Husband wont listen to a word I say

workout_ninja

My hubby came home from the gym again to tell me he is putting on weight. He has went up 10lbs in a couple of months. He seems to think that it is because he is building muscle but I know what he does in the gym and he isn't lifting heavy enough, or often enough to really make that much of a difference (he goes to the gym twice a week).

Now here I am, 60lbs lighter than I was last year because I calorie count and exercise much more often and he refuses to listen that it might be his portion control. Ive seen what he eats and I do rough calculations on occasion and try to jolt him into realising that he is eating waay more calories than he thinks (he eats share size tubs of yoghurt thinking its healthy but its over 500 calories).

I got so fed up tonight and told him if he doesn't want to listen to me, that's fine but it shows that he clearly has no respect for the efforts I make and if he wants to believe that he is gaining muscle, then stop moaning to me about it.

I genuinely want to help him but I guess you cant help someone who wont listen.

Sorry for the rant.

MityMax96

Health, exercise and diet is a personal decision.

You can't force it on anyone......

Just do what you do and let him go about his business....if he wishes for help, he will ask....
But even then tread lightly.....cause they will ask for help, but they don't really want to hear what needs to be done.

Orion782

Men like nothing less than to be chided by their significant others/wives/girlfriends. If you think this is motivating him in any way, I'm quite certain you are wrong.

Offer your help and do it as gently and loving as you possibly can. If he accepts, great...and keep it sweet. If he rejects, then you tried. Give him some time to "work it out" on his own and then you can offer again when/if the time is right.

Ladies on here may think I'm crazy, but pretty much any male on here will tell you I'm right. Men don't want you to fix their problems, they want you to be a sounding board to listen. We are ego driven, and often times need validation (verbal/physical/etc) from our partners when we face obstacles or setbacks. We are too darn stubborn usually to ask for help, but when it gets bad enough, we will.

Stand down.