Will Power with Lack of Support at Home

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  • AshTrixxy
    AshTrixxy Posts: 507 Member
    Maybe you could talk to him about what is supportive, and what is making things more difficult. I've talked to my husband about how he doesn't need do things with me, but I would like him be supportive with my goal of getting healthy and what that would look like for me. It really helps when you feel like your other half is encouraging you not detracting you from your goals. Yes I know they aren't forcing us to eat anything but it's nice when the person you count on most can be a cheerleader instead of someone that tempts you to indulge.

    Thank you so much for that! Yes, I will have to talk to him. Last year when I did Jenny Craig, we had that talk and the effects of it lasted all for about a month. I think I will just have to keep re-iterating that I am changing my lifestyle and not that he has to do it with me, but there are things he could do for me to increase my success.
  • shannonin
    shannonin Posts: 130 Member
    Maybe you could talk to him about what is supportive, and what is making things more difficult. I've talked to my husband about how he doesn't need do things with me, but I would like him be supportive with my goal of getting healthy and what that would look like for me. It really helps when you feel like your other half is encouraging you not detracting you from your goals. Yes I know they aren't forcing us to eat anything but it's nice when the person you count on most can be a cheerleader instead of someone that tempts you to indulge.

    Thank you so much for that! Yes, I will have to talk to him. Last year when I did Jenny Craig, we had that talk and the effects of it lasted all for about a month. I think I will just have to keep re-iterating that I am changing my lifestyle and not that he has to do it with me, but there are things he could do for me to increase my success.

    Exactly! Maybe if you explain why this is important to you he will start being an asset/encouragement, and you (and I) will probably have to keep reminding them.
  • jesmith86
    jesmith86 Posts: 46
    Support at home makes a huge difference. I'm not saying that my husband had shoved food in my mouth, but when its his turn to cook, it's take out most days. We also fight A LOT about how much I go to the gym, (I used to go in the mornings while he was still asleep! 5am!) but yet that is not good enough, he said I spend too much time there and not enough time at the house....all while he is playing World of Warcraft! I hate video/computer games, I see it as a waste. I generally don't eat "his" food, I have changed that behaviour, but the gym (which I love going to) and playing netball is a huge issue with us. Especially since he told me he would leave me if I got fat....Yes, he said that (he tried to make it into a joke) but even then, if that is what he thinks, then why doesn't he help????? I personally think its because of his insecurities, as he always asks me about my personal trainer, calling him my boyfriend etc.

    So yes, support at home makes a huge difference! Especially when you are constantly arguing about it! You are not alone! :)

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