How badly do we want this??

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  • MyOwnSunshine
    MyOwnSunshine Posts: 1,312 Member
    The misery of being overweight clearly doesn't outweigh the enjoyment you get from overeating.

    I found that cognitive behavioral therapy with a counselor who specialized in disordered eating helped me to reframe my thoughts and priorities. I doubt that I would be almost 3 years into this endeavor without the counseling.
  • psychicmedium26
    psychicmedium26 Posts: 48
    Did I write this? This feels like me so so much.
  • psychicmedium26
    psychicmedium26 Posts: 48
    Ive added you too if thats okay. we seem to be in a similar place.
  • sandobr1
    sandobr1 Posts: 319 Member
    I put off losing weight for years I have done it in the past and over time it all came back out and then some. After having my daughter I didn't put a lot of effort into losing weight and really wasn't all that interested I was not unhappy on a day-to-day basis. If I allowed myself to dwell on it yes I was unhappy being so overweight. I knew something had to be done or I would encounter health problems as I got older and of course it's harder to lose the old you are.

    I set about to lose weight and at some point had the realization that I had to eat this way forever it wasn't a diet it was something I would have to do forever and finding something I could live with daily. Is taking a lot longer than I would've imagined I have been doing this for about 18 months and bounce around the 50 pound lost mark. In general I am very happy where I am and would like to lose another 20 to 30 pounds, Which I'm guessing will take 6 to 10 months to do so. So while it has been slow it has been sustainable of course I bounce around a few pounds which most people do anyway regardless of weight.

    Two trains of thought have kept me on track first is time is passing weather or do something or not or is other people have put it a year from now you wish you started today. The other is you have to eat like this in person you want to be Or imagine you will be.

    Of course there are days and times I wish I could just go back to eating whatever I want whenever I want. Clearing out most of my closet of bigger clothes leaving me with fitting or even small clothes is a continual motivator on top of all the other reasons.

    Given my age going back to 80+ pounds overweight simply is not an option. PERIOD. I have some before and after pics in my profile I reset my ticker at the beginning of the year just as an FYI.

    Good luck I hope you find your way!
  • Annie_01
    Annie_01 Posts: 3,096 Member
    For me it took more than just wanting to lose weight. My motivation has come from wanting more for myself...wanting a better more joy filled life. Over weight and physically unfit was not giving me what I wanted.

    So I have tried to educate myself...I read...research...throw most of it out the window...until I found a way that works for me.

    I have also done one other thing...looked back to find out why I have always failed before and more importantly...why I let myself down to begin with.

    During my first 50lb loss it has been about eating healthy and beginning to exercise. While I lose that last 50lbs...it is about me dealing with all of those issues that put me here. It is finally about living the life I deserve.

    No one can tell you why you haven't succeeded thus far nor how to succeed in the future...both are unique to an individual.

    I look at it this way...with each pound I lose...and I have worked hard to lose each one of them...I also lose one more excuse to give up.
  • law110
    law110 Posts: 43
    That is so true! The "Wanting" to lose weight isn't always strong. It's uncomfortable to make changes. I hate that! It should be more rewarding to take risks and be uncomfortable. I have a lot to think about now. Thank you for sharing.
  • Gemmz2014
    Gemmz2014 Posts: 220
    It's all about pain and pleasure. Tony Robbins ......

    http://www.hpandt.com/856/web/Tony.pdf
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    I would also add that one of the biggest reasons I see people fail is that they think the have to do a 180* overnight and completely change their entire way of life...and then they don't see the instantaneous results that they thought they would surely see and three weeks later they give up.

    It's a long haul...nothing happens overnight...this is all a series of baby steps. When you fall down you get back up and just keep going...you don't "start over"...that is small thinking...that if you have fallen, you must have failed and thus must start at the beginning. Big picture thinking allows you to get up, brush yourself off, and carry on. It's all about making little positive changes here and there...next thing you know you're like damn...I'm rockin' this **** and loving every second of it.

    If you're like most of us, you'll likely have to address your definition of healthy...for most people (and most of us were there at one time or another), eating "healthy" means being really restrictive...eating lots and lots of celery and salad and what not and eliminating pretty much anything that even remotely tastes good...'cuz if it tastes good, it must not be good for you amirite? I mean I see all of the time here on MFP..."what are some healthy recipes?"...and I just kinda shake my head. Just pick up a cook book and cook food with scratch ingredients...that's healthy...

    Really though, it's about baby steps...it's about trying to be better today than you were yesterday and sleeping well tonight in the knowledge that you will rock the party tomorrow and be even more awesome. You're not going to be 100% all of the time...you will miss workouts...you will over indulge on occasion...again, these aren't reasons to start over...these are reasons to get up and carry on and become one with awesomeness.
  • Ninkyou
    Ninkyou Posts: 6,666 Member
    I would also add that one of the biggest reasons I see people fail is that they think the have to do a 180* overnight and completely change their entire way of life...and then they don't see the instantaneous results that they thought they would surely see and three weeks later they give up.

    It's a long haul...nothing happens overnight...this is all a series of baby steps. When you fall down you get back up and just keep going...you don't "start over"...that is small thinking...that if you have fallen, you must have failed and thus must start at the beginning. Big picture thinking allows you to get up, brush yourself off, and carry on. It's all about making little positive changes here and there...next thing you know you're like damn...I'm rockin' this **** and loving every second of it.

    If you're like most of us, you'll likely have to address your definition of healthy...for most people (and most of us were there at one time or another), eating "healthy" means being really restrictive...eating lots and lots of celery and salad and what not and eliminating pretty much anything that even remotely tastes good...'cuz if it tastes good, it must not be good for you amirite? I mean I see all of the time here on MFP..."what are some healthy recipes?"...and I just kinda shake my head. Just pick up a cook book and cook food with scratch ingredients...that's healthy...

    Really though, it's about baby steps...it's about trying to be better today than you were yesterday and sleeping well tonight in the knowledge that you will rock the party tomorrow and be even more awesome. You're not going to be 100% all of the time...you will miss workouts...you will over indulge on occasion...again, these aren't reasons to start over...these are reasons to get up and carry on and become one with awesomeness.

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