Im Daryl and im hurting...
Daz49ers
Posts: 125 Member
Iv been using MFP for a long time its worked but fallen off the wagon a couple of times and maybe don't deserve to be asking for this help , last night I lost a very good friendship and I feel like im broken, iv decided to sort my miserable life out because I deserve better, maybe if I sort my mind/weight/life out everything will fall in to place (wishful thinking I know) so I guess im asking for help, because I cant to this alone and cant trust the people in my life, I have at minimum 70 lbs/ 5 st to lose.
Open to new people, happy to chat in general. give and take advice, thanks guys/
Open to new people, happy to chat in general. give and take advice, thanks guys/
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lets do this!
add me up, I will help you get back on track!0 -
Why wouldn't you deserve any help? You're here, aren't you? You're moving in the right direction by asking for support.
I'm sorry about your friend, I've never been in that type of situation so I can only imagine how you must be feeling right now. give yourself time to grieve.
I would recommend pulling away from those you can't trust. Even if it's family, there are times when you just have to cut ties, for your own health.0 -
Please feel free to add me, Im so sorry to hear about your friend. Im on here everyday so always willing to give support and help when you needed or even just for a chat.
Im sure with motivation and support from people on here you will achieve your goal. I wish you lots of luck.0 -
I'm here to help as much as I can too. kagevf is who you should really listen to. He will give you some great links I'm sure soon.
I am wondering if you are depressed? It seems that way to me only because I saw it happen in my own life with a loved one. Do you think you could be? If yes then best to talk to a doctor ASAP.0 -
aww come here mockchoc (((big hugs)))0
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Sending you an add
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aww come here mockchoc (((big hugs)))
shut up!0 -
It's on like Donkey Kong! Let's do this!!!! 0
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It's on like Donkey Kong! Let's do this!!!!
YES!!!! Even I will get back on board if you do Daryl. Deal?0 -
I'm sorry that happened. People can suck.
{{{Daryl}}}
I am on every day as I have just recommitted to lose my last 22 pounds, so let's be friends! :happy:0 -
So many kind words, you guys honestly don't know how much it means to me.0
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Daryl YOU can do this! You've gotten some amazing people offering assistance take them up on it! Taking control of your health and fitness is a very empowering thing. One choice at a time, one meal at a time, one pound at a time. You've got this!0
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Daryl,
Friendships comes and friendships go but remember friendships does not define you. MFP is a place where you can get the most support and although you may have fallen off the wagon a few times (which most of us have) all you have to do is start over. There is nothing in the book of weight-loss that says it will be easy and if you fall off your diet your a bad person. I am a true believer when you start doing things that is best for you, things will start to fall into place even friendship. You are not on this journey alone my friend
I wish you luck and always keep your head up ) 0 -
Add me man.... I was in pretty much the same boat. It gets way better when you stuck to it. Happy to motivate and could use more of the same!0
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Good Morning Daryl
Truly sorry for your lost. Getting back to loving yourself is the first step. Stress adds on weight and Im learning that as well. I joined MFP to get back on track after a terrible divorce. Trying to get my mind/weight/life back into perspective. Let's do this together. There are a lot of people on this site to keep us focus and motivated. My goal is to lose 40 lbs and thus far I may not have lost weight (haven't weighed in since Friday) but eating right has already started me to feeling better. Prayers your way!!!! #Team MFP#.0 -
Daryl YOU can do this! You've gotten some amazing people offering assistance take them up on it! Taking control of your health and fitness is a very empowering thing. One choice at a time, one meal at a time, one pound at a time. You've got this!
Wonderful words of wisdom! I especially love, "one choice at a time."0 -
I love you buddy!!! Dont you worry your cute little head about a thing..Ive seen you in action and I know you can do this. Relationships are a huge trigger for me..I hate to say it but I started this journey for all the wrong reasons..1. to prove people wrong about me, and 2. to impress a guy. But like some say: whatever gets us here!
My advice is cut out negative people..they kill. YOU are important. YOU are lovable. YOU deserve good things. Health. Success. and you know who can get it for you? YOU. I support you. You are a handsome and cool guy. Dont let anyone get you down. Remember this is a lifestyle thing. give yourself a lot of time to see the results and just stay with it. I have been limping along and have met some really big goals. but its taken a lot of time. The first 6 months I lost 50, the next 6 months I lost 25 and the last 3 months I have lost just 8. I mean SLOW. But steady and a lot of ups and downs along the way.
