Loosing weigh is depressing
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I second what the one poster said about "being overweight is even more depressing".
My life also revolved around food and which restaurant I was going to next but you have to look at the big picture and how great you'll feel once u reach your goal weight... retrain your mind and find foods that you can eat tons of(salads,veggies and such)
Going to restaurants can still be fun but just pick the right foods.
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It is depressing to me due to so much of our social life is around food.
It is very hard to go to dinner and not eat the wrong foods. Also the time frame of going out.
I do not eat after 5:30, going out is is always after my cut off time.
I made my goal almost 2 years ago and my weight is up 20 pounds now. I only want to loose 10, I got way to skinny.
It is very hard!
I eat out all the time and have lost 93 lbs in a little more than 8 months. I don't quite understand why you have a food "cut off" time, but it's not necessary at all. As long as you eat at a deficit, timing really doesn't matter.
When I know we're going out (usually 2-3 times a week), I look at the menu, select what I'm going to eat and then pre-log the calories. Then I just have to make the rest of my day fit so I stay within my calorie goal. I don't find this method depressing in the least, but I do find it empowering and it clearly works for me.0 -
I TOO FIND IT DEPRESSING BUT BEING OVERWEIGHT IS TOO, I REALLY NEED TO GET ON TRACK WITH MY DIET BUT FOOD IS A PROP FOR ME, ANY TIPS WOULD BE SO WELCOME, GOOD LUCK TO EVERYONE ELSE AND WELL DONE IF YOU ARE MANAGING TO LOSE SOME WEIGHT0
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Be sure the weight loss and the depression are related. (probably are)..Deal with them as two seperate issues non the less.
If you are hungry revisit the calorie goal you have set. Trying to lose to fast may be too restrictive an intake for you.
You only have one friend here and a closed diary. Add some people who can incourage you daily. Learn from them by sharing information that will help them guide you. Snoop through open public diaries. See how others do this. Exercise is very good for the mind as well as the body. Give it a little more value and step it up with something that makes you happy (being yelled at by jillian micheals on a dvd or youtube video may not be it lol) but there are lots of free workouts on the net that only require body weight movement. Buy a workout outfit that makes you feel like you are REALLY doing this.
Be patient it all takes time and is well worth it in the longrun. Its a lifelong marathon. Lighten up and enjoy the view.
best of luck ~ always open to new friends
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For me the trick is keeping the hunger low. Not just "behaving". If i'm hungry I can't think. If i can't think I can't plan out my meals ahead and remember to take my vitamins and drink all the water I'm supposed to.
For me that means very little sugar. Very low sodium. No booze (my vice).
If i've gone off the wagon, takes me about 3 days of doing the above and my hunger really reduces overall.0 -
1. Learn the correct way to set your your calorie goals, and how to eat in a way that is healthy and fulfilling. Start here: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1175494-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants
2. Rather than focusing on losing weight, set strength goals. Lift a certain amount of weight, do a certain number of push ups, or squats, and try to work towards beating that goal. Set speed, distance, or time goals with cardio. Walk/run/whatever faster, longer and further each time. Compete against yourself. Get better on those things, mind your eating, and weight loss will happen on it's own, while you can feel good about yourself for being better than you were the day/week before.0 -
Actually, once you start having results based on your effort, it is exhilarating and gets easier. I found that the first couple weeks are an adjustment. You have to learn new foods, eating patterns, change old habits to new habits and you have to resist that tummy grumbling telling you to snack. After about that first 2 weeks, for me, things start to click in and when you start to see success, things begin to roll. You will have days when you make a bad choice but don't worry, just get past it and do better the next day. The calorie counter is a great help as you learn what it "costs" to eat certain foods and how to adjust your intake to feel good and stay within the plan. Good luck. It does work. Add me if you like. :flowerforyou:0
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Go to youtube and watch videos of fit people exercising. This helps motivate me to get to that point. I also hit my bike right after I get my son on the bus, and just the 'high' I feel afterwards gets me through the day!0
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this.Actually, once you start having results based on your effort, it is exhilarating and gets easier. I found that the first couple weeks are an adjustment. You have to learn new foods, eating patterns, change old habits to new habits and you have to resist that tummy grumbling telling you to snack. After about that first 2 weeks, for me, things start to click in and when you start to see success, things begin to roll. You will have days when you make a bad choice but don't worry, just get past it and do better the next day. The calorie counter is a great help as you learn what it "costs" to eat certain foods and how to adjust your intake to feel good and stay within the plan. Good luck. It does work. Add me if you like. :flowerforyou:
