Meals for Husband/Wife with Different Health Goals
FoogooFish
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Hello. My husband and I recently joined this community. Like many couples, I'm looking to lose weight and he's looking to gain weight/muscle. I do the majority of the grocery shopping and cooking, and while he -can- be picky about certain things (like his hatred of corn,) he's completely on-board with our new healthy eating lifestyle.
My concern is that I don't want to cook different meals for both of us, though. Are there some sites, recipe books, or other things that have recipes that can satisfy us both? Should he just eat more portions of already healthy foods? Cooking for just the two of us is tough enough at times; making meals healthy -and- low-cal for me / high protein and etc. for him seems rather daunting!
My concern is that I don't want to cook different meals for both of us, though. Are there some sites, recipe books, or other things that have recipes that can satisfy us both? Should he just eat more portions of already healthy foods? Cooking for just the two of us is tough enough at times; making meals healthy -and- low-cal for me / high protein and etc. for him seems rather daunting!
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Is there an actual problem here? You said you both want to eat healthy, where you can eat less and he eats more to achieve goals. What's the problem?0
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Is there an actual problem here? You said you both want to eat healthy, where you can eat less and he eats more to achieve goals. What's the problem?
Did you read the second paragraph?0 -
I'd say pick healthy things you're comfortable eating, let him have bigger portions and then supplement with protein shakes or bars, and other snacks, or even an extra meal. I have the same issue, and that's what my husband and I do.0
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If you can afford it, I'd make a healthy meal with 4 "servings" or so worth of food. If he wants to eat more to gain muscle, 2 servings of the meal will satisfy him. You eat one serving, and save the last serving as leftovers for the next day?0
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You guys can eat the same things, he just needs to eat more of it. For instance you may only eat 4 oz of grilled chicken and he might need to eat 8 to 10. He will need to eat much more carbs and meat than you. I think what you are doing now is fine. You may need to just cook more food so he can eat the additional portions.0
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Is there an actual problem here? You said you both want to eat healthy, where you can eat less and he eats more to achieve goals. What's the problem?
Did you read the second paragraph?
Yeah, sorry. I still don't get it. They both want to eat healthy. Let's say, as an example, for dinner they plan to eat chicken with vegetables, she eats less chicken perhaps, because he wants more protein, and they both eat same quantity of vegetables. Sorry, what am I missing. I still don't see the problem.0 -
I understand! What I do is make the same thing for both of us except he will get a larger portion plus some rice or potato or pasta. I usually just stick to the protein and veg. It works for us and he's very happy with it.0
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He can eat what you eat. Lean meat, beans, veggies and fruit, whole grain rice and quinoa.0
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I would start with an entree like steak or chicken breast (he'll love the high protein and you'll love the low cal) and make a side dish of veggies. He can have a roll/slice of bread and butter (for the bread or veggies or both!). He can get creative and add things to reach his protein/fat/whatever goals.
Or you can make a casserole, you have one serving, he has two.... and dessert!0 -
my suggestion is to cook the same meals, but vary the amount of carbs in the meal, so you make e.g. a pasta sauce that has protein and a suitable amount of fat for you. Then you make the pasta, and you have a smaller serving of pasta, then the sauce, and he has a much larger serving of pasta, and the right amount of sauce for him, and if he needs more fat than you he can drizzle some olive oil on the top. Ditto rice dishes.... other dishes you can vary the amount of potato each of you gets. Plus you can add extras to his plate if necessary, e.g. a couple of slices of bread and butter, which you don't have, or you have a smaller serving.
actually, unless a couple are both very similar in size, this is what they should do anyway. One reason for women gaining weight after marriage is that they eat equal quantities of food to their husband... but men are usually bigger than women, therefore need more calories. Also, a lot of married couples do different portion sizes naturally, i.e. husband is bigger, has a bigger appetite, gets a bigger serving (some people are naturally better at eating the right amount of food for them and listening to their body's hunger signals)0 -
To the person who does not understand my concern, let me try to clarify: from what I understand, someone who wants to lose weight has different caloric needs than someone who wants to gain weight. I am in the former category, while my husband is in the latter category. As I would prefer not to spend extra time and effort cooking, and I am rather new to the program, I wanted to see if there were tips, tricks, and advice on how we can eat together. The other posters have kindly provided the answers I sought, and I am quite thankful! I'm also glad to know that my husband and I can eat the same types of things - just in different quantities.0
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I usually make 3 portions of everything. Then I eat one and my husband eats two. If I'm doing something like pizza I'll put double cheese on his part. Sometimes I'll throw a roll in the oven for him but I won't have one. That kind of thing. There's no reason why you can't eat the same meals and just tweak the portion sizes.0
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Hey! My boyfriend and I have the same issue as well although now I have moved to maintenance but as I am a lot smaller than him, the difference in calories between our portions is huge!
I think you can easily find a balance between your needs and his. I buy a lot of lean meats such as chicken or turkey and loads of veggies so it's the portions where it's usually at. I like to make really yummy marinades and then use the oven to cook the meats and steam the veggies. I cook for 4 servings and he has around 2.5 (the rest I save for packed lunches etc.). I have a serving of one consisting of a big handful or two of veg and 100g of protein. To increase cal intake for my SO I make a sauce for the veggies served on the side and make an extra carb-heavy side (i.e. he'll have some roast potatoes or rice, bread, pasta).
If we are having a salad I add in some calorie dense ingredients like avocado and almonds into his portion and he gets a more generous portion of meat.
