Very Sad this morning

harass33
harass33 Posts: 12 Member
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I apologize in advance for this post.

I am sad.....my dad was the only one in my family that picked up the phone and called me to wish me a happy birthday yesterday. The other people in my family either forgot or they texted me or FB me.....that is so......LAME! What happened to people not being so damn lazy? I really missed hearing from my mom to. This was my first birthday without her.
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  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    That sucks, especially since FB gives birthday reminders. Happy belated birthday! :smile:
  • joolywooly33
    joolywooly33 Posts: 421 Member
    So sorry...at least you have your dad!!

    Unfortunately I think this says allot about modern society and social media has so much to answer for. Close you FB account and see how many 'friends' you still have then. I personally don't do FB for this very reason...
  • editorgrrl
    editorgrrl Posts: 7,060 Member
    Happy birthday!
  • Lonestar5775
    Lonestar5775 Posts: 740 Member
    No need to apologize for being human. I'm sorry your birthday wasn't acknowledged by most of your family. People seem to be talented at disappointing each other at times. Happy birthday from me! :flowerforyou:
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  • lambchoplewis1
    lambchoplewis1 Posts: 156 Member
    I am in same boat. My husband sent me an e-card as I think he forgot until the actual day.
  • Dragonslayer183
    Dragonslayer183 Posts: 70 Member
    Ummm... Happy birthday!

    Don't worry, they'll realize what they did eventually and come around. Why won't you call them and be like, "I had a good day yesterday, how bout you?" They'll hopefully realize they missed something. My family is the same way, loving but forgetful. :wink:
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    A couple years back everyone forgot my birthday, gf, daughter, family, everyone. Best thing to do is just roll with it. On your birthday you want some attention and a little recognition to feel good about yourself, well if you can't get that from the people in your life get it yourself.

    Go eat something you love, see your favorite movie, buy yourself something you really want...

    You don't need anyone else to make you happy.

    Oh, and happy birthday. See? I almost forgot too. :flowerforyou:

    Also, maybe she will get even better gifts due to the forgotten birthday guilt! :smile:
  • pwittek10
    pwittek10 Posts: 723 Member
    I am sorry you are hurt but
    Happy Birthday wishes on facebook,, to me, is the same as getting a card.
    It shows that they are thinking of you.
    Be Thankful for that.
  • christa279
    christa279 Posts: 222 Member
    Happy belated birthday! I'm sorry you were so sad on your day!

    A few years ago, everyone but my husband forgot my birthday. It hit me really hard because my family has always been so big on birthdays. Since, they haven't forgotten but I only get texts and FB messages wishing me a "happy bday". Sadly, I think this is just where our world is moving. People are to "busy" to slow down and appreciate the things that they once did.
  • laurie04427
    laurie04427 Posts: 421 Member
    Sorry to hear that. I can identify. I don't know if it's the generation (my parents are in their late 60s-70s) but they are always hesitant to call in general because they think they are interrupting/intruding. They will send a card a few days before my birthday. I'll call to thank them but no actual call comes on my birthday. I know I should be grateful of the card but yeah a little attention on the day is nice (i'm spoiled).

    Anyway happy birthday! What's that expression?: Treat yourself like a queen because no one else is going to. Treat yourself today.
  • V0lver
    V0lver Posts: 915 Member
    Happy birthday!! Cheer up, go out and have a blast!
  • Mmwebb2011
    Mmwebb2011 Posts: 1
    Happy Birthday to you. Happy Birthday to you. Happy Birthday dear harass33. Happy Birthday to you. That is me singing to you. Trust me, you would NOT want to meet me and have me sing to you in person. Hope today is a better day for you. I know how hard it is to have life events without your mom.
  • Happy_Austinite
    Happy_Austinite Posts: 10
    Good morning, and Happy Birthday! Your sadness is completely understandable, especially given the loss of your mother. I lost my parents when I was in my teens, so I've had many birthdays without them, and I know that these annual events can be reminders of loved ones lost. I can only tell you from my experience that grief does ease up over time, and your special events and holidays can brighten up eventually.

    But your loss is so recent, that I think your feelings are valid and your family members could have gone the extra mile and called you. I won't rant about Facebook here ( I've never used it and I won't), but I will agree it's not the same as a call. Sorry your feeling were hurt. It's good that you can open up here and express how you feel.

    Best wishes to you.
  • FemmeFatale83
    FemmeFatale83 Posts: 96
    I'm so sorry! But it sounds like your dad really loves you:) Maybe you should do something special for yourself?? Happy Belated Birthday, I really hope today brightens up for you!!!
  • novauser
    novauser Posts: 47 Member
    I apologize in advance for this post.

