Off Topic....moms, where are you??

TamTastic

I need help! Please tell me this is normal. My formerly sweet, kind, good boy turned 17 months old and BAM!! He became devil child!! His cuspids are coming in and I hear they are nasty...and I know he is trying to test his boundaries and see what he can get away with...and I know it is frustrating because he can't communicate everything he wants to (besides screaming!!).....But, man!! I just don't know how to handle him sometimes.

I keep saying I need little boy midol for his PMS!! LOL!

I wasn't prepared for this at all because he was GREAT up until now. I mean, the ONLY thing I could complain about was him screaming sometimes (out of frustration AND excitement), but he was a good sleeper, eater, transitioned from bottle to cup before he was a year! And he is just a charmer, waves and smiles to everyone in public. I still see glimpses of my sweet boy! Please tell me he's not gone forever!!

Thanks
Tami (mommy to J.T. the Terrible!!!) hehe

TamTastic

I need help! Please tell me this is normal. My formerly sweet, kind, good boy turned 17 months old and BAM!! He became devil child!! His cuspids are coming in and I hear they are nasty...and I know he is trying to test his boundaries and see what he can get away with...and I know it is frustrating because he can't communicate everything he wants to (besides screaming!!).....But, man!! I just don't know how to handle him sometimes.

I keep saying I need little boy midol for his PMS!! LOL!

I wasn't prepared for this at all because he was GREAT up until now. I mean, the ONLY thing I could complain about was him screaming sometimes (out of frustration AND excitement), but he was a good sleeper, eater, transitioned from bottle to cup before he was a year! And he is just a charmer, waves and smiles to everyone in public. I still see glimpses of my sweet boy! Please tell me he's not gone forever!!

Thanks
Tami (mommy to J.T. the Terrible!!!) hehe

icupfunny2000

Nah hes not gone forever ... just a few years!!! Its not easy and definately now always fun .... WELCOME TO THE WORLD OF LITTLE BOYS:devil:

j~

Sinnettfamily

That is about the time my little boy started being that way, as well as my daughter, it last till she was 3 and it is soo much better, now have to wait for my son.

icandoit

Motherhood...isn't it the best. I am sorry to tell you this...but you will be going throught that for the next 18 years.:laugh: But it is all worth it. :flowerforyou:

elliott062907

Mine just turned 15 and already I have silver hair peaking through and I'm only 36!!!!!

BreaNix

No he's not gone forever.

I remember there were many times that I had to carry my oldest out of stores, with him on my shoulder kicking and screaming. He came out of it and is awesome.

Lots of love, understanding, patience, while standing your ground on your rules and this will pass. A few drinks doesn't hurt either...hehe...just kidding.
Another bit of advice I got at that time was to pick your battles. Only inforce the ones that really matter to you. Sometimes its ok to let the others pass.

I found going to the health club a great break at that age. He could run around and play with kids while
I could have alone time.

good luck

alf1163

OMG I guess he approached the terrible two's a little too early...the main thing is that you need to be consistent, don't give into his demands. They are really good manipulators!!! And everyone around him need to be on the same page when it comes to disciplining...you cannot be one way and your husband or the grandparents another way...and best of all LOTS of patience...this too shall pass..."enjoy" every stage of your child's life because they grow TOO quickly!! :flowerforyou:

hmmmm

My two year old was an angel. Still is (sometimes). Her favorite word now is NO!! With a little whiney attitude accent on it. The worst part is my one year old imitates her. It seems like they both want to gang up on me. Lol. But the 2 year old is no stranger to the bad girl chair. And the one year old will be soon to follow. Keep your stance and the sweet little guy will make more appearances. He is trying to test you. I find either lack of sleep or boredom brings the devil out. Keep him well rested and busy with different activities. Good luck and enjoy these times they will go by quickly.

