Am I a bad friend?

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  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    Ok, curious -- how long has your best friend been your best friend?
  • TripleJ3
    TripleJ3 Posts: 945 Member
    Well I'm pretty loyal to my best friend. The sleeping around business I wouldn't get too involved in. Doesn't really sound like that is the issue though. Sounds like Vivian is being insecure about her now husbands past. If she was continually bothering my best friend oh yes would I have something to say. A one time thing.....I'd probably mention to her that I didn't think behavior like that was cool at all. I wouldn't typically hang out with someone who was that insecure anyway but I get the whole she comes with the package deal.
    I would tell my bestie that I did tell Vivian I wasn't ok with it but again, you aren't trying to be shopping friends with this chick, just being mature about the situation since it's hubby's best bud and your marriage will always come first.
    If Vivian couldn't grow some self confidence and get over it or tried to talk crap about my best friend to me then I would have to re-think joining the get togethers.
  • ShadeyC
    ShadeyC Posts: 315 Member
    Normally id say tell everyone its not your concern. However this

    Now hear is why I'm asking if I'm a bad friend. Vivian found out about Phil seeing my friend on and off and did some really childish things and said some very hurtful and immature things to my friend. She created a fake Facebook page to send her insulting posts.


    Yeah fark that crazy lady. Don't be friends with crazy. Crazy is not good. Crazy will eventually turn on you.

    THIS!
    And RUN!
    SCREAMING!
    Preferably waving your hands above your head. Perhaps they'll all think you're also crazy and then leave you alone and you won't have to deal with any of it.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    Oh God, what an impossible situation! Phil sounds like he should be castrated, and your friend should have listened to your advice. I know best friends can expect a lot of each other but in saying that your friend chose to sleep with him, knowing he's bad news, and I think if she disregarded your advice to start with, as well as letting him back in her bed, then it's her emotional mess to deal with and she can't expect you to get stuck in the middle.

    If it was one of my friends I think I'd give them the "I don't like how she treated you, however because of my husband I have to see her and I'm sorry what happened but this is very difficult for me too" commiserating speech.

    Castrated? That's pretty extreme there. :laugh:
  • Azra124
    Azra124 Posts: 39
    Annnnd WHY do you feel the need to socialize with Vivian again?

    Is that what your husband wants?

    Stop hanging out with stupid, crazy people.

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