Why I Have Generally Given Up in the Past

EvgeniZyntx

I won't be giving up because even without the weight loss, I feel better not eating crap food.

I do a circuit of 25 minutes of weights along with 20 minutes of 3.2 mph on the treadmill at a 7.0 incline. I vary the weight exercises, and do upper body alternated with lower body alternate days and abs every day,

Again--not giving up. Just never had this much trouble dumping weight in my life--and I have 40 pounds to lose.

It's been ten days. You haven't had any trouble.

It's been 10 days HERE. I've actually been on this fun little ride for a little over two weeks.

Then you should probably quit.

You should probably back gracefully out of the thread if you can't contribute anything positive. The majority of people commenting here are giving me their experiences and advice--both of which are appreciated.

I can, however, live without your snarky input.

Snark or not - I hope you get his point.

An attitude that "2 weeks is trouble or hard" will lead you to failure.
2 weeks, 2 months for 40 lbs is nothing.

There are people here with a variety of very difficult situations and complex disease states that are chugging along and succeeding and while your struggle is yours (Petit Prince reference) and important to you - the best thing you can do to meet your challenge is to deflate it. You've got this only if you see it as surmountable.

(I'll avoid the usual link to "gumption traps" - but google that term, if you like)



You can see it as doable or "you should probably quit".

See there are a lot of mean people here on MFP. Mean people with experience and who have seen this a thousand times.
The two week struggle, the impatience, the "this is so hard". It is not. You plug it in, you do it. You get it done.

You fake it till you make it.

Oh, and see...
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1088600-dear-mean-people-of-mfp

speedy740

Yep u need more patients. Please stay with it, but try to be more patient. Weight will come off and the come back on a little then come off. It's how it works. DON'T GIVE UP. Your heart is in the right spot and that is half the battle. Just give it time once the results show up more you will be addicted and look back and realize that the key to this journey has been time. ???? Sometimes when we ask questions on here we get negative and positive answers, remember they are all opinions: and opinions are like butt holes-we all have em' read them all cause even the negative ones are helpful. Happy New Year to U.

delicious_cocktail

You should probably back gracefully out of the thread if you can't contribute anything positive. The majority of people commenting here are giving me their experiences and advice--both of which are appreciated.

I can, however, live without your snarky input.

Nah.

You've gotten lots of positive responses including from me. But you aren't hearing it. You keep insisting that it's somehow different for you, that you're not getting any results, and this is all just a big downer and it's too hard.

Look upthread. shayemimi has lost 92 pounds. That's more than twice what you're trying to accomplish. You know what her advice is? "The key is to keep at it."

Again and again you say "But I've been at this for so long! OVER TWO WEEKS!"

Do you remember when you started this thread, you complained about why you keep quitting?

You're doing it again.

HoverKitteh

You should probably back gracefully out of the thread if you can't contribute anything positive. The majority of people commenting here are giving me their experiences and advice--both of which are appreciated.

I can, however, live without your snarky input.

Nah.

You've gotten lots of positive responses including from me. But you aren't hearing it. You keep insisting that it's somehow different for you, that you're not getting any results, and this is all just a big downer and it's too hard.

Look upthread. shayemimi has lost 92 pounds. That's more than twice what you're trying to accomplish. You know what her advice is? "The key is to keep at it."

Again and again you say "But I've been at this for so long! OVER TWO WEEKS!"

Do you remember when you started this thread, you complained about why you keep quitting?

You're doing it again.

I've been down this road before, otherwise I would not have posted looking for advice. Last summer, for 10 straight weeks, I stuck to a 1200 calorie diet, worked out at a minimum of five times a week for an hour. I gained and lost the same four pounds over and over again for 10 weeks. Six months before that, I did the same thing after a trip to the doctor determined that I didn't have a discernible thyroid problem, although some of my numbers were borderline. Why did I go to the doctor about my thyroid, other than obvious symptoms (disappearing eyebrows, weight gain, abnormally dry skin)? Because I had been watching my food intake, exercising five times a week, and I still couldn't shed more than a pound or two, which came and went numerous times during the process.

