Is BYOB acceptable?

sillyvalentine
sillyvalentine Posts: 460 Member
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I want to throw a birthday party for my husband but I don't want to spend hundreds of dollars on booze. Is it socially acceptable to say BYOB on the invite? I don't want to show bad manners since we would be inviting his co workers and probably his foreman as well as friends and family. I also don't want to appear too poor. We already live in a trailer! LOL.

I'm thinking it wouldn't be too bad since it will be a big party with about 15 - 25 people coming and going. I am providing appetizers and snacks and pop.

What do you guys think? What would you think if you got an invite to a birthday party that was BYOB?
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  • rowlandsw
    rowlandsw Posts: 1,166 Member
    I don't see why not. It's also a good idea so they can't blame you for over serving them and them getting drunk. Make sure to let them know if they look too drunk and don't have a driver they lose their keys til morning.
  • brewji
    brewji Posts: 752 Member
    I'd be totally happy with that.

    So long as there's a fridge for the beer / booze, everyone can bring something and all have fun.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    I wouldn't mind, others may find it tacky. Perhaps get a pony keg and tell people they can bring what they want outside of that?
  • sillyvalentine
    sillyvalentine Posts: 460 Member
    I don't see why not. It's also a good idea so they can't blame you for over serving them and them getting drunk. Make sure to let them know if they look too drunk and don't have a driver they lose their keys til morning.

    Well, we live in a small town about 45 minutes away from where most of these people live so a lot of them will be staying over anyways or sleeping in their cars when the house fills up lol
  • KoopaSix
    KoopaSix Posts: 252 Member
    My thing is I'm already feeding your *kitten*...im not getting you drunk too. Maybe im just cheap like that..idk
  • sillyvalentine
    sillyvalentine Posts: 460 Member
    I wouldn't mind, others may find it tacky. Perhaps get a pony keg and tell people they can bring what they want outside of that?

    That's a great idea! I wonder how much a keg costs?
  • sillyvalentine
    sillyvalentine Posts: 460 Member
    My thing is I'm already feeding your *kitten*...im not getting you drunk too. Maybe im just cheap like that..idk

    Haha. I'm cheap too but I still want to impress people.
  • lisalsd1
    lisalsd1 Posts: 1,519 Member
    I don't see anything wrong with BYOB especially if you aren't really drinkers.

    However...I did find out it is bad manners to bring a couple of bottles of wine to a dinner party, and take the unopened bottles of wine back home with you. I got deleted from a few people's FB over that little faux pas.
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    impress them with your snacks/apps

    no one should complain about having to bring their own booze to a party
  • KoopaSix
    KoopaSix Posts: 252 Member
    I don't see anything wrong with BYOB especially if you aren't really drinkers.

    However...I did find out it is bad manners to bring a couple of bottles of wine to a dinner party, and take the unopened bottles of wine back home with you. I got deleted from a few people's FB over that little faux pas.

    thats crazy
  • NatiaGonitellie
    NatiaGonitellie Posts: 355 Member
    There is absolutely nothing wrong with BYOB.
    My BF's sister did that for her house warming / Christmas party, when the shindig was over they had a fridge full of champagne and several bottles of wine. (that wasn't the intention, just how it worked out)
    She said the party was a great success, and every one was happy to bring their own.

    She did have one very sloshed guest who ended up spending the night. That individual was determined not to leave any of her drink behind.
  • sillyvalentine
    sillyvalentine Posts: 460 Member
    I don't see anything wrong with BYOB especially if you aren't really drinkers.

    However...I did find out it is bad manners to bring a couple of bottles of wine to a dinner party, and take the unopened bottles of wine back home with you. I got deleted from a few people's FB over that little faux pas.

    thats crazy

    I agree! I always take my unopened booze home. I guess I'm bad mannered.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    I wouldn't mind, others may find it tacky. Perhaps get a pony keg and tell people they can bring what they want outside of that?

    That's a great idea! I wonder how much a keg costs?

    Under 100.
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    That seems fine to me. I can't imagine going to a party without bringing some time of booze anyway. If I get invited over to someone's house to play poker, I bring whiskey or beer. If I get invited over for cocktails, I bring wine. About the only events to which I don't bring drinks are those for which my company or a client sponsors and are not at someone else's house.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    That seems fine to me. I can't imagine going to a party without bringing some time of booze anyway. If I get invited over to someone's house to play poker, I bring whiskey or beer. If I get invited over for cocktails, I bring wine. About the only events to which I don't bring drinks are those for which my company or a client sponsors and are not at someone else's house.

    Same here. For dinner I bring wine. For hanging out, beer or liquor.
  • MiloBloom83
    MiloBloom83 Posts: 2,724 Member
    That seems fine to me. I can't imagine going to a party without bringing some time of booze anyway. If I get invited over to someone's house to play poker, I bring whiskey or beer. If I get invited over for cocktails, I bring wine. About the only events to which I don't bring drinks are those for which my company or a client sponsors and are not at someone else's house.

    +2
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    That seems fine to me. I can't imagine going to a party without bringing some time of booze anyway. If I get invited over to someone's house to play poker, I bring whiskey or beer. If I get invited over for cocktails, I bring wine. About the only events to which I don't bring drinks are those for which my company or a client sponsors and are not at someone else's house.

