Who is your favorite?

Wondergirll

I referred to one of my kids as "my favorite." My friend seemed to get offended by that and said parents should love their kids equally. I do love both the same, but the younger one is more like me, so he's my favorite. Growing up you always heard people say they were a "daddy's girl" or "momma's boy." So kids are allowed to pick their favorites as well.

Thoughts? Do you have a favorite?

WickedPineapple

As the youngest of five, I will tell you favoritism leads to resentment, both against the parent(s) and other sibling(s). I understand your reasoning, but still, I would keep this information to yourself. Never ever say anything of the sort in front of either kid or to anyone that might pass it along to them.

Chief_Rocka

To be completely honest, I could do without either one of them. The oldest one talks too much and the youngest is too damn needy.

frangrann

I have 3 kids (20,18,13) and I prefer each one at various times. haha.....oh the drama!
They are all different with different personalities and I have something in common with each of them!

JnK619

I tell what ever one I'm talking to that the other is my favorite (I have to teenage boys) they don't care as long as I'm feeding them or giving them some gas $

JnK619

To be completely honest, I could do without either one of them. The oldest one talks too much and the youngest is too damn needy.

Haha, nice!

BlueBombers

I love my two boys equally. They both drive me insane.

JoanneC1216

I have one of each, never had a favorite. I do have a favorite cat

jlapey

I only have one so obviously, she's my favorite. It will be interesting to see if I have a favorite grandchild. My grandson just turned two and his little sister is due in May.

SugarBaby71

I tell mine "You're my favorite. Shhh! Don't tell the others." when they're all in the same room.

I do actually get along better with one than the others in general, but to be honest, I love them equally. I don't always LIKE them. I try very hard to not be obvious. My sister was the clear favorite of my dad, my bro of my mom... I felt like I might have been adopted. I never want my kids to feel like that.

jlshea

To be completely honest, I could do without either one of them. The oldest one talks too much and the youngest is too damn needy.

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UsedToBeHusky

Admittedly, the relationship between me and the oldest is very different from me and the youngest.The relationship with the oldest is very easy because she is a lot like me. Whereas, with my youngest, the relationship is more challenging because she has special needs.

Because one relationship is easier than the other, it would appear to be favoritism. But I have worked very hard to show the youngest that I love her just as much as her sister in spite of the difficulty. I've also had to reassure the oldest that just because I sometimes have to give her sister more attention (because of her special needs) that does not mean that I prefer her.

You have to be very careful with declarations of favoritism between your children. I promise you, they will never forget it, and someone will always take it personally and hold it against the other, possibly for the rest of their lives.

UsedToBeHusky

To be completely honest, I could do without either one of them. The oldest one talks too much and the youngest is too damn needy.

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Hi Rock!

Don't act like you aren't crazy about those boys!!

ItsCasey

Kids always know, anyway. My brother was CLEARLY my dad's favorite. My dad did not want girls. He wanted two boys. The second boy ended up being my sister and me (we're twins). I would not say my mom necessarily had a favorite, but she is definitely closest with my sister.

Sinisterly

I will hang myself if I ever pick favorites. Will love them equally, like them equally.

brewji

I will hang myself if I ever pick favorites. Will love them equally, like them equally.

Ditto

wolverine66

My son is my favorite.










he's also the only one...so... it does stand to reason.

SCV34

I have a boy(21) and a girl(16) they are both my favorites

I can't imagine it any other way.

Ex mil had a favorite and it wasn't my daughter. She made it known too who she favored.

askeates

I have a 22 yo daughter, a 19 yo son, and an almost 2 yo daughter.... each one of them is VERY different, and because of this I think there are certainly behaviors I prefer in each one of them... but I do NOT have a favorite overall.

The 22 year old is very dramatic and this sometimes drives me completely insane! But she is the most loving and giving young lady that I have ever met (yes I know I'm biased).

My son is very forceful, which I think is good at times, but man it causes lots of issues because he will dig his feet in and not let go of something even if he really should. But then he is a total softie.... For a 19 yo young man to voluntarily take care of his 2 yo baby sister, and just loves her, and takes pride in her accomplishments almost as much as I do.... That is very special.

My 2 yo daughter.... well her personality, wow.... she is stubborn, but amazingly intelligent. She dotes on her big sister and big brother. When they walk into a room she lights up! And her smile is infectious for each of us.

Then I look at the relationship of my oldest 2.... it really isn't often that a parent can say (from a relatively young age) that her children are best friends. Thye talk every single day, either by phone, text or facetime..... When they are together, you can tell they have their own language.... one will start a sentence and the other will finish, and you have no idea WTH they are even talking about! It's just amazing to watch.

WendyTerry420

To be completely honest, I could do without either one of them. The oldest one talks too much and the youngest is too damn needy.

^^ This :laugh:

Hi, Rock!

WendyTerry420

Seriously, both my kids think I *favor* the other one.

coolraul07

Seriously, both my kids think I *favor* the other one.