okay I'm totally insulted ugh!

ali106

O-M-G!!! you guys I can't even tell you how I feel right now...like all misty eyed and refueled up!!!....wow!!! overwhelmed w/ it actually!!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH:flowerforyou:

I am so glad I came here w/ this because knowing my track record for being totally subconscious and defensive I'm sure even though I would have packed that comment down deep, it would have come up again in other ways...like pigging out on brownies or chips mumbling to myself one night when I felt low......well screw it obviously its not working anyway...LOL...sigh....sad but true!

But NOW...omg NOW...I feel like I have this army of positive friends with me encouraging me and helping me see that how I felt was valid and that "he" was basically not thinking and rude, and I need to LET IT GO! and I will...guys I really will...lol....hearing what you all said it seems silly to let things like this bother us...but we do, old habits die hard I guess....:ohwell: but its all a big learning experience and lifestyle change right?!

Well wow...thanks again and I only hope that I can one day make you all feel as great and strong as you all made me feel....group hug! lol
the-more-confident-let-it-roll-off-your-back-or-give-it-right-back-to-em!
Ali

auntkaren

I can't believe your husband didn't say something to him. Men:grumble: Well hubby has grown comfortable with you, as marriages should so no he probably isn't understanding what your wanting to change your health . That guy was an Idiot!!! Like to see what men would look like after carrying a baby for 9months, the weight gain, stretch marks, hips get wider. Guess the book Woman from Venus and Men from Mars still hold true:happy: Just brush him off your shoulders your doing great , sometimes that old:devil: likes to stick his ugly head up , but you have got God on your side and all of us here at MFP:drinker:

jenbar

Last night while laying in bed, I was lifting my leg and telling my husband to feel the muscle on my hip and side of my butt (b/c I'm proud of what's happening to me legs) and do you know what he said!...
"You're ruining my butt" (he was talking about MY butt) and he likes to "squish it" before he goes to bed. I said, "Ruining it?!!! I'm making it better and harder!"
Apparently he likes it squishy, but I don't, so I don't care what he says!
(and I really don't think it will ever NOT be squishy!) just more toned!

charny164

Congrats to you for not sticking the celery right up his nose! Not an expert on men by anymeans but being together with my hubby for a few years and having his friends around just tells me that sometimes when men (ok not only men but for this instance, men) don't always think before they talk. Its like it skips the brain and just spews out the mouth.
I'm sure he didn't mean to be insensitive or rude or anything.
We are all trying to lose weight to be healthy. The reality is that most of us are losing weight to look better as well. There is nothing wrong with that. Who doesn't want to hear a car horn honk at our nice butts as we're walking or have someone ask for your number or the best.....catching someone second glancing at you. We are human and we want to look good. Why else do we pick out our clothes, fix our hair, paint finger and toe nails and wear make up. Its not like we see it - everyone else does though.

ali106

lol oh no aunt karen...my hubby has no idea this happened....he'd either tell me, "babe, you're still hot to me and that's all that matters!" lol which is very sweet!!! OR he'd want to kick his butt LOL...either way...I just figured it was best not to mention it to him lol

and OMG jbaranello lol! how cute is that....awwww guys can be sooo sweet!!!

thanks again everyone!!!! and its so funny....every time I see this dude today in the office I've got this smug smirk on my face cuz i feel like...ha....everyone thinks your a peice of work pal! lol....tee hee!

he's known for his snide remarks and trying to give a dig to be funny....so I think the verdict is out on his intentions for my lovely comment....either way...who cares....I love this place! lol

hugs!
Ali

sgtinvincible

You look great and what do you expect your a mom now!?!


:indifferent: ....What!?!?!

Ok, ok, I don't want to echo the husband thing, (even though I did) so I will make comment in a different manner...

This reminds me of a few months back, I started dating this girl, and we happened to go by my house for a few minutes. As she was sitting there she started flipping through a photo album I had there, and she came across this pic of me a few years (and pounds) ago. Now granted, this pic of me was when I was TOTALLY in my prime, but she completely lost it. She was practically making love to the picture, she was like 'OMG!!! This is you!?! I can't believe it!?! You were so freakin HOT!!!' I was like, 'thanks! 'Then she was like, 'What happened!?!' :indifferent:

Let the motivation roll!

