Random Rant

olga5454

I am so frustrated with my mother! I recently finished grad school and after putting my health/fitness on the back burner for several years, I am finally attempting to get back into shape. For the past month I have been working out 6 days a week, some times for several hours a day. I have also been sticking to my calorie/ nutrition guidelines. Last night I stopped at my mother's for dinner. Did she say anything positive? No, instead she proceeds to ask me if I will lose "ANY" weight for my sister's wedding at the end of October. She then proceeds to "suggest" that I eat nothing but salads. WTF. Oh, and I forgot to mention that my sister used to have an eating disorder. You would think that my mom would stop to think a bit before critizing. Oh well!!!

cuddlesworth

ugh crazY!!! that does not sound healthy for you!! I am proud of you!! You are doing it for yourself anyway and no one else and that is the best way to feel and look better..I would say just ignore her

CeliaMoreno

Is your momma skinny? Sometimes naturally thin people have no understanding how difficult it is to loose weight. Or if she is heavy then she is worried about you making the same mistakes she did. Or sometimes people just have a way of putting their foot in their mouth without thinking. Whatever her issue is leave it with her. Surround yourself with people who are encouraging and stick to your plan. This is for you and not your sisters wedding or your mom. It will make YOU feel much better when you reach your goal, for YOUR health and well being. Meanwhile stay true to yourself and keep it up. YOU can do it. Just keep telling yourself YOU can. Don't let her frustrate you in your endeavors.

Edestiny7

If you are recording your eating on this site, you will definitely lose weight by the end of October. My fiance bought me a beautiful designer gown. But despite three fittings and it fitting like a glove each time, at the event one week later, it was slightly too big. It would be way too big now.

Take what your mom said with a grain of salt. You know what is right for you and you are doing what is right for you. Way to go!

blh_1010

Trust me when I finished my M.Ed. and I gained the "Evil Master's Twenty" I didn't think there was any chance of me losing it...and since July I have lost 16lbs. I still go out to eat, not as much, and I work out and try to take care of myself. I know how frustrating it can be, espeicially with family...they, as my family put it once, can't believe how big I had left myself get (umm thanks?). So now I am almost back to the point I was when I started my graduate work...it doesn't take long, especially on here...good luck! Keep it up, and prove her wrong but not doing what she says but what is healthy and right for you!

MTDork87

Ugh Moms. My mom has been nothing but negative my whole life about my weight. I can remember fights over bathing suits and jeans, crying in dressing rooms when she just sighed and rolled her eyes as I showed her different things I was trying on, words that I will never forget about how fat I am and how no one will take me seriously because of it. So when I started losing weight I have to admit it was sort of for her. I wanted to show her that I could be the daughter she wanted. So after losing the first 20 lbs, three weeks ago I went shopping with her. She was downright giddy as she skipped around the store trading my 8s in for 6s and sometimes 4s. But instead of making me happy, it made me sick. Why was she only happy for me for my weight loss? Why not be this happy when I graduated college, got my first professional gig, moved in with my boyfriend? I kind of realized that my mom will be my mom but it doesn't have to have any effect on me. I'm losing weight for ME now. So I can look and FEEL good. I wish that I had found this place sooner, this place of doing something for me, because it would have allowed me to celebrate my successes more and be proud of myself. You just got an advanced degree. You are taking steps towards making yourself not only look better, but BE healthier. Those are the important things. Those are fantastic accomplishments. You are doing an AMAZING job and you are doing it for YOU. Be proud! You deserve it!

sarahliftsUP

That makes me so angry, frustrated and sad for you. Obviously eating nothing but salads isn't healthy.

if you stay within your daily calorie intake you will definitely notice results.

Relatives are supposed to be supportive no matter what.. but sometimes family members are really cruel without knowing it.. or maybe they do know it but just don't care. Either way, you can always count on MFP peeps!