mommared53

Hoowee! I have a daughter and a son. Both grown up now but the worse time for me was when my daughter started going through puberty. Up until that time we were closer than two peas in a pod. All of a sudden BAM!!!! It was like she was replaced by some evil, hateful, warring alien who was just determined that she was not going to get along with me no matter what. No if, ands or buts about it. She was just HORRIBLE I tell ya! Nobody had warned me this would happen. I was so unprepared. It was the first time in my life I ever hated my daughter. I know that's horrible to say but it's the truth. Luckily that passed and we're friends now but whoa I never want to go through that again! Luckily my second child was a boy and he wasn't near as bad as his sister. :happy:

Anyway good luck to you. I have to say that if I had it to do over again (having my kids) I'd do it a million times over because they are just so worth it. Enjoy your little one becausse this too shall pass.

btw you're little one is very normal.

hmmmm

Mine just turned 15 and already I have silver hair peaking through and I'm only 36!!!!!

Too funny although my hair started getting touches of gray when I was pregnant with the first. I guess it was to warn me what I was in store for.

abetterme

I am a mother of 5 boys and 1 girl, the boys are 14, 9, 7, 5 and 3 and the girl is 2. Your cute little boy is not gone forever. I have noticed as they get older it is hard to find but when I do find it I cherrish it. The boys still allow hugs and kisses so I am taking advantage of that while I can cause I know one of these days it will be Gross MOM!!! Don't do that!!! I feel your pain but just want you to know that he is not gone for good. Sorry that you are having to go through this, I send you prayers of strength:flowerforyou:

CrystalBella

awe... the wonderful world of 2ys... lol Jerimyah started at about age 1. i had to learn not to give into his demands... when his fits get out of control i put him in timeout. but mostly i ignore his fits.. let him scream for a min or two and then come back ask if he is okay and wants to try again.. if he says no, i start all over... if it got to the point where he was hittin and throwin things, he got time out.. it lasted about 3 months or so.. i think he realized that mommy isn't goin to be into all that, and stopped.. now at 2 1/2 he is pretty good kid, cleans his toy area, helps cleaning around the house, does his school work when asked... only time we have major fits is when it comes to the potty.. he won't poppy on the pot.. lol
you'll be fine.. it's a phase, and it will end if you let him know that he can't have it is way... ask Vin Diesel said "it's my way no highway option"... lol

TamTastic

Thank you all you wonderful moms!! You have given me hope...or at least helped me to realize this is very normal!

It just came out of the blue! And like I said, he was such a good boy up until now. I can understand that he gets frustrated...wants something but can't tell me exactly what, and he's growing and teething.. I mean, I can't imagine going through all that without making a peep!

I do enjoy my time with him, even when I am gritting my teeth! I adore him so much. And I do go to the gym and he goes into the daycare there and I get some ME time and he plays. And as we walk in and out he waves and smiles to everyone on the machines. TOO TOO CUTE!!

I can't believe he is as big as he is already!

Also, I find this to be a common theme among all parents....when you all left the hospital to come home with your babies, did it feel weird? Like..."Wow, they are actually letting me leave with this little person??"

Thanks again!!!
Tami

teetsel4

WE stopped going out to eat for a few years because my oldest was a nightmare to take out. Throwing tantrums, screaming, telling us "NO!", UGH! He really pushed my buttons those years! I swear from 1-4 they are super difficult. But after that, especially when they go to school, it just calms down. Don't get me wrong, they still challenge me everyday, but I can handle this, not the kicking screaming on the floor of the grocery store!:laugh:

Mireille

I can completely understand.
I'm going through the freaking 4's right now with my older child. My daughter has turned into the devil. She is very rude, sarcastic and just doesn't listen anymore. :frown:
She was so good until she started school (gotta blame someone lol).
I guess it's part of their jobs to frustrate and embarrass the hell out of us.