nothing worth doing is going to be easy. If you really want it then you'll muscle through. as someone who started and stopped more times than I can count, I look back and think what pitiful excuses I had. I also learned that I don't have to be perfect..it's ok to slip as long as I pick up again.0 -
I agree that, at times, religiously counting calories and pre-planning my meals is a total boner. What keeps me going is a) the results I've seen and b) I give myself a break from the counting every once in a while so I can still enjoy food without worrying how many calories I'm going over my limit. Granted, I don't completely pig out (though I did eat about a pound of frosting a few weeks ago on my birthday- but it was my birthday, screw it!) but I don't sweat it. Just keep your head up and once you start seeing pounds come off, it will be less depressing!0
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Awwwe. It doesn't have to be...try and look at it differently. I do understand though. I lost my best friend..her name was Milk Chocolate. I just keep up my after picture and try and keep my eyes on the prize...a carrot today for a pair of blue jeans tomorrow?? Hug... 0
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that was inspiring thank you! 0
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Awwwe. It doesn't have to be...try and look at it differently. I do understand though. I lost my best friend..her name was Milk Chocolate. I just keep up my after picture and try and keep my eyes on the prize...a carrot today for a pair of blue jeans tomorrow?? Hug...
fancy You talking about carrot. did Ya'll know 500g of baby carrots equals a 50g chocolate bar? :flowerforyou: and it takes 20 times as long to eat it
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YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Losing weight is VERY difficult for some people, and things that work for some people, won't for others. It is also difficult to change bad eating habits, especially if you have had them for most of your life, as I have. I'm used to wanting something and eating it, not considering or caring how bad it is for me. Then when I look in the mirror or step on the scale, it smacks me in the face.
I am also new to MFP. Some people are very supportive and encouraging while others can seem brutally honest and even abrasive. Take what advise you think YOU can use and apply and just ignore the rest! LOL Start with small steps....for me its lowering my caloric intake a bit and excercising a bit more. I park further away at work or when at a store, I take the stairs when I can and drink lots of water through the day which also makes me walk more....to the bathroom! haha Starting out small makes it easier to apply those changes. And it is also easier to accept and move past any mistakes. Slowly work yourself up to bigger goals, when you see that you can accomplish them. Then you will start to feel better about yourself and your progress!
Losing weight takes hard work and lots and lots of patience! I am still working on that too! Hopefully we both can find something to motivate us to do better and to feel better about ourselves. For me, the weight comes off very slowly and can come on very fast! It's not fair but its how my body works so I need to make the necessary changes to get where I want to be!
Good Luck and hope being on here helps break that depression a bit! :flowerforyou:0 -
Awwwe. It doesn't have to be...try and look at it differently. I do understand though. I lost my best friend..her name was Milk Chocolate. I just keep up my after picture and try and keep my eyes on the prize...a carrot today for a pair of blue jeans tomorrow?? Hug...
Yes, I lost my best friend also, white wine. I visit her every now and then but she is far away most of the time. A short visit is best and then it makes me realize how special she is in small doses pre-planned!!!!0 -
YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Losing weight is VERY difficult for some people, and things that work for some people, won't for others. It is also difficult to change bad eating habits, especially if you have had them for most of your life, as I have. I'm used to wanting something and eating it, not considering or caring how bad it is for me. Then when I look in the mirror or step on the scale, it smacks me in the face.
I am also new to MFP. Some people are very supportive and encouraging while others can seem brutally honest and even abrasive. Take what advise you think YOU can use and apply and just ignore the rest! LOL Start with small steps....for me its lowering my caloric intake a bit and excercising a bit more. I park further away at work or when at a store, I take the stairs when I can and drink lots of water through the day which also makes me walk more....to the bathroom! haha Starting out small makes it easier to apply those changes. And it is also easier to accept and move past any mistakes. Slowly work yourself up to bigger goals, when you see that you can accomplish them. Then you will start to feel better about yourself and your progress!
