Getting back on track again....

OregonShell
OregonShell Posts: 44 Member
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I have been away from MFP for about a year now maybe two. But after recent things in my life I decided that I have to get back on track.

Over the last 2 years, All 3 of my kids have moved back home, they are 17, 22, and 25 so financially my stress levels are off the charts. I constantly have to hear my husband "b*#ch" to me about them not cleaning up after them selves, eating the last of something, or leaving lights on among other things. So I have turned to food and smoking to relieve some of that stress. I know Bad for me. the two older kids are hopefully moving out over the next 2-3 months. and hopefully things will get a little better at home and the strain on me and my marriage will decrease.

On December 13, 2013, I lost my father, who was only 65, to a major sudden heart attack. He got up in the morning and went to work like any other day delivering auto parts in Colorado and after making a delivery he went out to his truck and died. He had a heart condition for a while but this time it was not a minor one, and no-one was prepared for this. It blindsided me and tore me apart emotionally and made me realize that since I seem to be more like Dad than Mom that If I don't start making positive changes and improving my health and life then that is the future I get to look forward to. I don't want to do that to my kids.

So I am making a lot of changes this year. I am in the process of cutting back and quitting smoking, I am in the process of giving up my DR. Pepper, or at least cutting it way way back (less than 1 a week) since I was up to 3-4 32oz drinks a day or more. I am making my meals separate from everyone else so that I can regulate how much I eat and make it healthier, more veggies please. And I am wanting to find a way to incorporate more physical activity into my life so that I am not so sedentary. I sit behind a desk all day at work than come home, clean, cook, clean again then sit down in front of my laptop until bed. Living in the pacific Northwest (Oregon) the weather is not favorable this time of the year for me to go for walks or ride my bike, it's to cold and wet and I don;t handle the cold or wet very well... So I will probably join a gym for the cold wet season then get out doors come May -September/ October. The final change is my dental health, my teeth are bad really bad. and to top it off I hate dentist, to me the dentist =pain. But I am biting the bullet and going to get an evaluation and a treatment plan to fix these chompers. it is probably going to mean losing more if not all of them and getting false ones but if that is what i have to do then so be it. Even thou I am only 44, I have realized that after my grandmother telling me that my Dad's Dr. warned him that he was in early stages of CHF and if he did't get his fixed then it would get worse quicker, I have to do what ever it takes.

Any way now that I have rambled on and on. ... That is a little about my situation. .. .and Hopefully I'll be back for good this time.

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  • DoriLuke
    DoriLuke Posts: 26 Member
    You can do it! I have lots of stress that comes with older teenagers as well right now, we still have 5 kids living at home (8-17) and 3 that are out (18, 19, and 21). Its a crazy time, and that combined with some other factors including new aches and pains put me back on track to getting healthy. Im finding that at 37, its getting harder to keep my willpower. I don't know what thats about! I joined a gym (the whole family) a few months ago but I just went for the first time after New Years. I saw a personal trainer and learned a lot (free session) and I think Im hooked. Find myself looking up new exercises so I can try out new machines. Im doing 60 mins of Cardio a day and a strength circuit, balance, and abs every other day. So far I am doing well and feel like the more I go, the more motivated I become. My dr. said that exercise will greatly help with my stress levels, patience, etc. and I am already feeling a slight difference. Good luck and way to go cutting back the smoking!

    Dori
  • tr66
    tr66 Posts: 23 Member
    You have taken the first step and that is wanting to change your life. You can make it, you can do it, remember it is a series of one step at a time, one hour, one day, one week. Start small and keep pushing onward. Celebrate your successes and forget your stumbles. Most everyone you find on MFP will support you.
  • nitka653
    nitka653 Posts: 97 Member
    I'm so stoked we both got back on track around the same time. We go a long way back! ;)

    You are totally worth the work and attention you are giving yourself. You remind me of so much of myself it's not funny (and it's not just because we're both Oregonians LOL). Or maybe it is funny... Fun at least!

    I am sorry you had the jolt of your father's early death to open your eyes, but so glad something good is coming from such a tragedy. One thing I know about Dads is they love their Daughters and always, always want better for them then they had. Even when they're all grown up and parents of grown ups. :D
  • nancybuss
    nancybuss Posts: 1,461 Member
    I'm so sorry for the loss of your dad and all the other stress lately.
    I love Dr. Pepper also. darn addiction.

    Those "Kids" are Adults! If they are in-between jobs the LEAST they should be doing is taking care of the house or they are welcome to leave! Don't be running around after them! (says the person with a 4 and 6 year old, what do I know).

    Take some YOU Time. Set a Date night and tell the kids they can all go to friends for a few hours.

    You can do it!!!!!

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