Stay strong girl and you will get through this! :flowerforyou:

amylynne26

LOL I just have to laugh because I am the hateful alien from Mommared53's post... and lived to laugh about it!:laugh: It's ok though because I have birthed the payback child..... hmmm wonder why she doesn't babysit her grandchildren? :huh:

My 2 youngest are 2 and 4, no sooner does my daughter outgrow the "terrible twos" and we start liking her again then my son takes her place. This morning I seriously considered locking myself in the bathroom and not coming out until my husband could come home and DEAL with him!!!!! All I had to do was get him off to the sitter so I could head to my nice quiet office and that was almost more than I could handle. He has always been the "good" one and everyone's favorite! Hang in there it'll get better! Well, then worse, but hey you'll have the grade school years to enjoy first! :bigsmile:

kimber607

Hi

I'm the lucky mom of a 3 and 4 1/2 yr old...LOL
They all go through phases and I vividly remember 18mnths being TOUGHHHHHH!
Like another poster said, just when they become 'easy' again they hit another stage and their behavior goes downhill...between having 2 kids so close in age, ONE is always in a bad mood...LOL

hang in there!
Kim

Annabel_Lee13

I understand what you are going through. My 2 year old daughter can be so sweet and then just can turn on you. Her favorite words are "NO" , "i don't like it" and "i don't want to". She wants everything her way and goes crazy when she doesn't get it. Hang in there it has to get better. One good thing: she is still a perfect angel when she is sleeping.

pam0206

Tam,
Once those teeth cut through, you are going to see a difference in your little man. He is MISERABLE. Your sweet baby is still there. He will continue to test your limits (that's his job), but he will be more calm once those teeth are through. I have a 23 mo old and she was like that before her 18mos. She was cutting teeth and then after 18 mos, her speech took off and now she's talking up a storm. Much of her frustration has been taken care of with her ability to communicate. I suspect this behavior is just part of a phase that will pass. GL. Now, we're trying to get our daughter through some allergies. She's just miserable at night!

mking

i am the mom of 4 beautiful children and one angel. Whenever my 1 year old seems like to much I remember how precious our time is together. I lost a baby at 1 month old, and it makes me realize how important this time is with my children no-matter how many gray hairs they are causing!!! Be strong they all go through different phases! Take care!

melissa

beep

This is "the terrible twos" which start around 18 months and last until they leave the house. Just kidding. This is the time when being consistant in disciplining will take a lot out of you, but just hang in there and don't give in. With consistent creative discipline they will learn eventually to be able to handle not getting what they think they want immediately.

I know adults who never learned that lesson.

I remember a day, a long time ago, when my first born was having a conniption fit in front of the refridgerator. First he thought he wanted milk, so I took out the milk; only to have him cry that he wanted apple juice; so I poured him a glass of apple juice, but I got it in the wrong color cup..... in other words, he didn't even know what he wanted and just wanted to fuss.

The teeth thing is a toughy too, because you know they don't feel well with big old molars coming in and that just makes them act worse.

pmkelly409

Hold on tight Tami - the fun is just starting! It is going to be an emotional three years!! :devil:

Love, Laugh and cherish the snuggle time!

I never told anyone this - I secretly loved when my son was sick because he would snuggle quietly on the couch with me for hours!

you are in good company and it is 100% normal!

mommyskis

My oldest is turning 4 next week and also went thru this. It seems like turning 3 and building his vocabulary helped a lot. Imagine having big people control every aspect of your life and not having the vocab/speaking skills to tell them what you want. Plus painful teeth. Someone said pick your battles and be consistent. Very good advice. My oldest sometimes wears very weird stuff out in public, but who really cares? But at least he is wearing a coat when it's cold. Don't be embaressed to leave a shopping cart if you have to. Kids will never, ever forget that one time you gave in or bribed them to be good. Don't worry about what other people are thinking if you need to give a time-out or something. Consistency helps a lot. And one day when you think you are going to lose it, he will hug you and tell you that you are a good mommy and you will forget all the pain!

mablesyrup

I need help! Please tell me this is normal. My formerly sweet, kind, good boy turned 17 months old and BAM!! He became devil child!! His cuspids are coming in and I hear they are nasty...and I know he is trying to test his boundaries and see what he can get away with...and I know it is frustrating because he can't communicate everything he wants to (besides screaming!!).....But, man!! I just don't know how to handle him sometimes.

