What people really look like...
msf74
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from here: http://dalefavier.blogspot.co.uk/2013/09/what-people-really-look-like.html
Be kind to yourself. Enjoy your day
ps: I am not the author but I wish I was!
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Women have cellulite, men have silly buttocks.
I’ve been a massage therapist for many years, now. I know what people look like. People have been undressing for me for a long time. I know what you look like: a glance at you, and I can picture pretty well what you’d look like on my table.
Let’s start here with what nobody looks like: nobody looks like the people in magazines or movies. Not even models. Nobody. Lean people have a kind of rawboned, unfinished look about them that is very appealing. But they don’t have plump round breasts and plump round *kitten*. You have plump round breasts and a plump round *kitten*, you have a plump round belly and plump round thighs as well. That’s how it works. (And that’s very appealing too.)
Woman have cellulite. All of them. It’s dimply and cute. It’s not a defect. It’s not a health problem. It’s the natural consequence of not consisting of photoshopped pixels, and not having emerged from an airbrush.
Men have silly buttocks. Well, if most of your clients are women, anyway. You come to male buttocks and you say -- what, this is it? They’re kind of scrawny and the tissue is jumpy because it’s unpadded; you have to dial back the pressure, or they’ll yelp.
Adults sag. It doesn’t matter how fit they are. Every decade, an adult sags a little more. All of the tissue hangs a little looser. They wrinkle, too. I don’t know who put about the rumor that just old people wrinkle. You start wrinkling when you start sagging, as soon as you’re all grown up, and the process goes its merry way as long as you live. Which is hopefully a long, long time, right?
Everybody on a massage table is beautiful. There are really no exceptions to this rule. At that first long sigh, at that first thought that “I can stop hanging on now, I’m safe” – a luminosity, a glow, begins. Within a few minutes the whole body is radiant with it. It suffuses the room: it suffuses the massage therapist too. People talk about massage therapists being caretakers, and I suppose we are: we like to look after people, and we’re easily moved to tenderness. But to let you in on a secret: I’m in it for the glow.
I’ll tell you what people look like, really: they look like flames. Or like the stars, on a clear night in the wilderness.
Be kind to yourself. Enjoy your day
ps: I am not the author but I wish I was!
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Women have cellulite, men have silly buttocks.
I’ve been a massage therapist for many years, now. I know what people look like. People have been undressing for me for a long time. I know what you look like: a glance at you, and I can picture pretty well what you’d look like on my table.
Let’s start here with what nobody looks like: nobody looks like the people in magazines or movies. Not even models. Nobody. Lean people have a kind of rawboned, unfinished look about them that is very appealing. But they don’t have plump round breasts and plump round *kitten*. You have plump round breasts and a plump round *kitten*, you have a plump round belly and plump round thighs as well. That’s how it works. (And that’s very appealing too.)
Woman have cellulite. All of them. It’s dimply and cute. It’s not a defect. It’s not a health problem. It’s the natural consequence of not consisting of photoshopped pixels, and not having emerged from an airbrush.
Men have silly buttocks. Well, if most of your clients are women, anyway. You come to male buttocks and you say -- what, this is it? They’re kind of scrawny and the tissue is jumpy because it’s unpadded; you have to dial back the pressure, or they’ll yelp.
Adults sag. It doesn’t matter how fit they are. Every decade, an adult sags a little more. All of the tissue hangs a little looser. They wrinkle, too. I don’t know who put about the rumor that just old people wrinkle. You start wrinkling when you start sagging, as soon as you’re all grown up, and the process goes its merry way as long as you live. Which is hopefully a long, long time, right?
Everybody on a massage table is beautiful. There are really no exceptions to this rule. At that first long sigh, at that first thought that “I can stop hanging on now, I’m safe” – a luminosity, a glow, begins. Within a few minutes the whole body is radiant with it. It suffuses the room: it suffuses the massage therapist too. People talk about massage therapists being caretakers, and I suppose we are: we like to look after people, and we’re easily moved to tenderness. But to let you in on a secret: I’m in it for the glow.
I’ll tell you what people look like, really: they look like flames. Or like the stars, on a clear night in the wilderness.
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Beautiful. Thank you for posting it.0
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I wish everyone was from a profession such as this person's or at least was at one time. I'm sure anyone who deals with true human bodies daily is more accepting and understanding of all bodies!
I remember being super self-conscious to get my side tattooed (and this was when I was smokin' hot). My fiance said "They (tattoo artists) all have old ladies, they know what women really look like. And imagine some of the super nasty people they get in their chairs daily." It made me feel better knowing that (at the time) I was probably a client they would be just fine with seeing less clothed.0 -
What a beautiful article.
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This is good stuff. Realistic body image is important.0
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Thanks so much for sharing :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :smooched: :smooched:0
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Oh, I loved this! You see energy :flowerforyou:0
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Needed to hear this! Thanks!!0
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:blushing:0
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Great article, was very uplifting this morning. Just what I needed, Thanks0
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This is great, thank you for sharing!0
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Wow! That was sweet. Thanks for posting.0
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Very nice...thank you for sharing...0
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I love this. Thanks for sharing this article!!0
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Love this! It takes all kinds of kinds0
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I’ll tell you what people look like, really: they look like flames. Or like the stars, on a clear night in the wilderness.
I liked this sentence the best!0 -
Thank you for sharing. I struggle so much with my body image.0
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So thoughtfully, truthfully and creatively written!!! Thank you for sharing!0
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I love this! I tend to focus so much on my flaws and I should focus on being proud of what I've accomplished and what is still to come0
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Reminds me a lot of this photo project
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/12/06/gracie-hagen_n_4393887.html
WARNING there is nudity in that link but nothing explicit so I wouldn't click at work but it's not offensive.0 -
Love this! :flowerforyou:
Really puts in to perspective. I should print this and put it on my fridge!0 -
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