I don't enjoy eating anymore

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  • WhisperAnne
    WhisperAnne Posts: 453 Member
    I'm going to try my hardest to not count every calorie. Maybe, hopefully by now my mind knows what to eat and when to stop. I want to enjoy food and I know I can eat anything as long as it's a portion size etc. I really don't want people blowing up because of this topic.
  • vintagegoddess
    vintagegoddess Posts: 1 Member
    Hi Whisper,

    I know how you feel! I went to an Overeaters Anon meeting and I was telling them that chocolate chip cookies were like friends to me and they said that they were "bad" friends. True.

    You can still love food. Try the Whole Living website recipes. They're great and you can lose weigh and fitness pal has the recipes in they're database. I always go back the the 28 day challenge. Try it & let me know what you think. Bon Appetit also has a challenge that has great food that tastes great and is good for you.
  • WhisperAnne
    WhisperAnne Posts: 453 Member
    You are developing a very unhealthy relationship with food. My guess is that you don't really understand how any of this works from an actual scientific and mathematical standpoint...if you did, you would realize that you're not going to gain weight from eating a peanut butter sandwich or a chocolate covered pretzel.

    Honestly, you don't look like you have any weight to lose...I'd strongly suggest backing away from the food scale and calorie counting until you can get your head straight...seek out professional help if necessary. These kind of unhealthy relationships with food and disordered kind of thinking can quickly spiral into full blown ED if you're not careful.

    This. ^ Time to ease up. I have been logging my calories for years, but if I am hungry - even when trying to lose weight - I eat. Logging it just helps me figure out why I'm gaining/losing.
    That is so depressing. Yeah it's great being fit and healthy. But it comes with a price. I worked my butt off for years to lose the weight and now I'm so damn miserable with food. I see other thin people eat really unhealthy and stay their size! I want to do that!

    That type of relationship with food isn't any healthier - literally or figuratively. No one on this earth can eat junk all the time and not suffer health consequences. In terms of weight, as I'm sure you know, it's calories in versus calories out. My wife eats junk 24/7 and maintains her weight. However, she only eats a couple times a day whereas I am constantly eating. If you eat healthier, you can eat more (by volume). Also, although some people have genetics that may allow them to eat a little more, it is for the most part just an illusion; most of those people are just skinny-fat. For example, I can eat tons and still look very skinny, but my body fat goes up just like everyone else. The way my body distributes the weight though, I can be at 25% and look like I'm at 15% (clothed that is). Again, it's an illusion though. It also comes at the cost of having to put on significant muscle before I really appear muscular. My point is simply that perceptions aren't reality.

    You make perfect sense. I've been hearing about "skinny fat" and it surprises me that a skinny person can still have such high body fat..just amazing what our bodies can do.
  • tesha_chandler
    tesha_chandler Posts: 378 Member
    If counting calories is super important to you, maybe you could try planning out meals each week and planning the calories out with them. That way you just do what's on your schedule and you don't have to worry counting them day in and day out.

    I'm actually really happy that you posted this because I just realized that I have become overly obsessed with counting them as well.
  • DirrtyH
    DirrtyH Posts: 664 Member
    I don't enjoy food anymore either. If I had the choice I would rather not eat at all. When I'm hungry and can't ignore it anymore, I go for the easiest, most convenient thing which is rarely the most healthy thing. It makes this process difficult.

    I don't know if it ever comes back. Maybe it won't. Maybe you'll need to find your satisfaction in other things. Eat to live and find your joy elsewhere.
  • tesstcool
    tesstcool Posts: 38 Member
    Unfortunately I don't think most of us will ever be "normal." My boyfriend and sister are both those kind of people that can eat like 5000 calories a day and stay the same weight or even drop lbs! I know the reason I'm here is because I was living for so long with the delusion that I could eat whatever I wanted whenever I wanted. But unfortunately I'm built differently than "normal" people and have a slower metabolism. I've been learning to accept the fact that my body shouldn't have more than 1200 calories a day and that I need to exercise regularly. I want soooo bad to just go out to eat and have whatever on the menu, sadly I know I can't. I've even had to fight the urge to look up foods at the dinner table! I do believe however that one day I'll just naturally eat right and not count. Good luck to everyone on their endeavors!
  • LeahFerri
    LeahFerri Posts: 186 Member
    Do you really have to eat between 1300 and 1500 to maintain 125 pounds? I'm a little under 125 pounds and I eat ~1500 to lose. I don't think that's the real issue here, but it might at least feel a little easier if you have more calories to play with. I know I had issues when I had my calories set at 1200 (terrible, terrible decision) because I felt like I couldn't eat things I wanted without sacrificing things that would keep me from being hungry.