I don't know about you, but I see a pattern here. And it's a disturbing problem for a person who was effortlessly thin for the first 50 years of her life.

Am I giving up? No. Am I taking the information provided by those who responded and applying it to my situation in hopes of actually seeing the scale move this time? Yes, I am.

So, it would behoove you to know a person's past before you start making asinine comments about their present.

I came here with what I see as a real problem, because I've seen it before and I'd hoped to find someone here who had experienced the same thing and could tell me what they did to get out of this conundrum. THIS time, it's a couple of weeks. Every other time it was MONTHS of trying with no results. Several folks gave me good advice and I am considering it all. You, on the other hand, came in assuming what you didn't know, and then being a jerk to me when I objected.

I should have been more clear in my original post, but there really is no reason to be ugly to a person who is just looking for assistance for a long running problem.

LoraF83

You should probably back gracefully out of the thread if you can't contribute anything positive. The majority of people commenting here are giving me their experiences and advice--both of which are appreciated.

I can, however, live without your snarky input.

Nah.

You've gotten lots of positive responses including from me. But you aren't hearing it. You keep insisting that it's somehow different for you, that you're not getting any results, and this is all just a big downer and it's too hard.

Look upthread. shayemimi has lost 92 pounds. That's more than twice what you're trying to accomplish. You know what her advice is? "The key is to keep at it."

Again and again you say "But I've been at this for so long! OVER TWO WEEKS!"

Do you remember when you started this thread, you complained about why you keep quitting?

You're doing it again.

I love you.

And Evgeni.

OP, you would do well to listen to these two (and everyone else who echoed their sentiment). Your weight loss will follow the same rules that everyone else's has. It requires patience, accuracy, time and a little effort on your part. I'm sorry, but that's how it has worked for me and every other successful person on this site.

If you want to keep insisting that you are somehow exempt from these rules that have benefited thousands of others, by all means go ahead. You will keep missing out on your results though. The choice is yours.

delicious_cocktail

I should have been more clear in my original post, but there really is no reason to be ugly to a person who is just looking for assistance for a long running problem.

:laugh: You can say that I'm a snarky, ugly, asinine jerk if you wish.

Be angry with me for telling you what I see in your future. Be angry that I don't put it on a stick and dunk it in caramel and cover it with rainbow sprinkles. How many calories will that burn?

Drop me a PM if you're still here by March. :laugh:

Tabbitha1968

Ok so heres the deal.
Weight loss doesnt happen for a lot of us in a linear mode. I personally lose weight about every thirty or thirty five days and it is always always during my period. I will lose about 8- 10 lbs in about 10 days and then my body stabilizes out over the next thirty or so days. By weighing myself every day over a matter of months I was able to see my own personal weight loss pattern, had this been seen many many years ago I would not have given up when weeks went by without he scale moving. Please note, Im not telling you to weigh every day im just making the point that every one has a weight loss pattern, you have to figure out yours. I know it may seem unfair that we all dont lose weight the same way, and trying to lose the same weight over and over is VERY frustrating. But each body is unique and so is the way we lose weight. Dont give up yet, your answer maybe around the corner.

firstsip

You should probably back gracefully out of the thread if you can't contribute anything positive. The majority of people commenting here are giving me their experiences and advice--both of which are appreciated.

I can, however, live without your snarky input.

Nah.

You've gotten lots of positive responses including from me. But you aren't hearing it. You keep insisting that it's somehow different for you, that you're not getting any results, and this is all just a big downer and it's too hard.

Look upthread. shayemimi has lost 92 pounds. That's more than twice what you're trying to accomplish. You know what her advice is? "The key is to keep at it."

Again and again you say "But I've been at this for so long! OVER TWO WEEKS!"

Do you remember when you started this thread, you complained about why you keep quitting?