Losing weight takes hard work and lots and lots of patience! I am still working on that too! Hopefully we both can find something to motivate us to do better and to feel better about ourselves. For me, the weight comes off very slowly and can come on very fast! It's not fair but its how my body works so I need to make the necessary changes to get where I want to be!
Good Luck and hope being on here helps break that depression a bit! :flowerforyou:
this is so true.. people will always take sides on what you do or don't do... at the end of the day is your body and your decision.. take the advice and figure out what works for you.0 -
I find it exciting and I love it, I think I was depressed before. I think of all the things I couldn't do before, the places I couldn't shop, the clothes I couldn't wear not to mention the years I've added to my life! I look at the people on here with 100+ loses and think how hard that would be to have to get off and the time they must have put into it, it's inspiring, you can do this!!!!!:flowerforyou:0
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I'm 48, have the same issue. I find dieting/ new way of life sooo frustrating and also depressing. I've had a weight problem for many years, I loose heaps, feel great for short period of time before I start gaining a little, next thing I know I'm back to where I started ... Am I out of control ... Possibly. Am I unusual ... No. I know what to do, what to cut out, exercise blah blah blah .. Does that stop me being in this predicament. Do I enjoy being fat? Definitely No.
You've got to change your mindset and attitude, that changes you make are forever. It may take longer to lose but it'll be so much better! Slow and steady wins the race. Decide on a one or two things a month you will change; for example, do you drink pop/soda, can you reduce your intake if you can't cut it out completely? If you normally have a can everyday, can you reduce it to every other day for a week, and if you can the next week, have it only 3 times, slowly wean yourself off of these things if you can't go cold turkey. This is what I've done for the past 10 months, slowly weaning myself off of things like fast food and junk food. I also eating more nutritious and filling food. Replace certain snacks with better ways, maybe start off with replacing fried chips with baked ones or getting low fat frozen ice cream or frozen yogurt instead of the regular kind. Look for ways to make changes and make a plan. It may not always be easy, but I am proof that it works!! It took me a good 9 months before I stopped eating fast food all the time, now I can pass up the places without even thinking about it, except to think how glad I am that I stuck it out! It is worth it. It does take dedication, determination, self control and discipline but you can do it and you will thank yourself! Feel free to ask any questions. =D0 -
I am in the same boat. 47 and had lost weight to where i was feeling great. Then life and the bad habits of eating tasty food started again. Now again find myself trying to loose 35 pounds, But not depressed about it. It is a total life change and a conscious effort to know eating better and exercise makes your life happier and more fulfilling!!!!!!0
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I found losing weight to be the exact opposite, also weight loss is easy if you dedicate yourself to following the calorie goals accurately.0
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I've never been happier since starting to lose weight! Feeling sexier, more confident, happy about myself, feeling fit and healthy and full of good foods. I'm sure when the first few pounds drop off you will feel better 0
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Weight loss mode can cause depression, irritably, anxiousness, etc, but in the end it's worth it, i'm enjoying the new me, I get to eat as much as anyone my weight would, the pleasure of being light and flexiable, maintaining is fun, no more waiting for the needle on the scale to drop anyone, being the exact same weight as yesterday and the day before, is all the pleasure I need to see!0
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Set up small obtainable goals for yourself. To more you achieve the easier it becomes and you can build some momentum to keep going. Also try setting up a positive reinforcement system. For example, when I have massive calorie burn days I'll allow myself to eat whatever I want (ummm, ice cream). Some people put a quarter in a jar for every good decision they make and buy a nice thing for themselves when the jar is full. Or you could make a list of things you want on post-it notes and put them in a jar and pull on out every time you reach a goal. I buy myself something for major milestones, every 30 lbs I lose. That kept me motivated in the beginning.
I found it a little depressing in the beginning because I had my calories set too low and my weight loss goals too high so I was setting myself up for failure. So hopefully you don't do that. Read the welcome information, it is worth it.
