ..i didn't open up anything about what happened i just said thanks for coming lol and she looked kinda upset but we didn't talk about it ...we just chilled with our friends ( she knows my friends i know her friends .. ) . After that party we didn't talk that much but i saw her a couple of times by coincidence..we had a quick chat..like how is it going , college, family etc .. it remained this way until last summer when i did a euro trip with my friends ..she freaking exploded , she talked to me everyday on phone , FB day and night as if we are together i didn't understand why now but i went with the flow and i was nice to her i tried to forget the past and think about the future to fix things again .. when i came back from my trip it was ok we went out alot , we really good etc.. but then out of no where she ignores my calls & texts ( she see's them ) for a week or so then she calls but i do the same i ignore her and so on its like a cycle.. i just don't get what does she want ..what do u all think ?

Few things:

1) She/you still have feelings for each other.
2) She/you are both confused and you both don't know what you want.

Three choices:

1) Sit down and have a serious talk and ask her if she wants to get back together.
2) Make a move.
3) Ignore it, move on. If you still want to be friends with her, see #1.

At the end of the day you need to make a decision and go with it. Women hate indecisiveness and a lack of confidence in a man.

HTH

CanGirl40

Too much drama. Cut her loose. Now. Life is too short!

Myhaloslipped

i just don't get what does she want ..what do u all think ?

She wants the D!