Ugh what to do in this situation?

AshlynG923
AshlynG923 Posts: 59 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
This weekend my my friend wants be to go with her and a few of her coworkers bowling. For them this will typically include bowling alley pizza, bar food, and beers. I truly have lost my taste for those kind of foods since I've started to be more particular about what I like to eat. I'm sorta worried about how her friends will perceive me if I don't eat anything (I know that sounds stupid).

How would you handle it?

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  • hashpling
    hashpling Posts: 4
    " I'm NOT worried about how her friends will perceive me" - fixed. It's that easy. Project confidence.
  • So_Much_Fab
    So_Much_Fab Posts: 1,146 Member
    Eat before you go, have one slice of pizza or whatever while you're there and don't sweat over it (or make a big deal that you're not eating "those kinds of foods").
  • TAMayorga
    TAMayorga Posts: 341 Member
    Tell them you've been stuffing yourself all day and are not hungry. (If you don't mind stretching the truth.)
  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
    "I ate right before I came"

    And stop worrying about other people monitoring your food. Nobody will even notice if you brush it off and don't make a thing about it.
  • JuliaLee67
    JuliaLee67 Posts: 149
    Eat before you go, have one slice of pizza or whatever while you're there and don't sweat over it (or make a big deal that you're not eating "those kinds of foods").

    yeah, this.
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. Eat what you want, just make sure to log it the best you can.
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    I doubt anyone would notice.
  • AshlynG923
    AshlynG923 Posts: 59 Member
    Thanks I'm sure y'all are right. I need to work on not giving so much thought about what people think!
  • usmcmp
    usmcmp Posts: 21,219 Member
    If you don't want it simply eat before you go. When you get there tell them you ate. If they judge you it's really not your problem, it's theirs.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    If they're paying that much attention to what others are eating or drinking, they have serious issues.

    But if someone asks, just say you're not hungry -- big lunch or something.
  • LVCeltGirl
    LVCeltGirl Posts: 473
    Just say you ate before you go, or you're lactose intolerant and if you don't want the beer, then you have a gluten sensitivity too.

    Or don't worry about it. You choose to not like that type food and drink, all sorts of people both slim and fat hate particular foods. The bowling alley and bar don't have the foods you like, end of statement. Nothing about weight loss, or eating healthier, or even denying yourself.

    Go and enjoy the company, and the bowling if you choose to bowl a game or two.
  • accebersmith
    accebersmith Posts: 96 Member
    This comes up a lot for me, since many of my son's classmates have their birthday parties at the bowling alley here. Normally, I make sure to eat a healthy meal *right* before I go, so I'm not hungry when we arrive. When the pizza, chips, sweets and sodas are offered, I just say, "Oh, I'm good, thanks!" It's never offended anyone that I'm aware of, and the party goes right along as usual. If you act like it's no big deal, it won't be a big deal, nine times out of ten.
  • nmncare
    nmncare Posts: 168 Member
    Try not to care what others think. They probably wont notice.
    And if they do make an issue out of it?? They seriously need to grow up.

    You could always just be honest if anyone says anything and say.. none of that sounds good to me right now. Aren't we supposed to be honest and stuff anyway? Makes life easier.
  • iamspdd
    iamspdd Posts: 134 Member
    IF they complain they are crazy! It's more pizza and beer for them! :drinker:
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    I say, "eat before I came" and then, maybe just have a beer with them so you can be a part of the social scene. But if you truly don't want the beer, for personal reasons, then just have a diet soda with them. Who cares what they think. Your choices are yours to make.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I say, "eat before I came" and then, maybe just have a beer with them so you can be a part of the social scene. But if you truly don't want the beer, for personal reasons, then just have a diet soda with them. Who cares what they think. Your choices are yours to make.
    I drink water all the time when I go out. I've never been a big drinker anyway, and the calories aren't worth it unless I'm REALLY in the mood. The only person who ever says anything is my best friend, and she's an alcoholic so I ignore her.
  • mdiaz0188
    mdiaz0188 Posts: 20 Member
    This comes up a lot for me, since many of my son's classmates have their birthday parties at the bowling alley here. Normally, I make sure to eat a healthy meal *right* before I go, so I'm not hungry when we arrive. When the pizza, chips, sweets and sodas are offered, I just say, "Oh, I'm good, thanks!" It's never offended anyone that I'm aware of, and the party goes right along as usual. If you act like it's no big deal, it won't be a big deal, nine times out of ten.