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I totally understand your frustration, I have been there, and I am sure I will be there again. It's all how you handle it. Getting depressed and feeling hopeless is not uncommon, but it is not helpful, and will often effect your results. I have found that focusing on something other than losing weight really helps me. The goals I set are diet related "I am going to track every day" "I am going to eat all my fruits and veggies" "I am going to stay in my calorie goals" "I want to create a 200 calorie deficit 5 days a week" whatever it is, setting short attainable goals really helps me from getting depressed and or overwhelmed by the big picture. I was weighed at a dr. appointment, used that as my start weight, and didn't get weighed gain until I went to the dr. office two months later. For me I focus on my strength (setting lifting goals) and inches for the month. I pick three goals a month, for example this month was to up my bench by 10lbs, do 1000 burpees, and lose 5inches. I hit that goal already, so next month I will be a little more aggressive in my goal setting. Set attainable goals, it will boost your confidence. You can do this!0
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Let's just say, I understand. Okay, that's said, now for the how it relates to me and how I'm getting over it.
Yes, losing weight can be depressing. But did you ever stop and think, perhaps it's because of depression that you have gotten to the weight you're at? I know that my dealing with symptoms of depression has a lot to do with getting me to the weight I'm at including the close to 40 lbs I've now lost.
How am I doing it? Well, I'm logging in what I eat, and I'm analyzing how I feel. If I see a correlation between eating a specific food and emotions, well then I determine if it's a trigger food (either a trigger as in I eat more because it calms a specific feeling or it triggers a specific feeling). If I cannot control myself with the food, then I cannot that food anymore until I can figure out how to combat the "trigger". Chocolate is that way for me so I have to buy a very limited supply or improve myself mentally so that I don't crave it as much. That's just my example, for others it may be different.
The other thing I'm doing (mainly because I'm anti-drug whenever medically possible) is exercise. The depression symptoms are temporarily "cured" due to exercise (mainly cardio but honestly lifting helps too). The more I become an emotional exerciser (rather than emotional eater), the less symptoms I have and the less frequently I have them..
The rest of this is that with weight loss, you're saying good-bye and good-byes are depressing no matter how good they are for you. I suggest you mourn your "old friend" (be it food portions you used to eat, the overweight you, the struggles you've faced in the past, etc) and after you've said your good-byes to your "old friend", start getting yourself excited about the "new friend" you're meeting (the new you, the new relationship with food, the new relationship with exercise). You will meet this "new friend" if you continue on the journey and push through the depressing aspects of it. And let me tell you, that "new friend" is so worth it!!!!
Feel free to add me.0 -
The only time I find it depressing is when the thought of binging goes through my head. "Oh it's okay, you can just eat this and do well tomorrow." LOLNO. The rest of it is fine.0
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I find my weight loss efforts and my weight loss energize me and motivate me. I find that over-eating and being obese makes me feel like a failure and can make me depressed. Friend request me if you would like; we can motivate each other towards success. Good luck with your journey : )0
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I had decided I could live with my weight, if it didn't bother me then I didn't care what others thought. I enjoyed eating. I had already cut out coke etc years ago, ate very little processed foods or fast food and watched my sodium intake. But i loved carbs, like potatoes, bread, pasta etc. Ate little sweets and no sugar in my coffee..
But then i went for my physical and blood tests confimed I was a diabetic. (Was pre-diabetic for years). That alone started my motivation. I went low carb (but not drastically) and started changing my eating habits. I mean, big time. I was hungry for a couple of weeks, but pushed my way through it. I normally drink a good low carb/ low calories smoothie every morning. Because of this, I'm eating more veggies that I ever have in my life. I know I'm low on my calories that a lot of people think I should be, but I'm not longer hungry. When I'm full I stop. But that also leaves me with some extra carbs and calories if I do get hungry and can have a good snack.
My blood glucose numbers now look good and I've lost over 20 lbs since the day after Christmas. My clothes no longer fit so now I get to buy new ones. That is also a motivator for me. I look better than I have in years. Still have a long ways to go but I know I'll make it. Having knee surgery in April so I want to lose as much as possible before t hen to help with my rehab..
You have to find what makes you want to lose wieght. If you don't want to then it will never happen and be successful long term. Yes, you will have some hunger pains but they will go away. Always have a good snack handy. Be sure the diet is something that will work for you. Fad diets are very short term.
And set low goals initially. I've set my goals at one weight but that is not my final goal. It just makes me feel better to reach a smaller goal and not feel like it is impossible to reach. Once that goal is reached then set another one. At least that works for me.
Do I miss my potatoes, bread etc? Sure I do. But my health and looking good has more benefits than the short term fix of carbs. And do it for you and not anyone else, because you matter.
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