    It seems to me that the problem isn't quite that you can't eat the things you want--because they can be fit in, I know they can!--but that you have to think about it if you do and you're tired of thinking about it all. the. time. I get that. I so get that. Some days I am just so utterly tired of thinking about food (and this happens to me with more than food, but that's not the focus here) and wish I could just say "screw everything" and eat all of whatever I wanted. And sometimes I do that. But I do it with the knowledge that I have to go back. It's an acceptance that if I leave off monitoring my food altogether, I won't be able to retain the physical and mental state of health that lets me enjoy life in other ways. Sometimes, as was previously said, that means you have to focus on those other ways to make things feel worthwhile.

    I agree with the 80/20 (or sometimes 90/10) rule that's often posited around here: eat to live 80 to 90%, and then live to eat for the other 20 to 10%.

    Message me if you want!
  • JustinAnimal
    JustinAnimal Posts: 1,335 Member
    work out harder...........eat what you want........

    thats how I see it.......I think about this past year when I have gotten in better shape.....and I think man if I ate better I would have be in incredible shape.......but would I be happy about it?

    I love my pizza, fries, and beer.......I just consume it a different way sometimes. But I can't stop allowing myself to not have what I want.


    This. Before I got way hardcore about my health, I used to work out like a mofo so I could drink beer. Mmmmmm...
  • knra_grl
    knra_grl Posts: 1,566 Member
    I'm going to try my hardest to not count every calorie. Maybe, hopefully by now my mind knows what to eat and when to stop. I want to enjoy food and I know I can eat anything as long as it's a portion size etc. I really don't want people blowing up because of this topic.

    we all know a bad day of eating is not the end of the world so why don't you just take 1 day off per week from tracking it doesn't necessarily mean you have to make poor food choices but the decision will be yours without having to account for every morsel that passes your lips.
  • aportz
    aportz Posts: 12 Member
    I know it's so much harder than it sounds, but it's all about BALANCE. Is 125 lbs the best weight for you? Why is being waif thin so important? Really sounds to me like you have some issues you need to deal with. Find yourself a good therapist and deal with them. Do you seriously want to spend the rest of your life dealing with this? Here's the truth: there is more to life than how much you weigh. It's a number on a scale. Don't make it who you are. You need to find a healthy weight that you can maintain without destroying your life and try to stay there. I know it's hard. I was a fat kid whose mother harped about her weight CONSTANTLY. No kidding! AND every single one of my siblings and counsins were TINY. If that doesn't give you weight issues, I don't know what will. I finally reached the point where I made peace with myself. Quit obsessing (and yes, I can almost see you start to worry about "skinny fat"). Talk to a dietician if you have to. Figure out a reasonable weight and maintain that instead of some super small # you've plucked out of the air (i.e, if you have to exist on water to maintain this weight, IT'S NOT THE RIGHT WEIGHT). Make peace with that. Enjoy your life and limit your time on these boards. There are many folks on MFP who will make you feel inadequate. Give them the old "WHATEVER!" Take care of yourself, you're worth it!
  • cafeaulait7
    cafeaulait7 Posts: 2,459 Member
    Get the kids' meal! I eat a cheeseburger and fries probably once a week at least :) And you get a toy :D
  • wonderwoman234
    wonderwoman234 Posts: 551 Member
    You are developing a very unhealthy relationship with food. My guess is that you don't really understand how any of this works from an actual scientific and mathematical standpoint...if you did, you would realize that you're not going to gain weight from eating a peanut butter sandwich or a chocolate covered pretzel.

    Honestly, you don't look like you have any weight to lose...I'd strongly suggest backing away from the food scale and calorie counting until you can get your head straight...seek out professional help if necessary. These kind of unhealthy relationships with food and disordered kind of thinking can quickly spiral into full blown ED if you're not careful.

    This is one of the many reasons I caution so many people I know personally about calorie counting. It can work very well, but you have to be able to maintain a healthy relationship with food. I don't log anymore and have maintained my weight for around 8 months...I just make good nutritional decisions 80-90% of the time and allow myself some good time 10-20% of the time, all while maintaining my fitness regimen. By the end of my losing I was really getting obsessive about everything and I just needed to back away...I've been doing just fine.

    This is excellent advice. I have been in a women's eating disorder support group for two years. Your relationship with food is not healthy. You look very slight in your photo and should not be obsessively counting calories. You need to find a way to normalize your eating. That's what I am doing. I am the other side of the coin - I was eating too much for emotional reasons instead of not enough....but it's all the same.

    Food should not have the power to make or break your day. It's just food. It's not love, it's not control, it's not anything other than fuel. Yes, it can be pleasurable but if it is causing you to feel absolute joy or absolute misery, that's not healthy. Balance in all things....

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