Poll: Working out with significant other?

Nouurann
Nouurann Posts: 183 Member
in Motivation and Support
I personally don't like working out with my boyfriend. He's really fit, and whenever I get really proud for running a mile in 8 minutes, he ran it in 5:30, stuff like that. And he's into PDA, and I'm not, but I find it especially tacky at a gym. But I feel bad rejecting his kisses. So yeah, I avoid going to the gym with him. What about you guys?
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  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    I workout with my wife and it's very valuable "us" time being that we have a couple kiddos (baby and toddler)...I don't compare myself to her and she doesn't compare herself to me. I am better on a bicycle...she is a better runner....I can naturally lift more than she can...she has better muscular endurance...she's more flexible...I have better balance, etc, etc, etc.
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    I love working out with my man. I enjoy the encouraging smacks on my *kitten* when I hit a big lift or break a PR. We spot each other and it is time for US without the kids.
  • ckspores1018
    ckspores1018 Posts: 168 Member
    My husband will occasionally go on walks together but, as far as running, I prefer to do that alone. He has mentioned going with me before and I'm fine if he decides to go as long as he doesn't expect me to alter my training plan and that day's workout for him.
  • wolfsbayne
    wolfsbayne Posts: 3,116 Member
    I love going to the gym with him. Right now, he's on hiatus due to a wrist fracture :frown:
  • Nessiechickie
    Nessiechickie Posts: 1,392 Member
    I ran with my "now-ex" and I wanted to throttle him the whole time.
    And I don't mean "jump his bones". Always talking to me when I'm trying to get into my zone and focus on running and breathing.
    Bumping into me while running because he is wearing DC skate shoes running.. :sick: .. just so distracting. :explode:
    I hated it. Told him to bring his ipod the next time we went out.. but that never happened lol :drinker:
  • ChancyW
    ChancyW Posts: 437 Member
    I understand that.

    Mine can't keep up with me & "doesn't like lifting weights."

    Seriously, who doesn't like lifting weights??? :noway:
  • mlogantra76
    mlogantra76 Posts: 334 Member
    I do a variety of classes at the Y. My husband joined me from April-August but then quit when work got stressful. For us, its nice to actually "do something together." Since we don't really "compete" in classes, that doesn't come up. He says he will start coming again once he gets over his sinus infection. All that being said, I don't base whether I am going to exercise on whether he does!!!
  • awtume9
    awtume9 Posts: 423 Member
    My boyfriend and I go together on lifting days. He makes a good spotter and always pushes me to get that one last rep. He doesn't do kettlebell class with me very often because it's not his favorite but I love it. But I have no complaints working out with him! He is very motivating and supportive.
  • LankyYankee
    LankyYankee Posts: 260 Member
    If I had a SO would absolutely work out with them.

    Have taken guys I was seeing to the gym with me in the past, nothing better then getting sweaty together I think :drinker:
  • DterMined2012
    DterMined2012 Posts: 540 Member
    I workout with my wife and it's very valuable "us" time being that we have a couple kiddos (baby and toddler)...I don't compare myself to her and she doesn't compare herself to me. I am better on a bicycle...she is a better runner....I can naturally lift more than she can...she has better muscular endurance...she's more flexible...I have better balance, etc, etc, etc.
    I agree....working out with my hubby is "our" time....quite therapeutic
  • xLittleMissVixenx
    xLittleMissVixenx Posts: 62
    I'd love to work out with my boyfriend. In November I had a 'bring a buddy for a month for free' thing so he came with me a few times then but he just doesn't like the gym apparently :frown:
  • Love4fitnesslove4food2
    Love4fitnesslove4food2 Posts: 711 Member
    I love working out with my husband.
  • thatjosiegirl
    thatjosiegirl Posts: 362 Member
    I prefer to work out by myself. I see my gym time as my personal "me" time. It's my time to focus on myself and let go/work out the stresses of the day.
  • KristinaB83
    KristinaB83 Posts: 440 Member
    I'm fine going to the gym with my husband. He goes and does his thing, and I go do mine. No one bothers anyone.
  • lisalsd1
    lisalsd1 Posts: 1,519 Member
    My husband and I go to the gym together on the weekends. He does his thing, and I do mine most of the time. Sometimes I need his help, no big deal. There is no way we can compete at anything; I'm 5'3, and he's 6'3. On the squat machine, he put like 1500lbs on, and I put on 50lbs. Whatever, he's supposed to be stronger than me.

    I'm not into PDA either. If he tried to kiss me at the gym, I would probably punch him. It's just drawing unnecessary attention in my opinion.
  • AZKristi
    AZKristi Posts: 1,801 Member
    I would love to but we don't really enjoy the same kinds of exercises. I'm hoping that we'll get out of the gym a bit more this year and do some hiking and cycling together though =)
  • cardbucfan
    cardbucfan Posts: 10,571 Member
    I HATE working out with my husband! He has a completely different idea of working out and I'm just getting warmed up and he's done and ready to leave. Plus he tries to be cute and funny and it just annoys the heck out of me. Much better for us to do our own things.
  • setaylor86080
    setaylor86080 Posts: 210 Member
    My husband is super fit and always has been. I on the other hand am not and having 2 kids 12 months apart didn't help. That being said I love working out with him. He is my personal trainer. I don't feel ridiculous like I do with other people and he encourages me to do better. He is the one that got me into lifting and trying to run. There is no way that I could keep up with him but we compromise and he will jog with me(for a warm up) for a little bit and then I will move on to something else and he does what he wants to do. Thankfully our gym has tons to do. So it has never been an issue.
  • dakotababy
    dakotababy Posts: 2,407 Member
    My boyfriend and I will both go to the gym and then go our own separate ways and meet up for cool down. :)
  • Nouurann
    Nouurann Posts: 183 Member
    I would love to but we don't really enjoy the same kinds of exercises. I'm hoping that we'll get out of the gym a bit more this year and do some hiking and cycling together though =)

    I love hiking and going on walks with mine as well :) but actually going to the gym, Ehh lol
  • kzivic
    kzivic Posts: 326 Member
    I'm not a fan of working out with my s/o. We used to drive to the gym together and do our own thing, but he always wanted to head home before I was ready to, and I found myself often cutting my workout short. Now, we go at different times and I'm not pressured to leave before I want to.