One of my favourite dishes is pasta and the easiest for us to meet our needs. I make a big pot of bolognese sauce for the both of us and while he has wholegrain pasta, I usually have zoodles (Paleo zucchini noodles). I don't eat paleo but I find a lot of their substitutes to be really helpful. I also have cauliflower rice instead of rice sometimes if I need more wiggle room for my cals or macros.
If that still isn't enough for him there is always dessert. I usually try to leave enough cals in my day for me to have a few treats so you can always have one cookie while he has 6 haha.
If you want to ever do a recipe swap or anything similar feel free to ask. More than happy to share what has worked for my partner and I. :happy:0 -
I often have the same problem, except that my husband could not possibly eat enough of the food that I make. He just can't eat such a large volume of food. And if I made things appropriately calorie dense enough for him, I would be murderous over the tiny portions I got, not to mention malnourished for not getting the appropriate protein and micronutrients.
So the way we've worked it out is, I worry about feeding me and he worries about feeding him. Anything else results in a too-fat me or insanity, neither of which are optimal results.0 -
There's no reason why you can't eat the same meals and just tweak the portion sizes.0
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There's no reason why you can't eat the same meals and just tweak the portion sizes.
:laugh: Fair enough, please don't stuff your husband too much.
Surely the OP can apply common sense.0 -
I usually make 3 portions of everything. Then I eat one and my husband eats two. If I'm doing something like pizza I'll put double cheese on his part. Sometimes I'll throw a roll in the oven for him but I won't have one. That kind of thing. There's no reason why you can't eat the same meals and just tweak the portion sizes.
same here.
my husband get sa lot of his extra cals from extra snacks... couple of slices of toast with peanut butter, bit of cheese, cup of horlicks befoer bed! and he has full fat milk while i have semi skimmed.0 -
Cook the same, he can eat more of it and/or have an extra snack.0
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Myself and my partner are in the same position. We do our own food shopping and cook our own meals, and it's perfect. It means I don't feel guilty for cooking something that wouldn't fill him up, and he doesn't feel guilty for cooking something high carb or high cal.
It's great, because there are some thing he doesn't like to eat that I do, and visa versa!0 -
Me and my boyfriend have it similar. While we are both trying to shed some fat, he needs about 800 calories more per day than me.
I make enough food so he can have double what I have. I would think your husband and you would have similar macro needs, protein is important both for muscle growth (hubby) and muscle retention (you). Fats are more important for you, for hormone production and regulation, but they are necessary for men too and are great at managing hunger due to the calorie density.
So I wouldn't sweat it, just cook the same thing and enjoy it together, with you being a little jealous of how much he can eat (at least that's how I feel when I watch him gulp it down )0 -
Thanks for all the helpful replies! My husband is one of those tall, lean guys who can eat copious amounts of anything and still lose weight, while I have to be careful about -looking- at food lest I gain weight. Heh. Ah... the wonderful differences in male/female metabolisms... =(0
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My wife and I are having this "problem" right now. I eat larger portions of dinner, she eats smaller. I also make my own breakfast which is higher in calories. And I have lots of nuts like almonds, cashews, etc.
In short: Make the same food, he eats more, you eat less. Add a portion of nuts or two to his plate.0 -
Gaining weight and losing weight are both about portion size/total calories. There are no "special" foods for one or the other.
Cook what you guys like to eat, then portion appropriately to meet your calorie goals. It sounds like you're way over thinking this.0 -
I'd think he could eat the same things as you, just larger quantities.
If he doesn't like what you're eating on a certain night, can't he just make his own dinner? My boyfriend and I often make separate dinners when we're craving different things.0 -
You can both eat the same meals, he'll just eat more of it as we men tend to do, If he needs to add more calories a protein shake is a great way to do it.
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My husband and I are just like you two. I wish I could give him my excess weight and we would both be happy!
I have found it is best when I make one healthy meal we both enjoy (usually protein, starch & veg) and I only eat the protein and veg. He will load up on everything and also add butter/olive oil to the veggies to get some extra calories.0 -
Cook the same meals. He can have extra helpings of it, add bread and butter, etc. You could also keep some protein bars in the pantry for him to snack on.0
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Hello. My husband and I recently joined this community. Like many couples, I'm looking to lose weight and he's looking to gain weight/muscle. I do the majority of the grocery shopping and cooking, and while he -can- be picky about certain things (like his hatred of corn,) he's completely on-board with our new healthy eating lifestyle.
My concern is that I don't want to cook different meals for both of us, though. Are there some sites, recipe books, or other things that have recipes that can satisfy us both? Should he just eat more portions of already healthy foods? Cooking for just the two of us is tough enough at times; making meals healthy -and- low-cal for me / high protein and etc. for him seems rather daunting!
Dear FoogooFish,
Have you considered eating paleo? My wife is doing aerobics and I'm into weight lifting and after modifying our meal plans for almost 6 months, we started to eat paleo because it simply serves both of our requirements. You can find some fantastic books on Amazon or you may try the a complete meal plan like on Tim's blog (for your reference http://timreviews.com/paleo-recipe).I think it's been almost 2 years now and sometimes I look at my old pictures and I can't believe how I changed
Hope this helps,
Timmi0 -
whilst my husband and I have the same goals (both trying to gain muscle at the moment), he has different macro requirements to me....
he eats extra meals (morning and afternoon tea) whereas I just stick to 3 meals a day. we eat different breakfasts, similar lunch (salad with protein - his is more carb dense vegies, extra protein, sometimes rice, more mayo) and we eat the same dinner. at the moment this is a curry with vegies. he gets a little more curry, and again, more carbs (we both have baked sweet potato with our meal, he gets a little more)
we both need protein, we both need fat and we both need carbs and these three things make up all of our meals. we just adjust quantities to suit0
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