    Same here. For dinner I bring wine. For hanging out, beer or liquor.

    Yep. Oh, and "some time" = "some type." I seem to be having keys issues this evening, as in my fingers are hitting the wrong ones . . .
  • vjohn04
    vjohn04 Posts: 2,276 Member
    BYOB is totally OK.

    Buy some Genesee or Genny Light for the community cooler for those that don't bring any.
  • sillyvalentine
    sillyvalentine Posts: 460 Member
    BYOB is totally OK.

    Buy some Genesee or Genny Light for the community cooler for those that don't bring any.

    I don't think we have that in Canada? Is that beer?

    I think I'm gonna get a keg.
  • babyj0
    babyj0 Posts: 531 Member
    BYOB is perfectly fine! I usually let everyone know to bring want the want. Besides, not everyone likes the same kind of booze. Some people won't drink beer, some people won't drink liquor. Look at it that way. :drinker:
  • Candi_land
    Candi_land Posts: 1,311 Member
    I think it's acceptable. I always do anyway whether it's required or not because I'm worried there won't be enough.
  • goldie21047
    goldie21047 Posts: 13 Member
    I wouldn't mind at all -- being invited to a BYOB. I sometimes pale at my own bar tab and certainly wouldn't want anyone else to have to support my habit. Not to mention that it's nearly impossible to provide something to please everyone -- what with the endless variety of martinis and microbrews.

    Funny thing is, that although I generally ask if I can bring anything else, i.e. food, I feel a bit imposed upon to have the request made at invitation -- as in "bring a dish to share." If, as host, one doesn't even want to provide food, why bother. BYOB, to me, is a different situation.

    My 2 cents.

    Cheers!:drinker:
  • HawkeyeTy
    HawkeyeTy Posts: 681 Member
    I don't see anything wrong with BYOB especially if you aren't really drinkers.

    However...I did find out it is bad manners to bring a couple of bottles of wine to a dinner party, and take the unopened bottles of wine back home with you. I got deleted from a few people's FB over that little faux pas.

    It's pretty tacky...
  • vjohn04
    vjohn04 Posts: 2,276 Member
    BYOB is totally OK.

    Buy some Genesee or Genny Light for the community cooler for those that don't bring any.

    I don't think we have that in Canada? Is that beer?

    I think I'm gonna get a keg.

    it's just really, really, cheap beer.
  • hmaddpear
    hmaddpear Posts: 610 Member
    In the UK it's generally accepted that the host provides food and mixers, the guests bring booze (and food if they want to, but it's not generally necessary...)

    Of course, the hosts also have booze to contribute usually, if you do this regularly - that's how you get rid of the last lot of booze that was left after the last party!
  • josavage
    josavage Posts: 472 Member
    I'm going to have to go against the crowd here and say no to the byob on the invite. If it were just your friends, byob is fine. But since you are inviting his coworkers and foreman, I would not put that on the invitation. You don't have to buy a lot of alcohol for the party. Most people will show up with a bottle of something or some beer so you will end up having plenty there. If people ask if they can bring something when they RSVP, you could always suggest they bring some type of alcohol. I think I'm older than you are though. I would probably feel differently if I were in my 20s.
  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    I don't think anyone I know would expect the booze NOT to be BYOB, totally acceptable IMO!

    offer some snacks and/or dinner!!
  • hbrittingham
    hbrittingham Posts: 2,518 Member
    I don't see anything wrong with BYOB especially if you aren't really drinkers.

    However...I did find out it is bad manners to bring a couple of bottles of wine to a dinner party, and take the unopened bottles of wine back home with you. I got deleted from a few people's FB over that little faux pas.

    It's pretty tacky...

    Yup, there's a difference between BYOB and a hostess gift. A dinner party calls for a hostess gift and you don't take it home with you. If it's BYOB, you take it home with you.
  • sunnyhlw77
    sunnyhlw77 Posts: 204 Member
    We always do BYOB. I know that we could drink off someone else, but I was raised to bring a bottle for the host, lol, usually by bottle meant it was a 26 of rye or vodka or a couple dozen beer, everyone shared off it, so it wasn't just the host who was pulling out. I think its perfectly acceptable.
  • lisalsd1
    lisalsd1 Posts: 1,519 Member
    I don't see anything wrong with BYOB especially if you aren't really drinkers.

    However...I did find out it is bad manners to bring a couple of bottles of wine to a dinner party, and take the unopened bottles of wine back home with you. I got deleted from a few people's FB over that little faux pas.

    It's pretty tacky...

    Yup, there's a difference between BYOB and a hostess gift. A dinner party calls for a hostess gift and you don't take it home with you. If it's BYOB, you take it home with you.

    Here's what is weird...I took like 4 bottles for about 6 people or 8 people- two bottles were opened...2 were not. So I took just one back, b/c it was something I had wanted to try and it didn't get opened. So I announced this...everyone seemed cool with it at the time. But apparently it was an issue.

    And as far as the host gift...I haven't thought of it that way, b/c the lady who invited us over...didn't cook a SINGLE thing. Everyone else brought the food, she just provided the space, which I thought was a little strange.

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