    Also, running is my time to clear my head, get lost in my own thoughts. I like the solitude of it.
  • kzivic
    kzivic Posts: 326 Member
    I HATE working out with my husband! He has a completely different idea of working out and I'm just getting warmed up and he's done and ready to leave. Plus he tries to be cute and funny and it just annoys the heck out of me. Much better for us to do our own things.

    Yep- that's totally me and my s/o...
  • babyj0
    babyj0 Posts: 531 Member
    I do like and sometimes I don't. He tends to talk a lot, which is annoying when I just want to workout. Haha. And also the PDA part not for me!
  • californiabella
    californiabella Posts: 152
    depends on my mood... sometimes when I'm PMSing, the sound of my SO breathing hard while exercising really pisses me off. :explode: he knows to go do his own thing. :laugh:

    otherwise, we learned to really enjoy being each other's spotter.. I don't feel intimidated in the free weights section around other men even more so when he's around. No guy wants to get caught looking at another guy's wife. :laugh:
  • ClearNotCloudyMind
    ClearNotCloudyMind Posts: 238 Member
    We don't often get to exercise together (kids and no local family to help out) but a day out on the bike together is a special treat for us bioth. Of course the skinny git rides me into the ground but that's ok. More motivational than annoying.
  • Salvi30
    Salvi30 Posts: 196 Member
    Me and my man used to work out together but I decided to do it alone for now. We might do it again soon.
  • MamaFunky
    MamaFunky Posts: 735 Member
    hubby and I have been together 19 years and married 14. Before kids we use to love running together! It was awesome! We would go on a 8 mile run, then go get margaritas at happy hour! :drinker:

    We like to exercise as a family now....walking, running, biking and doing yard work together is part of our lifestyle. We have to fit in our individual exercise on our own schedule now...but we still enjoy doing it together too!
  • dnamouse
    dnamouse Posts: 612 Member
    I don't workout with my husband. Actually, until recently, he didn't exercise at all - he wasn't interested.

    Now he's worked out he's at least 8kg into the overweight BMI range, so he's starting out small by swimming laps in our pool for about 30mins every morning.

    While he's doing that, I'm either doing my weights or at our 10yo's swim squad training. Our schedules very rarely align.

    Sometimes we swim together on a weekend, but not often. I can do 4x the number of laps in the same time frame so I don't want to discourage him at all. I just make sure to let him know I think he's doing awesome :smile:

    I'm not sure he'll be able to lift weights (severe scoliosis and a rather big carbon fiber rod in his back), but if he ever gets to that point, his doctor will have to give it the okay. He's still a lot stronger than me anyway as he grew up on a farm and does a lot of outside work even here at home.
  • CJ_Holmes
    CJ_Holmes Posts: 759 Member
    I prefer to work out by myself. I see my gym time as my personal "me" time. It's my time to focus on myself and let go/work out the stresses of the day.

    Same here!
  • brad2021hk
    brad2021hk Posts: 46
    Years ago, I tried working out with my wife, then gf. Went badly and we probably wouldn't be married if we continued that way. We tried cycling together. We weren't compatible riders. I tried working with her when she trained for a 5k while I was doing a bike ride. We also tried going to the gym and lifting together. The primary reason for the friction was different attitudes towards working out. She wanted to go on a bike ride and tour around. I wanted to go fast. She saw going to the gym as a chore and wanted to take it a bit easy, and I wanted to lift more than the previous trip. She hates running and so do I, so we agree. My way results in more calories burned in a workout. Her way keeps her going to workout. We are both right and wrong.

    This basically resulted in us not working out together. We would carpool to the gym. I pretty much stopped riding. It just didn't seem to be right to go on a long ride alone. Having a baby made it worse. I'm certainly not placing blame. This probably was a major reason we both got so far out of shape. Ironically, this helps us workout together now. We're at the same pathetic level. Going forward, we are finding ways to workout together. Right now, it's doing Power 90 videos in the morning. I don't know if or how we're going to make it work long term. We really need to figure it out. Between kid(s) and work it's just not feasible to workout alone and have a lot of time together.

    It is funny how it works though. I have the "know everything" character flaw. It is a serious flaw. She has the "won't listen" character flaw. This results in the completely hilarious situation where she pays an expert to do or help her with things that I would do for free. And I'm totally okay with it now. We went through it on road bike fit. I got her into one setup. She wanted a different setup, but couldn't get comfortable in it. She goes to get a $150 bike fit done. The guy puts her into a setup pretty close to what I did. Most annoying was that I had a 100mm stem on that bike. She had me switched it to an 80mm upright stem. The bike fit guy put a 100mm stem on, and of course charged premium for the part. I cringe every time I see that extra 100mm stem in the part box.

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