Coddling vs. Tough Love

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edorice
edorice Posts: 4,519 Member
edited September 2024 in Motivation and Support
While you go through your journey of weight loss, exercising, and staying away from bad habits do you respond better to coddling or to tough love?

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  • Magenta15
    Magenta15 Posts: 850 Member
    tough love!!!!!!! :drinker:
  • lobster888
    lobster888 Posts: 861 Member
    Coddling !!!!
  • JennaM222
    JennaM222 Posts: 1,996 Member
    Tough Love for sure. My boss ( I work for a financial planner ) and also made himself my life coach. Once he slapped a cup cake out of my hand, and also dumped my cheetos out and poured coffee on them in the garbage. He is great :)
  • swtally80
    swtally80 Posts: 278 Member
    I need both... sometimes tough love in the wrong situation works backwards... also coddling makes it too hard to concentrate on my true goal.
  • CharityD
    CharityD Posts: 193
    Tough Love for sure. My boss ( I work for a financial planner ) and also made himself my life coach. Once he slapped a cup cake out of my hand, and also dumped my cheetos out and poured coffee on them in the garbage. He is great :)

    OMG I would have slapped him! Oh well, I guess it takes all kinds! :mad:
  • edorice
    edorice Posts: 4,519 Member
    Tough Love for sure. My boss ( I work for a financial planner ) and also made himself my life coach. Once he slapped a cup cake out of my hand, and also dumped my cheetos out and poured coffee on them in the garbage. He is great :)

    Hahaha, my husband took some great moscato wine out of my hands and poured it down the drain. I was wrong to be drinking carbs so late at night anyway. But I was pissed.
  • edorice
    edorice Posts: 4,519 Member
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  • bjshooter
    bjshooter Posts: 1,173 Member
    I need both tbh.

    I watched a programme about this the other day in the UK. Two experts had a lady of the same weight, one coddled, one dealt out tough love. The nice team lost 6lb in 6 weeks. The tough team lost about 20lb in the same amount of time.
  • MzBug
    MzBug Posts: 2,173 Member
    So there is a reason for Jillian Michaels! Who'd a thought!
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Personally, I don't need either. I know when I'm messing up. I'm not in denial (at least not anymore). But I have come across a lot of people who could use some serious tough love because they are just not honest with themselves.
  • buggaboo73
    buggaboo73 Posts: 169
    I just need respect.
  • edorice
    edorice Posts: 4,519 Member
    So there is a reason for Jillian Michaels! Who'd a thought!

    Many people don't like Jillian's approach. I wonder how successful they are with their personal weight loss journey.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    So there is a reason for Jillian Michaels! Who'd a thought!

    Many people don't like Jillian's approach. I wonder how successful they are with their personal weight loss journey.

    When I do the Shred workout, I'm usually cursing at her by the third round, but I can'r argue with the results! I don't like her diet advice, though. She should stick to showing people how to work out and let an actual nutritionist or dietician coach people on eating.
  • CeleryStalker
    CeleryStalker Posts: 665 Member
    Tough love. People who coddle me do so with chocolates and other crap I'm not supposed to be eating. I don't want someone to tell me its ok if I slipped up. No, its NOT ok if I slip up. Once I slip up, I don't get back on my feet for weeks. I'm smart enough to know this and anyone close enough to me to have an opinion that means anything to me knows this too, so if they care, they will do what they can to encourage good choices from me, and not tell me how its ok if I screwed up and ate half a cheesecake. Binge eating is how I got this way in the first place and having 'slip ups' is no way to squash those old habits.
  • StuAblett
    StuAblett Posts: 1,141 Member
    Neither, I need understanding, and I'm really happy to get it from my lovely wife and daughter.

    When I say "I'm not hungry" I really do mean... "I'm NOT hungry" :smile:

    When I'm served a plate FULL of high calorie carbs, and I know I cannot eat it all, I don't or I ask to have half of it removed, as I can't possibly eat it.

    For motivation, I am my own personal drill instructor, no one knows me and knows my foibles etc as well as I do, so I can listen to "FatStu" and eat too much food most of it junk, or I can listen to "Healthy Stu" and just rock on!

    No one else can make me do it, I've been on one diet after another my since I was about 16, so that is 30 years!

    Recently I saw picture of myself and I had an epiphany, now that I'm working on my healthy lifestyle and the weight is going away, I realize how stupid I was for so long. No one else can motivate me like I can. :drinker:

    Do I get inspiration and feel uplifted from all my friends on MFP, you bet your shrinking behind I do, but for me, it comes from within. :bigsmile:
  • kidakiwi04
    kidakiwi04 Posts: 238
    Coddling...only because I am my own Jillian times about 50. Lls
  • Kminor67
    Kminor67 Posts: 900 Member
    Tough Love for sure. My boss ( I work for a financial planner ) and also made himself my life coach. Once he slapped a cup cake out of my hand, and also dumped my cheetos out and poured coffee on them in the garbage. He is great :)

    I love your boss! Does he have any openings?
  • edorice
    edorice Posts: 4,519 Member
    Recently I saw picture of myself and I had an epiphany, now that I'm working on my healthy lifestyle and the weight is going away, I realize how stupid I was for so long. No one else can motivate me like I can. :drinker:

    Do I get inspiration and feel uplifted from all my friends on MFP, you bet your shrinking behind I do, but for me, it comes from within. :bigsmile:
    I feel stupid for getting up to 273 lbs. I know I'm a snacker, but I can't believe I DID THAT!!! :grumble:
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