Combining email and FB accounts

tomomatic
tomomatic Posts: 1,794 Member
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I've known several people over the years that combined their FB and email accounts as soon as they got married. If you've done this, what's your rational?

Personally, I've got nothing to hide from my better half. I keep things separate and she can look through my stuff any time she likes. Combining email and FB accounts just isn't for me. It's like sharing toothbrushes. I just don't do it.

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  • darkrose20
    darkrose20 Posts: 1,139 Member
    That's not a good idea. One still deserves his/her privacy. Also, I'm not sure my other half would want to read the email from one of my female friends about her reproductive health...or other matters.

    Now when I say both parties deserve privacy, I don't mean as in keeping secrets. I mean as in if I received a letter addressed to me only, I wouldn't want my hubby to open and read it, but I would allow him to read it, if he asked to do so. I'd tell him the contents, if he was curious and that sort of thing. I guess what I'm getting at is the whole trust issue. Having separate accounts is fine, as long as you trust the other and are trustworthy.
  • Booksandbeaches
    Booksandbeaches Posts: 1,791 Member
    Wait..what..People share toothbrushes?! Gross...is there some toothbrush shortage in the Western world?
  • EddieHaskell97
    EddieHaskell97 Posts: 2,227 Member
    Why don't we combine LinkedIn while we're at it? Because for all of the above, we are separate people, that's why. If she wants to see what's in them, that's fine. But last I checked, I got married, I didn't get turned into some half-me, half-her monster.
  • Keto_T
    Keto_T Posts: 673 Member
    how do they order Christmas, birthday presents online without the other knowing what they're getting?
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    It irrationally bugs the **** out of me. Have your own identity and sense of self. I shouldn't care what anyone else does in their relationship. That's why it is an irrational annoyance.
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,064 Member
    No way :noway:
  • Deipneus
    Deipneus Posts: 1,861 Member
    I have one friend who has a combined Facebook account. it's weird because it has his name on it. I can't even imagine combining email accounts.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    It irrationally bugs the **** out of me. Have your own identity and sense of self. I shouldn't care what anyone else does in their relationship. That's why it is an irrational annoyance.

    One of my childhood friends and his wife have a shared FB account. The reason is because he was/is so computer illiterate that he wanted the combined account so he could tangentially participate in FB. That seems like a pretty valid reason.

    However, it still annoys me too. If they comment on anything, I don't know who is talking. One time I think i got into an argument with his wife when i thought it was him... i don't know.

    The whole thing reeks of mistrust.

    My wife and I had a shared email account that we used in planning our wedding and that was it. but i can't see anyone doing this long term
  • klyn7788
    klyn7788 Posts: 52 Member
    I love to say that my SO and I share a toothbrush. It really freaks people (and him) out. In reality, one of our Sonic Care brushes broke, and we are using the same one. With interchangeable heads, of course.

    Generally, combined email and FB accounts seem awful. Emailing rants about him to my best friend helps me determine if I'm overreacting before I cause a big fight. Usually, I'm overreacting and I wouldn't want him to see that.
  • rondaj05
    rondaj05 Posts: 497 Member
    I have a few friends with combined FB accounts too... I just don't understand it. And yes, at times they have to comment and say "this is from Bob" ... smh :huh:
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    for the record, I have used my wife's toothbrush in a pinch (and vice versa) but those are isolated incidents.
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    My aunt and uncle share an account but I think that's just because he's too old to care about Facebook.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    Yeah, just because I'm married doesn't mean everyone that sends me messages wants my husband to read them. I have friends that do this, and it is a barrier in the friendship that everything I send to my female friend gets read by their husband. And then in person the husband obviously responds in ways, showing he has read my e-mails.

    I don't even think it's good for the marriage. Do wives really want their husbands knowing all this personal stuff about their female friends.
  • bd0027
    bd0027 Posts: 1,053 Member
    We have young 20 something year old couples here that do that. Soooo annoying and looks sooo clingy. -__-
  • mxmkenney
    mxmkenney Posts: 486 Member
    I have a combined email account only because my hubby doesn't check his email often, so it is more to catch urgent messages than anything else. Neither one of us do FB, but if we did, we would probably do separate for things like that.
  • rowlandsw
    rowlandsw Posts: 1,166 Member
    Nope. We're going to keep them separate. Especially since i do all my holiday shopping online, don't want any one peaking.

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