Too embarrassed to exercise

lizstyles2013

My hubby likes to laugh at me when I try and exercise to a dvd which really puts me off. Does anyone else out there have a hubby that doesn't think before he acts?? I end up getting upset and putting the dvds away never to be used again but its something that i think i would really enjoy doing just minus the laughter from him.

YearsWorthOfFAT

Let him laugh, he won't be laughing when you look hot as hell.

Arranna1212

Yea, let him laugh and then tell him to not get pissed off when other men hit on you because of your rockin' body.

ME0172

Yeah. Just talk to him. Let him know he makes you feel self conscious and embarassed and ask him to go to another room while you're exercising. I had the same talk with my husband and he felt bad for making me feel that way and now cooperates. Hopefully it isn't his intent and will understand when you ask him to stop. Don't let it discourage you, please! Keep going, even if you have to do it in a room with the door closed. Good luck!

momc4sons

Try to do it when he's not around. He probably doesn't realize he's being a jerk and hurting your feelings…but do it for YOU! It will make you feel better.

kethra

^^ What she said.

You probably need to let your husband know that he's hurting your feelings by laughing at you and your efforts to improve your health.

It's extremely immature of him. I'd expect it from strangers at a gym - which I've personally experienced ... jerks - but not your husband.

wilsoje74

Who cares if he laughs??? No one looks perfect and at least you are exercising.

mg_89

Let him laugh, he won't be laughing when you look hot as hell.

What ^^^ said.

Shame on him for being ridiculous. Ask him to go into another room or somewhere else. Exercise when he's asleep. Or just ignore him. You have to be committed to your goals..

Good luck!

llabruce4

We are guys, of course we don't think before we act. If he knew it made you feel that way, I am sure he would stop

sarainiowa

Let him laugh. Let him laugh himself to tears. It's his problem, not yours.

Get out those DVD's and do the ones you want. It's your body and only you can reach your goals. Don't let anyone stop you from being the best person you can possibly be.

If you don't want to do a DVD in front of him. Then take a laptop or other device in another room and do a workout. If that's not possible, do workout when he's not home to laugh. TRUST ME, he won't be laughing when you're looking great and healthy because other people will notice. He will have to admit that your determination and hard work paid off.

Get out those DVD's and have a great time.

beckizzle

Lock the door

JONZ64

Let him laugh, he won't be laughing when you look hot as hell.

THIS

annie61702

1. Tell him it bothers you. If he keeps doing it, he's a jerk.
2. Do it when he's not around if possible.
3. Laugh like hell when he realizes that you are fit, healthy, and hot...and getting a lot of attention from other men.

kristarablue2

Option 1...Have a serious, constructive talk to him, let him know how you feel and what you would like for support.

Option 2... Go walking instead of workout DVD's

Option 3... If available do the DVD's when he is not around

Option 4 .. Kick him in the balls every time he laughs (opps....sorry that was not constructive, can't help it, just came out)

Ok seriously, try having a talk with him, in saying that some will never be supportive and you can't control him not being supportive or making fun of you, but what you can control is how you react and think about what is going on. He could be laughing for a myriad of reasons that he can not fully explain to you or admit to himself. Could be he has not seen someone do DVD's and he giggles, that might not last long. Could be it is making him uncomfortable because often when we want to make a change in our lives our loved ones get really nervous because they don't know what is coming up. Think about it, when someone does something out of their normal routine, there is a reason typically. Maybe he is insecure about that, but the more you do it, the more it will become routine and he won't even think about it. It won't be funny, it will just be a thing. As for now you allowed him to control your actions by his making fun of you. I am not saying this is a bad thing, we all do that in some way or the other, but I want you to think about that for a moment. Are you going to let anyone else control you bettering yourself or not, choice is really your's.

benlambrou

I am one not to laugh but my wife does get embarassed if i am around. She ended up finding aerobic classes at community centers and at our local high school to go to. She has done all types of classes ranging from water aerobics to zumba trying new things till she found what she liked and the classes where cheap, like $3 a class. She ended up meeting a lot of new people with the same goals.

determinedbutlazy

I don't let anyone see me work out. I even run at night for minimal contact with others. Just find a way to do it alone.

darrensurrey

You haven't seen me run.

How I think I look when I run:


How I probably look:

Lauren4974

I'm VERY self conscious as well which is why I don't exercise if ANYONE is around. My kids, my husband, anyone. When I do work out I try to do it on my lunch break from work since I don't live to far away from my work. I just go home on the days I don't have to run to get the kids from school. That way no one is around to see me work out. My husband is very supportive, but I don't like anyone seeing me work out.

TX_Rhon

Let him laugh, he won't be laughing when you look hot as hell.

THIS

+1. Let him laugh! Tell him how you feel. If he continues, laugh at him next time he's naked. But not an outright laugh, do the subtle snicker thing. You got this!! This is your change. Husband or not - do not let him in the way! :flowerforyou:

Lauren4974

Option 4 .. Kick him in the balls every time he laughs (opps....sorry that was not constructive, can't help it, just came out)

Might not be constructive but it does sound like a good option. Once or twice of that I doubt he still be laughing when she worked out. He'd steer clear of her workout sessions!

benefiting

Let him laugh, he won't be laughing when you look hot as hell.

This.

benefiting

Let him laugh, he won't be laughing when you look hot as hell.

THIS

+1. Let him laugh! Tell him how you feel. If he continues, laugh at him next time he's naked. But not an outright laugh, do the subtle snicker thing. You got this!! This is your change. Husband or not - do not let him in the way! :flowerforyou:

LOL!

And threaten him with a divorce for being so disrespectful!

Thatsdatdiva601

Well mines don't laugh but he try to sabotage my weight loss because he don't want me to lose weight. I don't let anyone know just how bad my health has gotten but if he knew I'm sure he wouldn't try to temp me with fast food. I'm sure your hubby wouldn't laugh if you told him it hurts your feeling.

icu814me2

I would never do that. It's hurtful, immature and shows lack of respect. Kick him in the nads.

snbouchard81

Ouch that is the meanest thing I have heard of. Sorry.

Can you workout when he is not there? Or in another room?

PecanWaffle

Two words come to mind: Insensitive *kitten*.

In my opinion, ANY person working to better themselves deserves respect, especially from people who sit on their arses.

lizstyles2013

Thankyou to everyone for your support. I have spoken to him about it and he didn't realise that it was upsetting me and has promised that he will be a bit more mindful in the future. If not I will take on board some of these great suggestions as to kicking him in the balls lol

amycuz14

I'm glad you were able to talk to him about it! I'm sure if I ever saw myself working out, I'd think I looked somewhat goofy too (the post with the runners in this thread, priceless and totally me!). However, I'll take looking goofy working out if I can look healthy the rest of the day The fact that you were able to have a good conversation with him and he understands how you feel is great!!!!