    I am sad.....my dad was the only one in my family that picked up the phone and called me to wish me a happy birthday yesterday. The other people in my family either forgot or they texted me or FB me.....that is so......LAME! What happened to people not being so damn lazy? I really missed hearing from my mom to. This was my first birthday without her.

    I had the exact same experience January this year. Only my father called and sang lol.brother and sister sent text...this was my first year without my mom too. She died feb 12, 2013....on her birthday...suddenly.....sucks huge.
  • 1pandabear
    1pandabear Posts: 336 Member
    Sorry that you lost your mom. No matter how old we get, there is no replacing her.
  • Rafter88
    Rafter88 Posts: 63
    Happy Birthday :smile:
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    Happy birthday! =)
  • joyceb444
    joyceb444 Posts: 12
    Happy Birthday! :)
  • 1LoveChips
    1LoveChips Posts: 260 Member
    Happy Belated! I don't make a fuss or even publish my DOB on social media... my family do call me, but as long as I have my wife and doggies with me on my birthday I'm happy!
  • MayaSPapaya
    MayaSPapaya Posts: 735 Member
    I'm so sorry that happened to you-in my opinion it's ok if acquaintances text or facebook happy birthday, but family or close friends should pick up the phone. Happy Birthday from me! :flowerforyou:
  • AbigailWins
    AbigailWins Posts: 42
    Aww that sucks I am sorry.

    Happy Birthday from me and I want you to buy yourself something super nice.

    If it doesn't come from them let it come from you!
  • threefancy
    threefancy Posts: 93 Member
    My family only celebrates birthdays for the kids. My birthday doesn't get acknowledged often, but it is not a big deal to me.
  • craftywitch_63
    craftywitch_63 Posts: 829 Member
    Sorry it's late but:

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    Since my divorce, I've learned to give myself birthday/Christmas, etc. gifts. My kids wish me Happy Birthday but they're all raising kids, etc (read "broke").

    Be nice to yourself. Go to the movies, get a massage, buy yourself nice gift(s). Just think: You get what you want, it's the right size/amount/color and won't have to be returned or re-gifted.

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  • Curleycue0314
    Curleycue0314 Posts: 245 Member
    Happy Belated Birthday!!!!

    I TOTALLY get it. 2 years ago when I turned 30, I planned a great night out, invited all my friends and Family, and the only people who cared enough to be there was my Husband, one of my Husbands closest friends (who is like an older brother to me) and two of my husbands gay friends. Not one of my friends of family showed up! Totally hurtful!

    I hope you still made a great day of it!
  • ProgressNotPerfection32
    ProgressNotPerfection32 Posts: 1,155 Member
    Happy birthday. That really sucks. Mine was last week and we did the family thing, since grandma and I share the day. The one person I WANTED to hear from was my dad. We have had our issues since Christmas and being mean and stubborn, he completely ignored the day.


    Hope you were able to make the best of it.
  • Burstingintolife
    Burstingintolife Posts: 11 Member
    *hugs, hugs and more birthday hugs* Sorry you are feeling down. :/ I hope hugs help a little. When I turned 30, I knew nobody was going to do something for me. It's just how my family is. So I decided to create my own special activity/achievement for that day. And you know what? It was awesome. I rocked it. It sucked that my family was the way they are (and have always been), but it was awesome that I kept rooting for me too. :) You can do things like: run a marathon, hang glide, plan a beach trip with friends, hike a mountain, take an astronomy class. The sky is really the limit as far as birthday celebrations go! And guess what? Just because the day has passed now, that doesn't mean you can't STILL celebrate. Just think on the good times and remember the sweet birthdays you had with your mother and cherish those. Think of what a blessing it was to have those moments and create your own birthday memories with those memories in your heart. <3 (AND, if you feel like it, send your siblings/friends a nasty "thanks for the non-birthday wishes" card) ;) j/k on that last part.
  • elisa123gal
    elisa123gal Posts: 4,332 Member
    Happy Birthday. Make this year about you making new friends ..and don't go out of your way to do anything special for those who did nothing for your birthday .

    Many times..it is the person who throws parties, buys the cake..and is thoughtful that gets the shaft because of their "good nature."
  • FitnFeistyLyness
    FitnFeistyLyness Posts: 757 Member
    im sorry about your mom.. i lost my dad its hard.

    happy birthday!:flowerforyou:

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