You're doing it again.

I've been down this road before, otherwise I would not have posted looking for advice. Last summer, for 10 straight weeks, I stuck to a 1200 calorie diet, worked out at a minimum of five times a week for an hour. I gained and lost the same four pounds over and over again for 10 weeks. Six months before that, I did the same thing after a trip to the doctor determined that I didn't have a discernible thyroid problem, although some of my numbers were borderline. Why did I go to the doctor about my thyroid, other than obvious symptoms (disappearing eyebrows, weight gain, abnormally dry skin)? Because I had been watching my food intake, exercising five times a week, and I still couldn't shed more than a pound or two, which came and went numerous times during the process.

I don't know about you, but I see a pattern here. And it's a disturbing problem for a person who was effortlessly thin for the first 50 years of her life.

Am I giving up? No. Am I taking the information provided by those who responded and applying it to my situation in hopes of actually seeing the scale move this time? Yes, I am.

So, it would behoove you to know a person's past before you start making asinine comments about their present.

I came here with what I see as a real problem, because I've seen it before and I'd hoped to find someone here who had experienced the same thing and could tell me what they did to get out of this conundrum. THIS time, it's a couple of weeks. Every other time it was MONTHS of trying with no results. Several folks gave me good advice and I am considering it all. You, on the other hand, came in assuming what you didn't know, and then being a jerk to me when I objected.

I should have been more clear in my original post, but there really is no reason to be ugly to a person who is just looking for assistance for a long running problem.

He's really not being ugly, he's just approaching advice in a way that apparently hits a nerve with you. He was positive, you came back with excuses, and he got hard. Hopefully you'd fight back the "You should quit" by not quitting.

You *did* reveal parts of your past: you've been down this road before multiple times, and have given up. It's the title of the post!

Someone already pointed out some flaws in your initial statement. "Tracking every day" was really not every day. "Been doing this for two weeks" was really ten days.

These might not seem like a big deal, but the more you "round" things in your head, the more you'll be treading water. "Watching food" becomes not watching portions or calories, or "This seems about 1000 calories" becomes 2000 or more. It's all about consistency and patience, and it appears you've had trouble with that in the past.

So, my advice is: your problem is consistency and accuracy with what you're actually doing. Cut the crap and be honest with yourself.

THEN be patient.

I'd love to know your thyroid levels, as well, if they're borderline.

Good luck! :flowerforyou:

Sweetface421

I'm 46 and I'm having the same problem in my weight loss journey.
I came to MFP back in 2012. I was gung-ho and ready to do the work! I was eating at a deficit, exercising like a mad woman ,trying to shed 30 lbs. I went to get a physical to have my blood levels checked, just to see if there were any issues with my thyroid, insulin levels, etc.
Nope, I'm healthy!
I lost maybe five pounds over three months. I was so frustrated. I quit logging.
Interestingly enough, I've stayed at the same weight for about a year, so this is obviously where my body likes to be.
But I don't like it. I still want to lose 30 lbs!
So, I'm back here again. I've been tracking my calories, eating at a deficit everyday, exercising vigorously for 25 days now.
No weight loss.
About five days ago, I stopped the exercising to see if I would see any loss with just a calorie deficit. There has been no movement. I'm still at the same weight I was 25 days ago.
I'm frustrated too. I don't really know what I'm doing wrong here. I'm going to start tracking my sodium intake because I know I have a tendency to eat high-sodium foods. I'm also going to try to change over to higher-protein, lower-carb food choices. That's hard for me because my husband is a carb man - he eats bread, pasta & sweets like nobody's business and stays slim. It boggles the mind!
I cry when I step on the scale and see no progress after so many days of trying. Sometimes I really hate my body. But I move on and keep trying. I just wish I had a clearer path or plan to follow so I wouldn't get so frustrated.
Try to not give up! I'm going to try too!
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DYELB

You're not special, and excuses don't matter.

delicious_cocktail

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chopper_pilot

Don't worry.

