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fitnessgirlinthehouse
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I'm 19.
I have a lot of guy friends.
Teasing for me is a normal way of life and sad to say, I got used to it.
I'm just wondering.. Why is it that guys always say..
"You know your really pretty, only if you lost the weight."
Don't they know I already know that!
I just feel like if I stay like this, I would end up being alone.
I'm afraid. I guess my confidence has declined to an ultimate low.
I'm just so tired of dealing with all these.
I have a lot of guy friends.
Teasing for me is a normal way of life and sad to say, I got used to it.
I'm just wondering.. Why is it that guys always say..
"You know your really pretty, only if you lost the weight."
Don't they know I already know that!
I just feel like if I stay like this, I would end up being alone.
I'm afraid. I guess my confidence has declined to an ultimate low.
I'm just so tired of dealing with all these.
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Oh sweety, some guys are just like that! Some of it is your own self-confidence or lack of it. Even at my heaviest (245 lbs), I never lacked a boyfriend when I wanted one. My secret? I knew that while I may not have been everyone's taste, I was still enough people's taste that I could pick and choose who I was with.
Yes, sometimes someone you like doesn't like you back. It happens, and it sucks. Doesn't matter what the reason behind it is. So get healthy for you, not because you think it's the only way to attract someone. It's not.0 -
You won't be alone forever, whether or not you lose weight. Promise. It can feel that way though.
If your friendships are the types where you tell each other things bluntly, you can probably expect your body to factor into that one way or the other. If they truly do care for you, telling them that you don't want to hear their opinions about your body should put a stop to most of it. People may still "slip" but it should be less frequent.You can change how you respond to the situation, change how you behave in the friendships, or change your friends, but you can't change them. if they don't change themselves.
Don't complain about your body to friends that speak bluntly and honestly if you don't want feedback. If you ask your guy friends for reassurance about how attractive you are or ask them why you don't get asked out, they will tell you their ideas. (This sounds really snarky, but it isn't meant to be.)0 -
Oh sweety, some guys are just like that! Some of it is your own self-confidence or lack of it. Even at my heaviest (245 lbs), I never lacked a boyfriend when I wanted one. My secret? I knew that while I may not have been everyone's taste, I was still enough people's taste that I could pick and choose who I was with.
Yes, sometimes someone you like doesn't like you back. It happens, and it sucks. Doesn't matter what the reason behind it is. So get healthy for you, not because you think it's the only way to attract someone. It's not.
That. There are a lot of shallow guys out there but there are those that see beyond it or are even into a girl like you.0 -
Oh sweety, some guys are just like that! Some of it is your own self-confidence or lack of it. Even at my heaviest (245 lbs), I never lacked a boyfriend when I wanted one. My secret? I knew that while I may not have been everyone's taste, I was still enough people's taste that I could pick and choose who I was with.
Yes, sometimes someone you like doesn't like you back. It happens, and it sucks. Doesn't matter what the reason behind it is. So get healthy for you, not because you think it's the only way to attract someone. It's not.
Absolutely this! I've been overweight my whole life and once I got into my 20s, there was never a shortage of desirable guys who wanted to go out with me. Take care of you for you, and I promise that the older you get, the more appreciative men you will find.0 -
You arent even fat. And guys (and girls) your age tend to lack tact, so it will get better as you get older.
I am fat and a few women find me attractive. so there is hope for you.0 -
First, you are 19. You are probably dealing with mostly boys, right? Give it a few years, meet some new people, there are plenty of men who like "larger" size women (not all of these men are perverts...my husband is one of them). Boys don't have the confidence to admit that they like plus-sized ladies.
Also, your male friends are complete a-holes if they have the nerve to tell you that you need to lose weight to get a boyfriend. I would definitely find some new friends, and tell all of my female friends not to date these guys.
If you want to lose weight and get fit, good for you. The only way it will work is if you do it for yourself.0 -
First, you are 19. You are probably dealing with mostly boys, right? Give it a few years, meet some new people, there are plenty of men who like "larger" size women (not all of these men are perverts...my husband is one of them). Boys don't have the confidence to admit that they like plus-sized ladies.
Also, your male friends are complete a-holes if they have the nerve to tell you that you need to lose weight to get a boyfriend. I would definitely find some new friends, and tell all of my female friends not to date these guys.
If you want to lose weight and get fit, good for you. The only way it will work is if you do it for yourself.
This too.0 -
I had a lot of male friends like this so I just learned to give it back to them. I much prefer their directness to passive aggressive behavior and downright cattiness.
They're being honest in their opinions, even though it may be tactless as it is a sensitive issue for you. My question is, are you asking for their input? Are their comments being provided unprovoked?
It is true that confidence has a lot to do with attractiveness. If you find that in yourself you may have an easier time finding a relationship. Good luck OP.0 -
I have always been heavier and have NEVER had an issue with men finding me unattractive. There is an *kitten* for every chair and even if you were fat (which you are not) you would find somebody, don't you worry. Find someone who loves you for you not for your looks. It will happen believe me.0
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Don't worry about those "boys", in a few years they will have a totally new attitude. When I was in school mostly all the girls that the guys wanted in high school become polar opposites. Most gained crazy weight and I call that karma. They were the "mean girls", I guess you could call them. Don't worry about what others think, just worry about what you think of yourself. You are still young, you have plenty of time to fall in love. Live your life.0
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PPL told me that too, but then they didn't realize I'm NOT 19 and my face was old and filled with fat. Now they don't say anything and i'm all "but you SAID i'd be pretty!"
where's my delorean?0 -
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PPL told me that too, but then they didn't realize I'm NOT 19 and my face was old and filled with fat. Now they don't say anything and i'm all "but you SAID i'd be pretty!"
where's my delorean?
I've had too much wine. I'm mildly turned on by this.
I have the shame now.0 -
I'm not fat.
Still boyfriendless.
It's not about how you look.
Sorry to break the news to you.
But s'okay. I am a strong woman who don't need no man.0 -
I'm not fat.
Still boyfriendless.
It's not about how you look.
Sorry to break the news to you.
But s'okay. I am a strong woman who don't need no man.
The only bad part is missing peanut butter.0 -
I'm not fat.
Still boyfriendless.
It's not about how you look.
Sorry to break the news to you.
But s'okay. I am a strong woman who don't need no STEADY man.
FIFY. disposable one's are still okay though right?0 -
Fat does not equal zero boyfriend. Lack of self-confidence might, though. Fortunately that is something you can fake until you develop more of it.0
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PPL told me that too, but then they didn't realize I'm NOT 19 and my face was old and filled with fat. Now they don't say anything and i'm all "but you SAID i'd be pretty!"
where's my delorean?
I've had too much wine. I'm mildly turned on by this.
I have the shame now.
How many minutes drive are you from LA?0 -
I'm not fat.
Still boyfriendless.
It's not about how you look.
Sorry to break the news to you.
But s'okay. I am a strong woman who don't need no STEADY man.
FIFY. disposable one's are still okay though right?
Yes ma'am.0 -
I'm 19.
I have a lot of guy friends.
Teasing for me is a normal way of life and sad to say, I got used to it.
I'm just wondering.. Why is it that guys always say..
"You know your really pretty, only if you lost the weight."
Don't they know I already know that!
I just feel like if I stay like this, I would end up being alone.
I'm afraid. I guess my confidence has declined to an ultimate low.
I'm just so tired of dealing with all these.0
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