Anyway, she ended up taking that picture with her, I am concerned for its fate.

I know how you feel Ali, but take solace in knowing that you are taking steps to recover the old you. Also take solace in knowing that you have a guy that loves you no matter what (and that counts for a lot honestly).

I also have to admit, that I would trade six pack abs, a toned chest, and muscular arms (oh and a cute butt, but I still have that, teehee... :noway: ) for children of my own. You are blessed Ali, no matter what some old jerk thinks!!!

*this two cents provided courtesy of the letter, K, S, and the number 7*

Oh. and just so you know, I do think you look beautiful, you're hubby is a lucky fellow. (and maybe you should listen to him, he's actually right!) :happy:

-Jeremy

abbychelle07

Anyway, she ended up taking that picture with her, I am concerned for its fate.

This girl seems a little weird! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

ali106

lol...I agree! I bet your sad that one got away huh jeremy! lmbo....phew we call that a close call w/ a nut job boy!!!

lol thanks though for the kind words too,:flowerforyou: and I do feel blessed w/ this beautiful boy of mine ....even when he's giving his momma more gray hairs by showing how high up the tree he can climb or even when he thinks its funny to hide...like a ninja and have me calling his name and looking everywhere w/ frieght on my face and then pop out to laugh at poor o' momma saying "oooo here I am!" lmbo...

the o' jerk can't take that away from me! lol

hugs you guys are the best!!!
Ali

slimsuccess

I was looking at your pictures. You look like you are beautiful. You are still hot. Try not to let that comment get you down. You already have to battle with wanting to eat and let go, don't let a comment be another obstacle. I hope you understand what I mean. Do this for yourself, not for comments, or approvals, they will come in time.

ali106

thanks so much slimsuccess yes I do know what you mean and you're right!!! I don't know about hot or beautiful but thanks girl!!! lol you're sweet!!!

hugs and I'm glad I have you all on my side!!!
Ali

fatsis

As a perspective from a guy, I have no clue where this guy was going with this. I would have
never ever said such a thing. I beg you not to let this incident slow your progress one bit. You have worked too hard (whether it is 1 week or 1 year) to let someones stupid comment send you in a tailspin.

I challenge you to take that comment and let it motivate you. Get mad and punish a treadmill
or exercise vid. When you reach your goal seek this person out and tell him his comment
motivated you. He will feel like crap.

ali106

Thanks!!! lol I actually like that idea...when I'm at my goal I just might do that!!! lol

hugs!
Ali

jakspak

use it as a motivation i am

a guy my husband works with said to him (when i started at the gym 1 yr ago) "oh how long will that last " si said she is determand and when she sets her mind to it she does it you dont want to mess with my wife lol

1 yr later and 22lb down i think i have proven to him this is a life change not a fad so i say stick it too him and do it for you and your family.

beep

Hey, guys, note it's not her husband who said that. It was some other insensitive guy. Oh, that we could all take back some of the things that come out of our mouths before we even have a chance to figure out what we've said.

How such a little thing can cause so much harm..... mmm mmm mmm

fatsis

I have to admitt I gave this some thought last night and realized no I could of said that. I would have
been trying to complement but instead it would have been harmfull.

You see ladies, a lot of times, us men in our brains have this thought and by the time it reaches our
lips it is "foot in mouth city." I am a firm believer that you women have a filter that stops the dumbness
from reaching your mouth.

I also think this is why most mouth breathers are men because we do not have this filter and our
mouths can never close after so many thoughts.

Nich0le

Some people, especially men, think they can say anything they want about a womans body and we are just supposed to shut up and take it, most of them will say they were only joking but sometimes they need to be told those words stung!

If he is a good friend tell him that you would really appreciate him keeping comments like that to himself and that you are working hard to regain your healthier body! You have to make sure that you are not making any comments about yourself that would make those around you feel like you are comfortable with the "joking" about your pre baby body too.

This isn't an easy process, of course we all want our pre baby bods back, luckily you have a husband that understands your body will change and he doesn't mind! Just keep up the hard work and you will get the results you want and then this guy will have nothing stupid to say again!