I keep saying I need little boy midol for his PMS!! LOL!

I wasn't prepared for this at all because he was GREAT up until now. I mean, the ONLY thing I could complain about was him screaming sometimes (out of frustration AND excitement), but he was a good sleeper, eater, transitioned from bottle to cup before he was a year! And he is just a charmer, waves and smiles to everyone in public. I still see glimpses of my sweet boy! Please tell me he's not gone forever!!

Thanks
Tami (mommy to J.T. the Terrible!!!) hehe

Awww. sorry I can't really give much advice. Both of mine (8 year old and 14 month old) are girls! My sisters both have 1 boy and 1 girl. One of them is only 8 months old.. but the other boy is just over 2. My sister always said how she couldn't believe how different boys are!!!!! I know he went through the same thing- and eventually 'grew out of it'.. although is he VERY active and hyper!!!!!!!!!! He isn't gone forever Kids just test their boundries as they get older and realize they can get away with more- or they at least try to get away with more!!! What exactly is he doing now that he wasn't before???? Maybe we could give some more specific advice? Oh and I know someone else already mentioned it above me-- but it also sounds like he's starting "the terrible two's".. which usually last until they are 3!!!

TamTastic

Thanks everyone! I was finally able to read the rest of your responses. I appreciate the advice and words of sympathy!

To answer the last question, he is just not himself. He has a super short fuse, will come into the kitchen with me to get a cup of milk. I hand it to him and he starts crying and flings his hand at the cup of milk to push it away, so I put it down on the table and he starts throwing another tantrum because he wants it. Then he is getting to that point where he see's another kid have or be on a toy and decides he wants it and just goes and takes it. And he SCREAMS! I think that's the worst. He has always been a screamer to show his frustration but these days it's A LOT and he knows it bugs me, looks right at me and does it. I am truly hoping that when he understands and can communicate more words, that the screaming will stop.

But like today, we were at a friends house playing outside since it was a beautiful day. She made pizza and all the kids were eating happily. I helped him sit down to eat and he started throwing a tantrum....and would not eat a bite. So, he was miserable for awhile. I thought maybe his teeth hurt....so I didn't push it TOO much...then a little while later, he gets a piece of pizza and walks away with it and starts eating it as he gets in the play car and sits there and eats it.

I mean, I guess he is trying to show that he is in charge of himself..like if I try to do anything for him, he will resist but a few minutes later he will decide on his own that he will do it. Grrrr! LOL!

In good news, he is usually a good boy while out shopping. For the most part anyway! In fact he is quite engaging and smiles and waves to people and says "Hi!" And they love it and will talk to him and tell me how cute he is, etc! lol

ali106

awww so sweet!!!!

lol and I agree w/ everyone! you'll get through it even though there will be days when you say....Lord just take the wheel because this child is on my last nerve LOL...sigh....but its probably a few things...the teeth and he's becoming more intune to what he can do on his own, to reactions and he's basically testing the waters lol....fun times girl!

big hugs and he sounds like a sweet heart! my little guy was and is still a handful at times....but as long as for the most part you know why they act out or its just a phase things will get better.....and then worse....and then better....and then worse....lmbo....I think or shall I say I HEAR its get really better when they are grown and have their own kids and you become the grandma! lol

hugs!
Ali

mommyskis

Your little guy sounds soooo normal for his age! I really think you'll see a difference as his language naturally improves.

peej76

I'm going through this right now with my 4 month old, he's just getting his 1st tooth, and, man I had him on such a good schedule too lol! Now my 5 year old on the other hand is a little monster and has been since the day he was concieved. When I was pregnant I said to my husband that I was carrying the devil child, and I was right on the money!! And I also have a 13 year old who is going through the first stages of teenage years, and oooh man terrible two's got nothing on that. I'm at all stages right now and some days I wanna pull my hair out but just hang in there, the smiles they bring to your face far outweigh the tough stuff!!