Looking for advice

suppakana

So for the past month and a half, until last Friday, I'd been going out with this guy. Nothing very serious - we went out to the movies occasionally or stayed in and played video games when we were free. It never got physically heavy, the most we ever did was kissed.

I was thinking, and realized somewhere around the beginning of the month that I had begun to see him more as a friend than a boyfriend, and began to have a hard time not behaving like it (e.g. I wouldn't rush about texting him back, wasn't as enthusiastic as before when we'd go out, etc.). After a short time, I decided that it would be better to break up with him than to continue acting. Because that's good for neither of us, and honestly the sooner it's over the better. No need to prolong the inevitable, right?

Anyways, it's been just over a week since I broke up with him. He keeps asking me what he did wrong - how he can fix it, what he can do better. I've tried telling him that "No, it's nothing you did." I've told him that I don't see him as a romantic partner anymore. I don't know how to tell him that while I miss hanging out, I don't miss hanging out every day. I don't know how to tell him that I don't miss having him as a constant in my life.

I don't want to leave him hanging on this, because for the sake of his mental clarity if nothing else, he deserves to know. He did nothing wrong; this was just me realizing that my feelings for him weren't as strong as I thought they were initially. I want him to exit this situation as "whole" as possible.

What would you do?

samkelly89

Copy and paste this into an email for him? Maybe ask yourself what it is about him that is more of a friend quality than a romantic quality, dig deep, and offer him some real answers.

the_dude00

Ever seen the movie Money Ball, where Brad Pitt releases one of the ballplayers from the team? Another supporting actor asks Pitt if he could have let him down easier... Pitt's reply is its better to give them one shot to the head, as opposed to five shots in the chest and letting him lay there to bleed to death. Same with breaking up with someone....

Madame_Goldbricker

Yep, if he isn't willing to just graciously bow out of the situation. Just say.. I'm just not into you.. Done.