You can do this. We are here. NEVER GIVE UP
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Daryl, I use to weigh 350lbs , I lost 150 pounds on my on before this site. I am 5'6 currently at 165 lbs . So it is a constant push I want to be around 130 to 140 lbs. It is hard, but what I love about this website is the amount of support and motivation everyone is on same journey. At times all you do is pick at the negative and not focus on the positive. Be strong buddy. If I can do it I know you can The support and motivation you get on here keeps you going. Feel free to add me if you need an extra motivating buddy 0
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Hi Daryl.
Why do you keep falling off the wagon? What's your approach and why do you stop?
If it's happened multiple times, especially if for the same/similar reasons each time, we should tweak your approach, yes?0 -
Hey bro, the first thing you have to do is stop with the "maybe I don't deserve help" stuff. Failure doesn't make you who you are. How you respond to failure does. Persistence is key.
Consider your self image: http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2013/12/10/how-to-build-a-perfect-body-a-discussion-on-body-image/
Consider your motivation: http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2014/01/06/why-you-should-level-up-and-how-to-crush-2014/
Consider your methods: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants
You can do this. There are a lot of people here who can and will help, but you've gotta want it for yourself because as you said...you deserve better.0 -
Sorry you are so down. Many of us have been our own version of where you are, those who have or have had a long way to go.
You want to feel healthy. First make sure you have your MFP setting right, be honest with yourself. If your calories etc are set too low you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Go gently with yourself, give yourself the right to be pleased with even a small achievement, the next will be greater till you have made it to where you want to be. Most of all be objective about your goals, bite sized pieces, try not to see everything as what the scales tell you. Notice the things which come easier to do, or clothes which fit better. Take measurements of neck, arms, what ever about every month.
Most of all stick with the honesty, you will have bad days and still log those and say good by to it, tomorrow you will have the same number of calories at the start of the day, I hope this will be a good support for you. Today is today now is now. Remember it will be a long war but celebrate each battle you win. Cheat days do not exist, well I can never delude myself. Plan your treats within your allocation. Go for it, Good fortune, Good Health0 -
Hang in there Daryl I know that very low feeling, horrible isn't it >< You will come out the other side a much happier person and you are plenty deserving of support. Have sent you a request and look forward to following your progress 0
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If you focus on trying to get YOU right - mind, body, AND soul...you will find that you can be NOTHING buy happy.
FOCUS on yourself. BE selfish.
Once you feel a REAL inner-peace, THEN you can be a much better person to not only numero uno (you), but to EVERYONE else.
You deserve to be happy and healthy for YOU.
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Iv been using MFP for a long time its worked but fallen off the wagon a couple of times and maybe don't deserve to be asking for this help , last night I lost a very good friendship and I feel like im broken, iv decided to sort my miserable life out because I deserve better, maybe if I sort my mind/weight/life out everything will fall in to place (wishful thinking I know) so I guess im asking for help, because I cant to this alone and cant trust the people in my life, I have at minimum 70 lbs/ 5 st to lose.
Open to new people, happy to chat in general. give and take advice, thanks guys/
posotive is the attitude, negative is not the mood buddy!0 -
Hi Daryl.
Why do you keep falling off the wagon? What's your approach and why do you stop?
If it's happened multiple times, especially if for the same/similar reasons each time, we should tweak your approach, yes?
Yes! This!0 -
Was hoping for Daryl Dixon pics
Chin up dude 0 -
Hey Daryl,
Sorry for you loss... Keep your head up! We all need friends to lean on, that is what we are here for!
Anyone here can add me, as we all have the same goals... stay/get in shape and live happier!
Take care!0 -
Gawd i fall off and climb back on 'the fitness wagon' all the time, im sure most of us do to a certain extent ~ holidays, school days off, weekends away, daily grind getting in the way, its not Monday?!?.....i could go on.....the most important thing, and you said it yourself Daryl, is that you have been off and ON, so you clearly have the determination as you are still going.
You are going through a difficult time and you are doing the right thing by asking for support and motivation to keep you moving forward and on the wagon.....its a bumpy ride but you will get there :happy:
Im not entirely sure in what context you lost a close friend, but having gone through losing a very dear and close friend, to depression, and also losing what i thought was a good friend (which was also painful but necessary).
Both of these loses made me look at life from different perspectives and take notice of whats important. I had to start with my own mental/physical health and well being and then everything else comes along with that.
Im not the most chatty on here but im sure there are many people who can speak up and help you with words of support and encouragment on a more regular basis.
Keep plugging away......all good things come to those who.....work hard for it :bigsmile:Hi Daryl.
Why do you keep falling off the wagon? What's your approach and why do you stop?
If it's happened multiple times, especially if for the same/similar reasons each time, we should tweak your approach, yes?0 -
Feel free to add me if you want. 0
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