A Sweet Craving Turned Into A Good Plan For The Future.

Sharonks

I don't consider planning some splurges as a binge. I love donuts too. My solution is to periodically buy 1 donut and take it home. Once I'm home I am unlikely to go back to the store for another. We all have to do what we have to do to control unhealthy habits and I think you have found an excellent way to do that. Enjoy your birthday dinner and don't feel one bit guilty about it. You have done an awesome job of losing weight.

VBnotbitter

I think you are looking for permission for an old fashioned binge. You are using your birthday as an excuse for what you know in your heart is not a good idea.

By your own admission you have struggled with your weight all your life. Is it worth that chance of reversing all your hard work for a donut?

Our bodies can only take a certain amount if abuse. Will your doctor be happy you learn of your plan?

Pray about this. Ask God what he wants for you. Check out Overeaters Anonymous because I think you are toying with a bad idea and I for one cannot encourage you. Why blow your progress?

Your use of the word "binge" in your post is a hint at what you have in mine.

Ummmmmmm......WTF

Did you read her profile? She's married to a minister and has limited mobility due to her lifelong weight issues.

Not sure what her being married to a minister has to do with any of this but...

It might have played a role in her polite reply to you previously.

I have seen your posts previously...have even been the recipient of one of them. I can't help but think that you are projecting your own insecurities on to others. We all struggle with our own "demons" as to why we allowed ourselves to gain weight. Those reasons will vary from person to person...maybe share some similarities...yet unique to each of us.

The only way to defeat those "demons" are to face them head on. How we do that is a personal journey all on its own. I started facing my own a couple of years ago...when I finally got it under control...I then began to face what I had allowed to happen to my body and my health.

You need to own your own insecurities...your own fears...not try to include everyone else in to them.

Many of us have come a long way...that seems to bother you. I have noticed that your canned response about over eaters is usually directed at people that are succeeding at not only weight loss but at also moving forward in their daily lives. That tells me a lot about you...about your insecurities...your fears.

I understand them...I am sure that the OP understands them...we have all been there...we all know how hard the battle is to overcome them. If you would just allow it...I am sure that there are those here that would be glad to support you while you are struggling to overcome your own "demons".

I won't go in to my own "demons"...but it had nothing to do with an addiction to food. I found that hiding behind fat was a safe place to be...behind that wall of fat. I no longer feel the need to hide...I no longer need the fat...I no longer need that wall.

Instead of trying to pull us behind your walls...why don't you let some of the kind and compassionate people such as the OP take your hand while you take down a few bricks in your wall and find the courage to step through.

I have very few bricks remaining in my own wall...I took them down...one by one. I still have a few to go...maybe I always will...but I no longer fear...stepping out from behind that wall.

It is a beautiful world on the other side of your wall...take down even just a few bricks....take a look at what your missing.

I wish you well...I truly do hope that you conquer those fears...decide to step out from behind that wall.

Obesity maims and kills people. The OP profile stated she had to lose weight before the doctor would do knee replacement. She is in the 7th decade if her life. (0-10 years is your first decade) If she decides she can have "just one" on many more occasions she may easily return to old ways. I know too many people who have lost and regained the same 100 pounds(not the same 5). This takes its toll on your body and she may not be able to get back on track. They struggle daily with wanting to binge again.
People are not all that different when they are craving certain foods.

When one posts a plan to eat junk ahead of time, are they asking for permission to do something they know is probably not a good idea? I don't think it's a good idea to rubber stamp a bad idea.

She is married to a minister so my suggestion to pray is to put in God's hand her decision about food / on her birthday and beyond. Yes it does help some people become healthier.


When you post online, expect all kinds of diverse responses.

Don't just read her profile, read her blog. Go back over the past year. This is a lady who has got it together and has inspired many others in the process.