Sometimes you only want something bad enough to try for 2 weeks.

When you want it enough to work on it daily for 5 years, then you will succeed.

In the meantime, don't be so hard on yourself for something that you don't really want that badly.

or just give up on the exercising and teach yourself about nutrition.

Good luck!!!!!!!

:flowerforyou:

edited cause I forgot the word 'up' O_o

LiftAllThePizzas

Don't worry, everything in life that is worth doing is always really easy, never involves setbacks, and never takes more than two weeks.

healthybodyhealthylife

I've weighed between 61-63kgs all throughout my 'weight loss' (techincally I didn't lose 'weght') which has been a year. I've dropped 2 dress sizes but no kgs. I know its difficult to believe and counter-intuitive, but the scale isn't always the best indicator of whether you're losing fat don't give up!!!

NH_Norma

I won't be giving up because even without the weight loss, I feel better not eating crap food.

Focus on this, keep exercising, stay within your calorie goal (adjust by 50-100 calories a day if you don't see results in 4-6 weeks). Stop freaking out about the scale, and live your life the way you want to live it if the scale said what you wanted it to say.

How's that saying go? "Dress for the job you want, not the job you have."

rachelamber_x

I just had a little flick through your diary and these are some things I noticed.
No judgement btw, this is all straight from your diary.

1. You ate a lot of sodium yesterday. Sodium causes water retention and could easily account for the weight gain today.

2. On Monday you had "a scoop" of protein powder. There is a youtube video showing measurements like that can be way off. They showed what "a scoop" should look like, and what for the majority of people it did. Generally scoops were more generous, meaning it could have 1.5 or 2 times the calorie count you are expecting.

3. Again Monday, you had one "medium" banana. What is medium? Calories can be way off. When I started I used generic measurements like small/medium/large/1 carrot etc. When I actually weighed things the calories were so much higher than I had been logging.

4. Sunday you didn't log lunch, maybe you didn't eat it, I don't know. If you did, there are calories missing there.

5. Sunday you had 0.0625 cup of pesto. How did you measure that? (genuine question, how did you measure that?)

6. Friday and Saturday, quick added calories. I know you said it was just wine and veg and you probably overestimated. Maybe you did, maybe you didn't.

7. Thursday you have "a cup" of chicken. I'm not american so don't use cups and I am not 100% sure how they work, but from my understanding they are only any use for liquids not solids.
Actually it isn't just the chicken, you have quite a few solid foods measured in cups. That might be an underestimate.

8. 4.2 cups of popcorn at the cinema? I'm guessing that was eyeballed.

9. If you have only recently started exercising your muscles could be holding on to water weight.

10. Ovulation / time of the month / hormones can all play a part. I always gain about 3lb around TOM. It happens, realise why fluctuations around that time can happen and don't worry about them.

It has been proven that the most common mistakes people make (everyone, not you, don't take it personally) are underestimating calories taken in and overestimating calories burnt.
Make sure you are as accurate as possible.
Don't eat back all of your exercise calories in case they are overestimated.
Get your thyroid checked again if it was borderline, you never know it may have changed.
And most importantly, keep going! It isn't easy and wont happen overnight. I've lost 12lb in 6 months. That's half a pound a week on average.

Mavenly

I changed my diary around to show potassium instead of sugars (since they only let you have a certain number.)

I found the day (or days) that I bounced back up or didn't see the results I expected were usually days that correlated with a crapload of sodium and very little potassium. That's pretty typically for the American diet, especially if you eat a lot of processed/convenience foods.

I found if I focus on making sure that my diet is balanced not just from a caloric perspective but also from a nutritional perspective (esp potassium) and I reign in the sodium nonsense - I see much more consistent results. I still have crappy days, and days I want to pitch the scale off the roof - but the results get a lot more predictable.

Just my two pfenning

rachelamber_x

Watch this
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JVjWPclrWVY