crying right now cause I feel like a cow :'( y am I trying

crazyferretperson

keep on trying you will lose weight in time just dont give up on your self you will do it :drinker: and i now how you feel im 18 too and i look in the mirror and hate what i see but i never give up and one day you will look in the mirror and see that you are beautiful in your own way

MireyGal76

Been exercising and dieting...but havent lost any weight im female. 18 weight 167lbs took a shower and looked at myself in themirror I feel horrible.only been dieting for a week dont expect to much change but I feel depressed. Supposed to go out to dinner with my b.f and his family but I feel like crap. Help.

*Hugs*

I understand the feelings of despair. It's not easy to expect something and not have it happen when you want it so very badly. There are many people here who can relate to you!

There are also many of us who would like to help however we can, but we need more information...

Things like:
height
weight
goal weight
current exercise habits (what kind, frequency, duration)
current eating habits
are you logging your food? If so, consider opening your diary so we can see what it's like and if there are any ways you can tweak it.
are you eating back some or all of your exercise calories?

GOOD NEWS THOUGH!!!

You are young - only 18. You are at a great point in your life where you can set healthy eating habits, and healthy exercise habits. You aren't in school where physical exercise was mandated... this is your challenge now, and it's totally doable, but it can seem daunting at first.

You are here. And there are lots of people here who truly care enough to help you - if you are willing to accept help. And if you can be patient with the process and trust us.

*more hugs*

update:
OP has made other posts... based on those...
Height: 5'3"
Weight 160-170 lbs
Goal weight 120 - 130lbs
Current exercise habits: unknown, but indicated intention was to add 1 hour cardio/day
Current eating habits: 1000 max, with historical eating disorders

OP
A number of people have told you that 1000 calories a day is too low, and you have said you don't think you can give that up.
A number of people have recommended you seek help both from a physician and a nutritionist to help you with your perceptions toward food.

These people are wise. Trust them.


PLEASE:
- start eating more. I am 6'0", so I have no idea what is good for someone who is 5'3, but I have a number of ladies on my FL around that height who are very successful in their weight loss and they are ranging from 1500 - 1700 calories a day (some eat way more than that)

- if you need to count calories and control your intake, set it to 1500 cals and control to THAT level.

- eat back at least half of your exercise calories. ALL of them, if you refuse to eat 1500 cals.

- be patient

You can do this.

rosevalleygirl23

Please be gentle with yourself. I would recommend that you go slow and steady for a good amount of time. Say 3 months? And then re-examine your goals, your tools, and your progress.

I was overweight at your age and often gave up lots of times because I wanted fast results. I've come to learn that fast results are either 1. unsustainable or 2. not realistic. Either way, it leads to a fail. And here I am, age 46 and I think I finally figured it out!

Changes in habits take time to stick, so give it a chance and don't get discouraged.

Trechechus

Everybody has been there. I know really fit people who look in the mirror and think terrible things about themselves. Just remember that this process is slow and that you are doing this to be healthy. You will get through this and you will see results if you stick to it.

Go have dinner. Have a good time and make sure you set reasonable goals for yourself.

You got dis!!

redheaddee

Been exercising and dieting...but havent lost any weight im female. 18 weight 167lbs took a shower and looked at myself in themirror I feel horrible.only been dieting for a week dont expect to much change but I feel depressed. Supposed to go out to dinner with my b.f and his family but I feel like crap. Help.

*Hugs*

I understand the feelings of despair. It's not easy to expect something and not have it happen when you want it so very badly. There are many people here who can relate to you!

There are also many of us who would like to help however we can, but we need more information...

Things like:
height
weight
goal weight
current exercise habits (what kind, frequency, duration)
current eating habits
are you logging your food? If so, consider opening your diary so we can see what it's like and if there are any ways you can tweak it.
are you eating back some or all of your exercise calories?

GOOD NEWS THOUGH!!!

You are young - only 18. You are at a great point in your life where you can set healthy eating habits, and healthy exercise habits. You aren't in school where physical exercise was mandated... this is your challenge now, and it's totally doable, but it can seem daunting at first.

You are here. And there are lots of people here who truly care enough to help you - if you are willing to accept help. And if you can be patient with the process and trust us.

*more hugs*

update:
OP has made other posts... based on those...
Height: 5'3"
Weight 160-170 lbs
Goal weight 120 - 130lbs
Current exercise habits: unknown, but indicated intention was to add 1 hour cardio/day
Current eating habits: 1000 max, with historical eating disorders

OP
A number of people have told you that 1000 calories a day is too low, and you have said you don't think you can give that up.
A number of people have recommended you seek help both from a physician and a nutritionist to help you with your perceptions toward food.

These people are wise. Trust them.


PLEASE:
- start eating more. I am 6'0", so I have no idea what is good for someone who is 5'3, but I have a number of ladies on my FL around that height who are very successful in their weight loss and they are ranging from 1500 - 1700 calories a day (some eat way more than that)

- if you need to count calories and control your intake, set it to 1500 cals and control to THAT level.

- eat back at least half of your exercise calories. ALL of them, if you refuse to eat 1500 cals.

- be patient

You can do this.

Times infinity. This chick knows her stuff. Seriously. The only thing I could possibly add is that the hardest part is often our mental health, our inner voice, that little b!tch in our heads that tells us we are unworthy.

STOP LISTENING TO HER. SHE KNOWS NOTHING.

When you start hearing the negative voices, verbally talk back. Tell it to shut up. Tell it to go away. It is a basic cognitive-behavioral therapy concept. Over time, the b!tch will become smaller, and your superhero will start to take over. This takes practice and time. And it is not easy. But it is not impossible.

Mojoman02

Did you gain it overnight? So....you won't lose it overnight. I have to tell myself that ALL the time! Hang in there girl!!

bookworm_847

Relax, it wont happen over night, you did not put it on overnight. Keep doing what you are doing.

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants?hl=guide+to+sexy+pants

Check that out.

Seconded.

Be patient, be consistent, and be your own cheerleader. Saying you feel like a cow and wondering why you're trying are not positive thoughts. You can definitely, do this... if you have doubts, check out the Success Stories section on the message board, and you'll see that it is possible.

Don't give up, and prove that negative voice in your head wrong. Good luck! :flowerforyou: