Ever doubt you can really do it?

Francl27

I'm in a bit of a funk. My weight loss has slowed down significantly between Holidays, a couple cheat days, and me flat out refusing to eat less (I eat 1600, which is probably 18% under my TDEE nowadays).

So I've been eating at 1600 most days, and usually it's ok... but man I miss food. So I've had a few cheat days in the last month (4 I think? Only two over my TDEE, and one by 500 two days ago)... I didn't gain any weight with the Holidays, but it's the time of the month when I usually lose (I lost 2 lbs in December, just stopped losing after Christmas). But now it's 2 weeks later and I'm 3 lbs heavier, from water weight and whatever I gained from my cheat day 2 days ago...

I'm always 2 lbs heavier at this time of the month, so it's not really a surprise anyway... but man. I wasn't going to weigh myself but I have a doctor appointment today so I figured I'd weigh myself first so I don't cry once I'm there (considering I can probably add a couple lbs of clothes and food!).

It just makes me wonder if I'll ever be able to do this long term. I LOVE food. I do better eating in moderation unless it's the things I really love, that I only have once a year or something, then I have the hardest time not binging. I have a crazy sweet tooth. I made one of the French 'King Cake' on Monday and had 1000 calories worth, and it was delicious. Couldn't stop at just one Godiva chocolate during the Holidays, and had to eat 2 or 3. I typically fit things I love in my calories, but the things I really love and crave, it's pretty much impossible, and having 'just a little bit' is not happening.

It will be a year next week and I still think about food all the time. I'm more active but I hate exercising, I just make myself do it... I don't mind walking though so I do a lot of that (but with the weather it's been hard at times). I'm just not sure I'll be able to stick to it long term. I'm glad I don't live in France anymore because I just couldn't do it there, with all those pastries... but I used to eat so much of it and not think twice, for 30 years, it's really hard at times to eat in moderation.

I'm glad I lost weight obviously, I'm still nowhere near I want to be, but with that weight loss it's like one week of progress, 3 weeks of stalling/gaining, and it's exhausting. And sometimes I'm just not sure I will have the willpower to stick to it. And no, I'm not happier than when I started either, but we all know losing weight isn't a remedy for happiness... except now I don't have food to make me happier, lol.

Am I alone in this?

mamadon

Your not alone. I think we all just have our up times and our down times. After the holidays, it can sometimes be tough. I'm with you, I will always have a love affair with food. I will also probably struggle at times and become unmotivated. I am also kinda scared of maintanance. Being in a funk is usually a temparary thing though. Just dont give up.

daniellemm1

You are not alone.

I've been at this a year too and it will probably take me all of this year to get to my goal weight. It is exhausting. Some days I really just want to quit but I know I can't as I am still not where I need to be. Then I imagine when I am finally at goal and I will have even less calories to eat and that makes me a bit sad. I'm hoping that as I lose more weight my urges to binge will ease up. Counting calories and exercising is a lifestyle change that I have made and will have to stick with and the thought is quite overwhelming at times.

I don't have any advice as I am just plugging away and hoping that my brain realizes that I don't need all that extra food that I want so badly. I don't want to go back to where I started. I feel prettier, I have more energy and I am proud of both the weight that I have lost and the fitness level that I have obtained. You just have to keep at it and try to find the positives in the whole thing. You may have to fight those urges for the rest of your life but you are strong and you can do it!!

Francl27

Yeah, if I lose the 11-14 lbs I still want to lose, I'll be able to eat maybe 200 more calories than I am now, as long as I stay at least as active. It's a bit depressing.

chopper_pilot

table the weight loss goals for a little while and challenge your new body to do something GREAT.

sign up for something that scares you and achieve it.