Never in my life have I ever lost weight....

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  • JesterMFP
    JesterMFP Posts: 3,596 Member
    Everytime I hear about TDEE. I get so confused, but I looked up a calculator http://iifym.com/iifym-calculator/ <- there's the link. And it says if I put all my info in that my TDEE is 2447, and my BMR is 1780. If I go further, it says for fat loss I should eat 1872 cals.

    No. no way.

    I know right now this is all probably just overwhelming my brain right now, and that's what's got me upset.
    If I just let it go, keep going to bootcamp 1-2/week, I'll eventually seee something. I've got to be building metabolism somewhere.

    I'm just going to do it at a much much slower pace than my friends who go every day. I have to accept that I can do only what I can do.

    Thank you all for your input and listening to my rant.
    I think a lot of people fail to have long term success with weight loss because they refuse to let go of black/white thinking and see life in extremes. They're either "on a diet" or have "fallen off the wagon". They're being "good" or "naughty". They're either eating too much and can't be bothered to exercise or they get a sudden wave of motivation, cut calories far below what they need to and "go hard" in the gym - doing far more exercise than they are used to and far more than they really enjoy doing. So, inevitably, that doesn't last long.

    You say "No. no way" to 1872 calories, but why not? Why don't you give it a try and see? Not for a few days, but a few weeks, consistently weighing your food and tracking it. If you aren't losing, then reduce that number a bit. I find when I talk to people in real life about losing weight, a lot of them assume you have to eat 1000 calories a day or something. At the same time, most of them assume they normally eat around 1500-1800. Of course, they're not tracking their food and in most cases are vastly underestimating their normal intake.

    I maintain on around 1850 calories PLUS exercise calories (I use the MFP method), and I'm (slightly) older, and lighter than you. If you're using the TDEE method (ie you DON'T log exercise calories and eat those back) then 1872 sounds very reasonable to me for you to lose weight. That should work out to be about 1 lb a week if your TDEE really is around 2400, and 1 lb a week is a very reasonable, sustainable rate of loss for where you're at now. I'd try 1872, give it a few weeks and if you don't lose anything and see no changes in measurements, then knock it down a little bit, say 1700 or 1650.
  • Blokeypoo
    Blokeypoo Posts: 274 Member
    "whether you think you can or you can't, you are right"

    It IS all in the attitude and approach, sort that first (simple mindfulness books help and I'm NOT into self helpy stuff as a rule because I'm a stiff upper lip Brit!).

    You CAN do it but boy do you need to believe it - go on, don't try, do.
  • Blokeypoo
    Blokeypoo Posts: 274 Member
    Also, I only had a 2st (28lbs) goal loss and am only 5'2.5. Short and not tons to lose makes it harder in theory but I still lost on 1400ish cals a day (without avoiding social events etc) plus normal levels of exercise/activity but at no time did I turn myself navy blue doing cardio which I hate. I just put my head down and kept having a go. Slow and steady wins the race.
  • lynn1982
    lynn1982 Posts: 1,439 Member
    Does anyone else find it odd that the OP has 1,090 posts and has been a member since Sept 2010? Just pointing that out...
  • nikkylyn
    nikkylyn Posts: 325 Member
    Try small changes at first. Exercise 3x week walking or something. Buy more fruit n veggies to snack on. With 1800 calories you could afford to budget in some treats. Some nights I have one scoup not 3 of icecream which is usually around 150. So its not all or nothing. Small changes at first soon become habits. There will be good days and not so good just gotta keep pushing forward.
  • farmers_daughter
    farmers_daughter Posts: 1,632 Member
    Does anyone else find it odd that the OP has 1,090 posts and has been a member since Sept 2010? Just pointing that out...
    Is that a good or a bad thing?
  • knra_grl
    knra_grl Posts: 1,566 Member
    You aren't committed to this change - you drink soda or diet soda for breakfast - your diet lacks a variety of good wholesome food and you do not log consistently - When you actually commit to changing things you will lose weight but you don't have anyone to blame for your situation but yourself - I am not usually this blunt but you have been on this site for more than 31/2 yrs and it would seem you are not taking advantage of the things you can learn here.
  • lynn1982
    lynn1982 Posts: 1,439 Member
    Does anyone else find it odd that the OP has 1,090 posts and has been a member since Sept 2010? Just pointing that out...
    Is that a good or a bad thing?

    Neither - it's just odd. Something smells fishy here...
  • farmers_daughter
    farmers_daughter Posts: 1,632 Member
    Time on the site is irrelevant.

    I usually stick to the groups I'm in and the people I've met there, but sometimes I just get overly curious thats why I post out here.
    I'm impressed with the feed back in this thread. I've actually gotten some good pointers.

    I get a little too wrapped up in what others can do, I have to remember that I don't have to do exactly what they do, and for the most part I can't.
    But knowing that some have had success on higher calorie counts, and the mentioned methods of exercise is encouraging.
    No you're right 3 years ago I was losing weight on a pill.... I'm slowly wrapping my head around how to to undo this mess now.
    It's also difficult to wrap my head around doing something for me. As opposed to doing it for others.

    It's ok to be blunt. Sometimes anger and frustration are good motivators.
  • farmers_daughter
    farmers_daughter Posts: 1,632 Member
    Does anyone else find it odd that the OP has 1,090 posts and has been a member since Sept 2010? Just pointing that out...
    Is that a good or a bad thing?

    Neither - it's just odd. Something smells fishy here...
    I suppose as long as it's salmon. I like salmon. :tongue:
    Just a real person struggling in thier 30's to undo many decades of poor eating and exercise habits. Everybody has their ups and downs.
  • knra_grl
    knra_grl Posts: 1,566 Member
    Time on the site is irrelevant.

    I usually stick to the groups I'm in and the people I've met there, but sometimes I just get overly curious thats why I post out here.
    I'm impressed with the feed back in this thread. I've actually gotten some good pointers.

    I get a little too wrapped up in what others can do, I have to remember that I don't have to do exactly what they do, and for the most part I can't.
    But knowing that some have had success on higher calorie counts, and the mentioned methods of exercise is encouraging.
    No you're right 3 years ago I was losing weight on a pill.... I'm slowly wrapping my head around how to to undo this mess now.
    It's also difficult to wrap my head around doing something for me. As opposed to doing it for others.

    It's ok to be blunt. Sometimes anger and frustration are good motivators.

    You can do this - fully commit to your logging and add in some exercise! Don't self sabotage yourself into thinking you can't do it. Honestly my eating habits must have truly been horrendous before I started this journey because I am always satisfied with my food and I eat a lot. Try and add some variety to your diet though it seems pretty mundane to me. Change your mindset and everything will fall into place - tell yourself you can do it - it's not complicated but you need to be consistent! Good Luck!

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