Loosing weight = Loosing friends

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Santasmincepie
Santasmincepie Posts: 32
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Or at the very least so called "friends".

Has anyone else noticed this? Or is it just me?

I was talking to another parent at the school when she said that she lost a lot of "friends" when she lost a lot of weight. It wasn't so much they had nothing more in common but more a case of, continuous cruel comments and back stabbing from people that were her friends over her weight and new lifestyle.

On the way home, I was thinking about this as it stuck in my mind and realised that the same thing is happening to me. A couple of people who I once considered friends are now being rude, nasty, judging towards me...it was picked up by another person few months ago who asked if there was an issue between us but I didn't think anything of it.

I know it's better to be rid of people like this as I don't have time for it. I'm just annoyed and let down I suppose. These people I'm talking about are in their 30's so are old enough to know better and should have left all this behind when they left school. I have major trust issues as it is and this isn't helping to be honest. I'm thinking it could be "jealousy" but that really can't be it as they should know they have nothing to be jealous about. Nothing at all.

So, has this happened to anyone else?
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  • HawkeyeTy
    HawkeyeTy Posts: 681 Member
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    My brain is about ready to explode.
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
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    Getting rid of loose and unnecessary baggage is good.
  • SugarBaby71
    SugarBaby71 Posts: 3,630 Member
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    Getting rid of loose and unnecessary baggage is good.

    This happened to me too... and Sin is right. :flowerforyou:
  • Mia_RagazzaTosta
    Mia_RagazzaTosta Posts: 4,885 Member
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    My friends are definitely loose.
  • Pertinacy
    Pertinacy Posts: 131
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    hi Jof
  • AmiCeresi
    AmiCeresi Posts: 11 Member
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    Fortunately, no. My best friend swears that I was never that big and that I need to stop being so hard on myself. Some of my biggest supporters on my fitness journey are the strong, beautiful women that I know. My friends, men and women alike, seem to appreciate me at any weight. If yours don't, they aren't real friends.
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
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    My friends are definitely loose.

    In for loose friends...
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
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    hi Jof

    *twitch*



    *twitch*



    (But seriously...

    ...in...

    ...for loose friends.)


    ETA: DAMMIT! That's one demerit for each of my friends who beat me to this in this thread.
  • Escloflowne
    Escloflowne Posts: 2,038 Member
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    My friends are definitely loose.

    In for loose friends...

    Hi Ladies!!

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  • _crafty_
    _crafty_ Posts: 1,682 Member
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    My friends are definitely loose.

    In for loose friends...

    +1
  • Mia_RagazzaTosta
    Mia_RagazzaTosta Posts: 4,885 Member
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    hi Jof

    *twitch*



    *twitch*



    (But seriously...

    ...in...

    ...for loose friends.)


    ETA: DAMMIT! That's one demerit for each of my friends who beat me to this in this thread.

    She shoots, she scores!
  • Mia_RagazzaTosta
    Mia_RagazzaTosta Posts: 4,885 Member
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    My friends are definitely loose.

    In for loose friends...

    Hi Ladies!!

    I.C.E. Cream Official Tester
    IKEA Professional Put Together-er
    Kickboxing Class Attender
    Been in fitness for about 2 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • SexKittenlovesitrough
    SexKittenlovesitrough Posts: 486
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    I don't know....i routinely hang around loose women and loose friends...

    I have lost a lot of weight though
  • sheenarama
    sheenarama Posts: 733 Member
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    My friends are definitely loose.

    In for loose friends...

    Hi Ladies!!

    I.C.E. Cream Official Tester
    IKEA Professional Put Together-er
    Kickboxing Class Attender
    Been in fitness for about 2 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

    Totally Legit!
  • MityMax96
    MityMax96 Posts: 5,778 Member
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    I get a lot of crap/insulting comments from people that "should love" me.....
    Because I am as strict as I am with my diet and what I eat.
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
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    Can I join the loose party?
  • sheenarama
    sheenarama Posts: 733 Member
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    There really should be grammar police around here.

    grammar-police.gif
  • Mia_RagazzaTosta
    Mia_RagazzaTosta Posts: 4,885 Member
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    Okay, serious answer:

    I haven't lost any friends because I lost weight. If anything, my friends are asking what I did to lose it (then they look at me like I have 3 heads when I say I lift and eat in moderation, but that's another story for another time). I have very few close friends; and that's the difference here. They love me and I love them no matter what. If my weight loss was a reason for them to want to sever our friendship, then deuces, I don't need them in my life anyway.
  • Mr_Bad_Example
    Mr_Bad_Example Posts: 2,403 Member
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    Sumtimes itz ok to loose friends. They can b dead wait.

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