    I agree with this...this is what I do as well...I eat before, when I get to the place, say "oh no thank you,...." and I try not to make a big deal about it. If they ask why for whatever reason, I'll say something like "had a big lunch" or "I was munching earlier and I think it ruined my appetite" or "...not right now, maybe in a bit, you guys go ahead..." . Because I am a little self-conscious about these kind of scenarios myself (not saying that anyone else is) sometimes I'll throw in a beer and babysit the whole night for the most part, just to have something in my hand and not make anyone feel uncomfortable. :)
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    if you make a big deal out of it, it'll become a big deal.....and yes one slice won't make or break you \m/
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    "I ate right before I came"

    Giggity.
  • Greenrun99
    Greenrun99 Posts: 2,065 Member
    Eat the whole pizza, drink the beer and say your on a diet.
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    You could just partake in moderation, and have it fit in your limits for the day.

    That's what I would do.
  • knittnponder
    knittnponder Posts: 1,953 Member
    I have several food intolerances so I actually can't eat a lot of what is offered in social situations. I don't care to have to explain myself every time so I do as the other posters have suggested and just say, "I'm good, thanks." No one has ever questioned me or demanded I eat the pizza even if they don't know what my off limits foods are. If they ever did I'd probably ask them if they were the food police or something. Who cares what they think of what you're eating or not?
  • uncharted01
    uncharted01 Posts: 105 Member
    "I ate right before I came"

    Giggity.

    :laugh:
  • xero2099
    xero2099 Posts: 49 Member
    I always eat before going out and meeting up with friends, and they have no issues with it. as far as having a drink or two while your there if you budget for it no problems at all
  • mebepiglet123
    mebepiglet123 Posts: 327 Member
    According to your profile. You have nothing to lose. Drink the beer eat the pizza, then exercise it off....
  • LoosingMyLast15
    LoosingMyLast15 Posts: 1,457 Member
    Thanks I'm sure y'all are right. I need to work on not giving so much thought about what people think!

    ^^^ this - and what's wrong with actually eating before you go. this way you are not tempted to even try the pizza. i'm all for enjoying a beer while out with friends so if this was me i'd eat before i went out and i would have a beer while bowling. enjoy your friend and your friend's friends. don't worry - i bet if you let them know you ate before because you are trying to eat healthy someone will chime in they're doing the same thing or on a diet.
  • Lesa_Sass
    Lesa_Sass Posts: 2,213 Member
    I am a recovering alcoholic and when I first got sober I used to worry about what people would think if I was not drinking. It did not take long for me to realize people did not care if I was drinking or not, or if they did, they typically had a problem with alcohol.

    I worried because I was the one that was judgmental about such things. Once I got over my own head and did not care what others did or said, or what they thought of me, life was much easier.

    And BTW, there is absolutely nothing wrong with saying "I do not eat or drink those things". 9 times out of 10 the only person that is going to take issue with it are the ones that really wish they had the will power to do something about their diet.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,424 Member
    I would still go if I liked their company. I would still not each the crap though. that happens to me all the time when I go out w/friends or are with family. they are in awe of my discipline
  • ladyengineer
    ladyengineer Posts: 4 Member
    I second the eat before you go. you can also bring a bottle of water to sip on so you aren't just standing around. If you are really pushed, accept the pizza and pick the veggies off of it :)
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    Thanks I'm sure y'all are right. I need to work on not giving so much thought about what people think!

    I think it's totally natural You've gotten some good advice. You could also just say you're tummy has been feeling a little 'squirrely' all day and you don't think pizza is a good idea right now.

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